rynj Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I met this guy about 1.5 months ago. We attend the same college and he has never been in a relationship and he is also a virgin. We went out on a couple dates in about a 2 week span and one day he told me that he would rather us be friends because he felt, at the time, he did not have the same feelings for me as I did for him. So I quickly told him that I could not be friends with him and I wanted no contact with him. This made him extremely depressed and he would cry in front of me telling me he is sad that he wouldn’t see me again. I chatted with him on cam and he would cry also and he told me that he would call me in a month no matter what. Unfortunately, I did like the guy and he showing his emotions and crying got to me. Eventually this lead to friends with benefits situation (only oral). So since the time he said he didn’t have feelings for me like that; we have been hanging out more often and getting to know each more than when we went on “dates.” So it’s been about 3-4 weeks since he told me to just be friends and this past Saturday we made plans to hang out and watch a movie at the theaters. He texted me that day and said that he promised his friend (a girl) that they would hang out and if he could bring her along. I told him that if he promised her then they could just hang out and we could do it some other time, and he replied back with “No I want to hang out with you =)… her not so much.” So I meet up with them at the theaters, we all found the only empty seats in the very front. As the trailers started he grabbed my hand and held it. We held hands throughout the time in the theater. After the movie, his friend didn’t want to leave yet so we decided to go to the beach. I left my car at the mall and he drove and I sat in the back seat. He also texted me “sorry” implying that sorry his friend didn’t want to go yet. During the car ride and him driving he placed his right hand towards my direction in the back seat so that he could hold my hand. When we got to the beach and as we were walking he grabbed my hand so we were holding hands (I kind of felt bad for the friend) and he would grab my arms and put it around his waist. He texted me “Are you okay? You seem kind of distant” I just felt a bit awkward because his friend was there and we were holding hands/cuddling. We left the beach and dropped his friend off and he took me to this sport over looking the city. We cuddled, we had some cookies and we were feeding each other cookies and he also said “I have never felt so comfortable with anyone before.” We were there for about 1.5 hours and we left during the car ride we held hands and he would kiss my hand while he was holding it. When he finally dropped me back to my car we made out some more and hugged for a bit before I left his car. Finally, we started our cars and went our separate ways, but I noticed he stopped his car and re-parked it. I thought I had left something in his car so I parked next to him and rolled down my window and he came out of his car and came over to my car and he kissed me again and smiled before we both drove off. Since then he has been on a trip to visit his relatives out of state for a week. He’s been gone since Monday and hasn’t texted me and I was the one who texted him today just to see how he was. Eventually I texted that I was gonna let him go and he said “ok ill talk to you soon.” I don’t know if the things he showed me last time I saw him comes with being in a friends with benefits situation, as I have never been in one, but it felt nice. Though I cannot enjoy them because I have no idea what’s going on and I am too scared to ask if his feelings are starting to change. I know I can’t continue with him doing sweet things and me not being able to enjoy it. We have made plans to go camping and take a trip when he returns in a couple days. Would it be wise for me to see how things go in the next couple of weeks or should I just end it if its driving me crazy. THANKS EVERYONE I KNOW ITS RATHER LONG! But I wanted it to be thorough and looking forward to everyone’s feedback!
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