Finally slept with girl I've been chasing for 1 yr..1 day later we aren't talking???

[moodoo]

Ok so this girl I've been chasing for a year had never slept with me. I went to meet her in Vegas this weekend, she was there with her friends for a few days and I came at the end of the trip. She stayed in my room last night we went shopping all day, great dinner, went clubbing with her friends and hit the strip club...awesome night. Anyways after dinner she tells me she's going to sleep with me tonight she isn't drunk or anything. After the club at 5 am we went to to the room and finally had sex and it was great she told me she was so attracted to me and had wanted this for so long. We did it in the bed in the shower and she was talking to me just fine. Today she wakes up to me waking her and we do it again. Then i sleep and 4 hours later wake up to a bomb. She's upset and tells me she had done cocaine last night and is neverdping it gain and that she slept with me bc she was soooo drunk and didn't know what was going on....but we had conversation all during sex and that's bs bc she was fine. She says to me she doesn't want to date me bc we have no spark....no spark, she just slept with me!!!! Anyways she changed her ticket and went home a day early now....i am crazy abt this girl but how can one sleep with someone if there's no spark and she only sees me as a friend only that's what she told me before she left!

[Diezel]

...stays in Vegas.

[fishtaco]

Pretty typical. She just wanted sex, but didn't want to appear like a slut. So she had to blame something else. It wasn't her, it was the cocaine, oh the humanity!

 

But anyway good job nailing her.

 

Just go with the flow. Don't be all eager with her again. You already nailed her the whole night. Spend your energy on other women. But don't react badly either. Just humor her and keep contact using minimal effort. Maybe one of these days she will "use cocaine" again and call you out of the blue. In the mean time, don't hold your breath waiting for her and go get other women. You might even find one that doesn't exhibit these behaviors.

 

Hope you didn't knock her up, because then she'd be a disaster that will be tied to you for many many years.

[Serenitynow]

She's just like a guy, but with a vagina

 

 

Seriously? You think women dont like to have no-strings sex once in awhile ?

 

She's probably using the cocaine/drunk excuse to shed the responsibility of her actions. Some people feel guilty about one night stands so they look for something to blame it on.

 

Some people have that excuse scenario already planned for the morning after. She may do this often.

 

You just happen to be available when she was in the mood.

 

 

.

[Morals]

...stays in Vegas.

 

This is all that is required to be said.

[moodoo]

It's just I'm sad I reallly liked her and we flirted for months but had only gone out 2-3 times in the past 2 months and hadn't kissed since April....last night before she left she was like I hadn't kissed you in months we just don't have that spark and I don't want a relationship with someone if there's no spark....but how can one laugh and text someone almost everyday for months, flirt with him on facebook daily, agree to a trip to Vegas have a great time, finally sleep with me and then say there is no spark between us....WTF is that true or bs bc while we were having sex she was saying she had waited so long for this and she was so attracted to me and couldn't wait to have sex with me again and again bc I got her off well....then morning boom it was a huge mistake....I'm just hurt I guess

[Jilly Bean]

I vote one of two things, neither of which you will like:

 

1 - she had a crappy time in bed

 

2 - she just wanted to get laid, you were there, and she never had a desire to grow it further

 

But, trust me. If she was into you, had a good time having sex with you, she's be all over you at this point.

 

Some people are just not sexually compatible. Doesn't mean you're not a good lay, per se, just means your styles didn't mesh. Like, if you are the soft and sensual type (which I ADORE! lol), and she likes the hair pulling and ass slapping (ick), then you're mismatched.

 

This is why it's probably not a good idea to spend a year chasing someone. She was lukewarm from the get-go, and that's how it ended up.

[JustJoe]

I go with Jill. If she had enjoyed the sex, you would still be, at least a potential BF. But her saying that there was no "spark", is a euphemism for no passion, so you are relegated to the friend-zone. Sorry about your luck, but you two apparently are not compatible.

[sally4sara]

So how much money did you come out of pocket with her?

