IceIceBaby Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 So I would love to get peoples opinions (especially from a guys perspective) on this situation my sister is in. She is 31 and met a guy online who is also 31. His career is one where he is away on a ship for 4 weeks and then home for 4 weeks, etc. When he's home he does not have to work at all since he basically is working all the time while he is away. When he is home they usually see each other once or twice a week. When he's gone sometimes days go by where she doesn't hear from him. He says it's because he only has access to a computer for about four hours...two he's working and two he's sleeping. The last month he was home she invited him to a friends picnic. He never really gave her an answer and then went out of state to see family. This last time he left for a month, he ended up leaving and they hadn't seen each for a week prior to that. Then she didn't hear from him much this last month he was away. Then he completely disappeared for a week. No response to her calls or emails, even after the day that he was supposed to be back home. When he finally texted her a week later his response was "I don't really know what to say." And then stated that he had been home for a few days and his sister was visiting. Apparently that was his reason for not talking to her for a week. So he finally calls her and she says she needs more from him. He agrees to work on it. Honestly I probably would have walked away a long time ago. Is it just me or is this guy making it very clear she is not a priority? I mean no one is too busy to write a five second text message. He doesn't act at all interested in her so why is he agreeing to continue to see her? Any thoughts here?
Diezel Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Obvious low interest. If she has put up with it for this long, it's her fault now.
Author IceIceBaby Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 Right? That's what I keep telling her. They've only been seeing each other for three months and she has to ask him to call more and to see her more? That's just not right.
D-Lish Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 He' simply not invested, it doesn't take an expert to see that. I hope your sis comes to her senses, but that's all on her unfortunately.
PeterP82 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 In my opinion I think he is lost interested in your sister. Your sister should walk away from this as soon as possible to prevent any further emotional damage. Probably easy said then done but the sooner the better. I'm usually really busy but it only take couple of seconds to send a quick message asking how their day is going or just let them know what you are doing.
tigressA Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 He's definitely not very interested at all. Like you said in your post, no one's too busy to send a quick message or something, if they're really that into you, they'll make time. Especially in his case--he doesn't work for weeks at a time and he still can't be bothered to return any of her contact efforts; that's low. As for why he continues to see her...well, they've probably been sleeping together. He's likely showing just enough interest to get her to keep giving it up since there's currently no one else on his radar. But once there is, he'll go completely AWOL.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 In reply to stated question, he's not interested. You can tell he's just using her company to fill up the little time he has when he's home and then most of the time he's off on a " cruise".
Daniel89 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Hes just bored and likes a little attention from her, cant see a strong relationship between him and your sister.
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