Mark_philips Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Alright, this is the first time that I'm posting on here, and or any type of forum and any advice would be great. So I've met this girl a couple of months ago briefly through a friend, and that was our first contact with each other. So a month later we meet again and this time it was during a summer class that we enrolled into. So I started talking to her and things progressed well and we became friends in class. After class ended we usually spoke. We have many things in common and conversation never gets stale between us and she is one of the few people that can challenge me intellectually and stimulate my mind. She is very religious and I have found religion myself and we attend the same church. I have taken her out a couple of times since the latest being to golf and something to eat at a restaurant. We've gone for dinner, lunch and coffee, theater as well. I've also been to her house a couple of times and she made lunch for us and her room mate gave hints about how lucky I was for her to make lunch for me. I think some of her friends already have the vibe that I like her as well. So now you think where is the problem, well the problem is I can't maintain a proper relationship or have the right words to ask a girl for commitment. Why? It's because I have led girls on for years. After I ended a two year relationship I have slept around and avoided the words: "dating, commitment and relationship." I found this easier to fill the emotional void rather than commit to a single person as it gave me the freedom and not care for anybody else. Now that she has come into my life, I have a strong desire to be in a relationship again. I have to no second thoughts, guesses and regrets to this decision. So what I need help is I guess is overcoming the fear of being rejected. I have no idea what to say to ask her to go steady with me, and I second guess myself constantly about asking her out. I don't want to delay it any further as I believe this would be a good time. Any help ideas on how I would go about in asking her for a commitment or overcoming my fear of rejection? If you guys have any questions I'll be glad to provide additional information.
Diezel Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I think I missed the part where you two kissed, had sex... ANYTHING sexual. Are you two actually dating or are you good friends? And if you are dating... DON"T say anything, she'll eventually say something to you if she wants a commitment from you.
Author Mark_philips Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 I think I missed the part where you two kissed, had sex... ANYTHING sexual. Are you two actually dating or are you good friends? And if you are dating... DON"T say anything, she'll eventually say something to you if she wants a commitment from you. Nothing sexual, her religious views are to wait till marriage. So are you suggesting that I lead her on as the others without asking her for commitment?
Diezel Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 But have you two gone out on DATES? All I've seen is that you two have had friendly interactions. Does she KNOW you are interested in her as a "partner"? Side Note: I hate the religious "I want to wait til marriage" women. I respect religion, but that's a pretty heavy investment to make... to wait til marriage, but that's just me, I'm weird like that.
Author Mark_philips Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 But have you two gone out on DATES? All I've seen is that you two have had friendly interactions. Does she KNOW you are interested in her as a "partner"? Side Note: I hate the religious "I want to wait til marriage" women. I respect religion, but that's a pretty heavy investment to make... to wait til marriage, but that's just me, I'm weird like that. I'm pretty sure that she does as I send her the right signs. And yes I a pro at playing hintinese with them. I would have agreed with you on the religion aspect a couple of months ago. Now I just feel different about it. Define date for me or in what aspect you are using it, because I would say yes.
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