WIDESTI Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 So the past 3-4 months I have been dating this girl. We saw each other every day from Feb - April. and now she went on vacation with family for 3 months in the Philippines. we wanted to take things slow and not get into too much before she left, but we got really close, started holdin hands, callin each other "babe" n all that. While she was gone, things were good the first few weeks and just recently here are some of the things she tells me while shes away. Can you guys help me elaborate on what shes trying to say or give some advice on what to do?? (thank you in advance for taking the time, really this forum has helped more than once) "yeh and feel like the last 2 months were really fun but i think i moved too fast like how the timeline is with us i saw you everyday and now i dont get to see you" "i can see us being together when i feel that im ready and know you , but i don't want you to waste your time..i still want to hang out and have fun make memories but im don't think im ready for the responsibilities (of being my gf)" "i tried to give it time and see really how i felt and i know now that i cant handle being your gf when i get back...i cant give you a time. i have appreciated everything you have done, said showed me, i value your friendship and i don't want to lose you" "im not ending anything i just want to move slow, i repeat im not trying to end things with you..i just want to go slow"
bayouboi Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Paragraph #3 says it all to me. Whatever you said after paragraph #3 made her feel guilty so she sent you paragraph #4 for a little damage control. If you want more than "just friends" you're gonna have to ditch this broad.
tigressA Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Get rid of her. She's not worth any of your time; she's being a coward trying to get you to end things with these stupid hints about not being ready to be your girlfriend and other nonsense. I bet you any amount of money that for her, "taking it slow" with you means withholding physical affection and sucking you dry emotionally while banging some other guy on the side, trying to get him to commit. A lot of people do this and it's low. This world is now chock-full of cowards who can't say "I'm not interested in you anymore". Just end it and go no contact, period.
Author WIDESTI Posted July 9, 2010 Author Posted July 9, 2010 thanks, should i wait till she gets back and see wassup from there?
tigressA Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 NO. I don't think you fully understood my first post. You shouldn't bother with her anymore, period. She's yanking your string; don't put up with it any longer. Tell her it's over and go no contact, and find someone who's actually interested in having a relationship with you, because that girl definitely is not interested in having anything with you anymore, but she's being too much of a coward to tell you that straight up.
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