broken12 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 3.5 months post D-Dday. I still cry every day. My xWS is doing everything he should - transparency, remorse etc but I just feel sooo low. I am 45 and met xWS 5 years ago. At 40, it was a huge thing for me to give 110% of my soul, love and trust - I've never let myself be so open and vulnerable to anyone. Now, finding out that my faith in him was misplaced and that the man I adored was a fantasy, I am really struggling to get over it. I know it takes a long time, but is it normal to still feel so low after 3.5 months?
Daniel89 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I am sorry that your hurting, broken. From what you've said it shows how important the relationship was to you. You were obviously very naive when the relationship started, and this is a process we all have to go through in life. What always helped me was being able to laugh things off when I started crying, every time you feel sad, try to laugh.
Spark1111 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 3.5 months post D-Dday. I still cry every day. My xWS is doing everything he should - transparency, remorse etc but I just feel sooo low. I am 45 and met xWS 5 years ago. At 40, it was a huge thing for me to give 110% of my soul, love and trust - I've never let myself be so open and vulnerable to anyone. Now, finding out that my faith in him was misplaced and that the man I adored was a fantasy, I am really struggling to get over it. I know it takes a long time, but is it normal to still feel so low after 3.5 months? Yes, it is Broken. It's very similiar to Post Traumatic Syndrome....not eating, barely sleeping, crying and or raging. It's all normal. You may need anti-depressants. See your doctor. You may also need STD testing. Are you in IC (individual Counseling) and MC (Marriage Counseling)? You will need that too, to vent privately to your IC, and to affair-proof your marriage in MC. You will also go through the stages of shock, denial, anger, depression, and acceptance....eventually, but some days two or three of those stage may overlap. Start reading to understand infidelity. There are many wonderful web sites and literature. You will overcome this. You will grow stronger. But it is a process that cannot be rushed and everyone takes different times to overcome it. I wish you peace on your journey to healing.
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