thundersauce Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 So Ive contacted my ex-girlfriend and we agreed to meet up and chat. I apologized for walking out and told her that I didnt think badly of the four years we had. She seemed to take it well. Im sure there are still some feelings she's hurt over but I still sense she cares about me (we're each other's first bf/gf). Id like her back and I want to keep her this time. I lost my job not too long ago due to a layoff and I felt I could not provide for her. We had an argrument prior, I got needy and desperate. I felt I wasnt ready but now that Ive gotten myself together, Id like one more chance. If its truly not meant to be, then nothing I do will work. Ill go live my life. But so far so good; she seemed happy after the ice was broken, we joked, I flirted and she laughed like old times. Im pretty sure shes dating and I have to be cool with it. There's a party that she's going to later this month. I have some work to do so Im not sure if I can show. However, she's most likely going with a "friend". Im wondering if I should crash the party at all and have a good time with my friends and her as well. I should go and get my work completed and live my life but I need to show I can BE THERE since Im the one who walked out; I should go and keep her thinking about me even when she's with her friend. Itd be her choice whom she chooses and I want her to be happy...however, Id like to try... Any takers?
Shakz Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 So Ive contacted my ex-girlfriend and we agreed to meet up and chat. I apologized for walking out and told her that I didnt think badly of the four years we had. She seemed to take it well. Im sure there are still some feelings she's hurt over but I still sense she cares about me (we're each other's first bf/gf). Id like her back and I want to keep her this time. I lost my job not too long ago due to a layoff and I felt I could not provide for her. We had an argrument prior, I got needy and desperate. I felt I wasnt ready but now that Ive gotten myself together, Id like one more chance. If its truly not meant to be, then nothing I do will work. Ill go live my life. But so far so good; she seemed happy after the ice was broken, we joked, I flirted and she laughed like old times. Im pretty sure shes dating and I have to be cool with it. There's a party that she's going to later this month. I have some work to do so Im not sure if I can show. However, she's most likely going with a "friend". Im wondering if I should crash the party at all and have a good time with my friends and her as well. I should go and get my work completed and live my life but I need to show I can BE THERE since Im the one who walked out; I should go and keep her thinking about me even when she's with her friend. Itd be her choice whom she chooses and I want her to be happy...however, Id like to try... Any takers? I don't know, TS, but I wouldn't go to the party just because she's going to be there. If you want to go to have fun that's one thing, but would you go if she wasn't going to attend? Or would you focus on your work? Those are the questions I'd ask myself. You say that you want to avoid appearing needy and desparate, but she might just take your showing up at the party as just that. Go if you want to enjoy the party, but stay home if you're only going in order to project yourself into her life. She's going with another guy, I assume? It would be rude to intrude. Compete for her, but play fair.
Author thundersauce Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Thats not a bad suggestion. Thanx. I would like to go have some fun though, its been awhile since I got out and just went ballistic with friends. Still debating. Hmm, any other opinions? Ill be reading up on "How to Get Your Lover Back" in the meantime once I pick it up from home.
ALombard Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Hey TS, Shakz is right if you are going to just show her you can be there I wouldn't go. It's kind of a rule of thumb that if your ex is dating someone else or with someone else to not show up at the places you know they will be, it doesn't look good and most of the time can potray you in a negative light. If you want to go out with friends just go somewhere else but if you really want to go I would show up early before her so she doesn't think you came to be the stalker ex.
Author thundersauce Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Thanx for the advice guys. We'll see what happens. We're lookin to meet up soon and hangout but we'll see, we're both pretty busy. However, today she posted on her blog that she had a awful work day. Im wondering if I should stick with NC or just go ahead and shoot a cheer up message. Suggestions?
Predator04 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Thanx for the advice guys. We'll see what happens. We're lookin to meet up soon and hangout but we'll see, we're both pretty busy. However, today she posted on her blog that she had a awful work day. Im wondering if I should stick with NC or just go ahead and shoot a cheer up message. Suggestions? Let it go. Simple answer!
Author thundersauce Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Any well thought-out suggestions?
HopeLove Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 If I understand this right you dumpe her and you are not sure if she is really dating someone or not. If it is so, than meet her like the last time, have some fun and then get serious and tell her you love her and would like to get back to her. This is a female point of view.
Author thundersauce Posted July 19, 2010 Author Posted July 19, 2010 Thanx HopeLove. I think that may be the best decision honestly. Im hanging onto a bunch of feelings and if she shoots me down, its all for the better. I guess to some degree, I kind of need closure if its not meant for us. We'll see on our meetup and Ill keep you guys posted.
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