 

Could be she just wanted to show off that she can snap her fingers and have you at her beck and call........and then makes excuses to never pay you any mind again.

 

Till she is partying and light on cash and attention again.

[MorningCoffee]

At least you had one terrific night with her. Once you are past the shock and pain of her aboutface, you'll have a fond memory. Meanwhile, life goes on.

[vestigalvirgin]

You may have been her revenge f*ck.

[moodoo]

the thing i am not getting is how did I go from being "friend-zoned" to getting laid in one vacation.....literally we made out a few times in march/april then stopped talking altogether may and june. Casually start talking again in late june even though she had told me she didn't want to date me.....we end up going to vegas with friends and she sleeps with me and even though she says she was drunk and on drugs which was true she told me post dinner she wanted to sleep with me and she was sober then.........and then the next day she says there is no spark after we had sex for like 2 hours and she orgasmed many times....it wasn't bad at all we went from bed to shower to bed and it was phenomenal so bad sex is out of the question. WTF is the real motive behind what is going or what she's doing

[Yamaha]

So how much money did you come out of pocket with her?

 

Could be she just wanted to show off that she can snap her fingers and have you at her beck and call........and then makes excuses to never pay you any mind again.

 

Till she is partying and light on cash and attention again.

 

Quoted for truth.

U were used buddy.

[alyssatranswarrior]

Jim - "She used me. OMG, she used me..I was used.......*giggle* COOL!"

[twoone]

the thing i am not getting is how did I go from being "friend-zoned" to getting laid in one vacation.....literally we made out a few times in march/april then stopped talking altogether may and june. Casually start talking again in late june even though she had told me she didn't want to date me.....we end up going to vegas with friends and she sleeps with me and even though she says she was drunk and on drugs which was true she told me post dinner she wanted to sleep with me and she was sober then.........and then the next day she says there is no spark after we had sex for like 2 hours and she orgasmed many times....it wasn't bad at all we went from bed to shower to bed and it was phenomenal so bad sex is out of the question. WTF is the real motive behind what is going or what she's doing

 

 

This is typical behavior of a "coke" addict. You need to google "cocaine addiction" and read up about it. It will open your eyes to what she is really up to. Cocaine and sex go hand in hand. Sorry but it sounds like you were used to satisfy her high.

I know this first hand as I have had a short relationship with a coke addict myself and he was always horny and wanted sex all the time. Just read up on it my friend, educate yourself and move on and forget about her. She will bring only misery to your life.

[moodoo]

So women text a guy daily...tell me to tell other girls who flirt with me to back off....mark her territory with omments all over my facebook page some directed right at girls....invite me to go to Vegas when she's already going with friends....have great dinners always wanting to hold

my hand....sleep with me have a good time doing so multiple times....all while being JUST friends having NO SPARK??? Good to know I officially quit on women then

[fishtaco]

So women text a guy daily...tell me to tell other girls who flirt with me to back off....mark her territory with omments all over my facebook page some directed right at girls....invite me to go to Vegas when she's already going with friends....have great dinners always wanting to hold

my hand....sleep with me have a good time doing so multiple times....all while being JUST friends having NO SPARK??? Good to know I officially quit on women then

 

Yep, that sounds about right.

 

But you DO know that by having her hanging all over you and marking you as her territory, you suddenly became much more interesting to other women right? Women want men that other women want. You could have played that to your advantage.

 

I hope you didn't spend too much on her. The time, money, and effort you spend on a woman is like placing a bet. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. But you can't gamble unless you place your bet. So do it within reason. If you split the hotel bill but you bought her dinner and a few drinks, hey, you got laid, I'd consider that even trade. But if you sported her whole weekend vacation bill, then you were the sucker.

 

Here's another tip. Never assume ANYTHING. Until you talked about and agreed to being in an exclusive relationship with each other, nothing between you two means anything, and she can bail anytime, exactly like what had happened. Good new is, so can you. That's the rule. It was your responsibility to protect you, not hers.