Can LDR's work if you're never going to live near to each other?

[HeavenOrHell]

My partner does want us to live together eventually, I do too, although am a bit hesitant as it's early days for us, I find it hard to look ahead too much, especially as I (so did he) came out of a very long relaitonship a year ago (18 years for me), it's kind if made it hard for me to look ahead and to not feel cynical, but I'm working on it

But I know I don't want to move to a different country, I won't list all the reason here, long story short though-I've built up my life there but he feels he doesn't have a life there, he is a town person though and I'm in a very small town in the country.

What if neither of us wants to move?

Can LDR's work if there's never a chance of living near each other?

[madjac74]

Id say anything is possible. I think most LDR's have the goal of someday being together. However if you guys know that you wont and are both committed to it and understand the difficulties of an LDR could be forever then I think it could work. If you guys have the resources to travel and see each other regularly then I have no doubt it could work. Besides its always possible one of you will change their mind and move

[Enchanted Girl]

Anything is possible, but probably not.

 

I've been in an LDR the past five years. For the first three years, I actually handled the distance well. The last two years though, not so much. I can't stand it anymore and more likely than not, one of you will be driven crazy by it.

 

My boyfriend says he's going to move here in the next year, but I'm not sure I entirely believe him because he said that last year as well, but if he doesn't this time, I'm going to move there. It's going to be horrible and I'll have to give up a lot, but when the relationship is that deep and the person is worth it that much, you may be surprised by the things you are able to do and risk for them.

[JacquesA.LeFrancais]

Anything is possible, but probably not.

 

I've been in an LDR the past five years. For the first three years, I actually handled the distance well. The last two years though, not so much. I can't stand it anymore and more likely than not, one of you will be driven crazy by it.

 

My boyfriend says he's going to move here in the next year, but I'm not sure I entirely believe him because he said that last year as well, but if he doesn't this time, I'm going to move there. It's going to be horrible and I'll have to give up a lot, but when the relationship is that deep and the person is worth it that much, you may be surprised by the things you are able to do and risk for them.

 

 

I hear ya. I am moving in the next 6 months and it's hard to perceive. If she weren't special i wouldn't even entertain it. I don't believe without the 'end game' that any LDR will work.

[Rollercoasterr]

If neither of you plans to move, then no, I'd say it wont work out.

 

LDR's are hard, no one can deny that. Add to the mix the fact that it will ALWAYS be an LDR and you make it even harder. Afterall, what keeps most of us sane is working towards that end goal(moving closer to each other). When you don't have an end goal it's just going to get harder and harder on each of you. Not to mention the financial aspect!

 

Anything is possible, but I'm sorry to say this particular type of relationship has about a 98% chance of failure.