PlumPudding Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Hey, I'm in desperate need of some help here. I'm a 19 year old girl who started dating my first boyfriend in college 9 months ago. Two days ago, he broke up with me. Now, I've had SO much fun with him over the past months. He was so fun to be with and we were best friends. The problem started over the summer, and when he broke up with me (on Facebook chat! That stings) he said it was mainly because of the distance between us over summer break. But that he's probably just focused on what was "troublesome" about me, like the fact that I might not fit his "dream life" of having children because I may be infertile and if not, I want to wait till I'M ready to have children . . okay this is way besides the point here. But I learned from one of his family members that a week before he broke up with me, he was crying because he still liked me so much as a girlfriend but knew he didn't want to marry me, and that it was so hard because I was his best friend and all. So . . . he told me he still needs me in his life as a friend, and when he broke up with me, I was fairly mean and defensive and upset . . . which is kind of a natural reaction, right? I sent him a message the next day asking "so you think we'd still be friends?" and he said "when you're ready, yes." I told him I'd be fine with it but he didn't answer. The thing is, he's been my best friend for so long, I'd still like to be his good friend and do things with him. Is there still a chance for our friendship? What can I do to help us ease back into a good friendship without seeming like I want him back as a boyfriend? I will have to see him everyday since we have the same major so I'd like to repair our friendship. And I'm super shy so he's basically one of my only friends on campus and I'd still like to hang with him, you know? Any advice?!
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