ALittleWorried Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I've been seeing her for the last 12 months. Since then, nothing between us has really been official even though we have been exclusive to one another. I know, it sounds weird, but she booked a trip overseas while she was single, after her ex of 5 years broke her heart. From day one she told me that she didn't want to start anything with anyone until she returned form this trip (she's going for 6 weeks). My feelings for her weren't that strong until a few months ago, nor were hers for me. I don't know how we let our relationship come this far but we did. She left today and I already miss her. If she fools around, I don't think I can take her back and she knows that. It's going to be hard going from seeing someone at least 4 times a week to not seeing them for 6 weeks. This is the third thread I've made about this situation and I don't know why. I guess that this place is like my little retreat. Somewhere where I can go to let it all out. I've been with quite a few girls in my time and I'm confident in saying that I can distinguish between the good and the bad. Her kissing (it sounds so high schoolish doesn't it?) randoms, I can deal with. Her sleeping with randoms, I don't think I could. Personally, I don't think she's that kind of girl and I would be completely shocked if she did... only time will tell. Pic related, it's us http://i287.photobucket.com/albums/ll123/SimonSays82/31285_1478198719631_1373646698_1249.jpg
Gero Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Well, they say "absence makes the heart grow fonder", so look at the good that could come out of this. It could actually bring you even closer together when she returns.
Viking Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Hey buddy, a little while ago I made a thread about my GF being gone for 2.5 weeks (less than half the time your GF is gone) and I thought I was going crazy for how much I missed her and how I felt like I was "obsessing" over her because she wasn't around. I started to feel needy and took her not contacting me very personally, because I am a very communicative person. What I found to be the best remedy of sorts was to hang out with friends who you haven't hung out with in a while and perhaps develop a hobby that will last even when she's back so you don't feel like you need her around to keep yourself occupied. I joined a gym and I can already tell after about a month that I'm doing well, and so can my GF. To corroborate what was said above me, distance does make the heart fonder. You might be worried that she's out there tearing it up with other guys, but you have to remember, you're the guy she chose and opened herself to, and that is something that can't happen in the "short" time she's gone. I was worried my GF would be kind of aloof and less than excited to see me, so I was the one who was out tearing it up. I met some exciting people and hung out with friends. When she got back and met up with me, she was all bubbly about how she hadn't seen me for so long and that she wanted to spend time with me. I am sure your GF will be the same. You've obviously had time to develop your relationships, and that is something that is of value to her and yourself. It is hard to look on the upside, but even if you have to tell yourself to do it, do it. It works, trust me.
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