spriggig Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 So, about a month ago my kid bangs his toe up pretty bad wandering around the house at night--kicked a space heater and then it fell on his foot. I knew it wasn't broken, but it's the worst pain he's ever experienced and he was sure it was broken. The STBX moved out months ago and is 30 miles away, so I have to make the call. I swear, if she were still here, we would have put some ice on it, gave him some ibuprofen and went back to bed. But, the metrics are different now and I made the call to take him to the emergency room. Long story short, the nurse asks him "on a scale of one to ten, how bad is the pain?", of course he says "TEN!" After three hours hanging around the ER, the kid says he's tired and bored (no, really?) and his foot doesn't hurt anymore and he wants to go home--without ever having seen a doctor. I decided to stick it out another hour but still no doctor and we leave. So, fellow LS'ers after hanging around the ER (this forum), how bad is your pain? AND, have you had to adjust your scale? My blindside breakup from a cheating, lying wife of 12 years has shoved my scale, my "10", far beyond anything I've experienced before. GOOD! Now I have a reference for future breakups, the garden variety "this just isn't working out, we should end it" sort of breakup (a stubbed toe) should be much easier now that I know what a broken foot feels like. The pain goes away, you learn from your mistakes and life goes on--my kid learned that, and now so have I, again.
hurt and devastated Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 It's mostly been pegged on the needle for the last two weeks, since we split up. There have been times when I don't hurt as bad, like when I'm busy at work, or after the 2 support meetings I've gone to, but it comes back. I'm sure it will lessen as time goes on, but I have to say this is the worst pain I've ever felt. That includes an ex from many years ago that was seeing another guy and ended up getting engaged to him 2 days after I found out about her cheating. Plus, I think I have a bladder infection with adds to it. I'm going to the Dr. tomorrow. Either that or her OM gave her a gift that kept on giving, right to me....
Daniel89 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Interesting outlook you have. Its just difficult for a lot of people to relate physical and psychological pain together.
Author spriggig Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 ...Either that or her OM gave her a gift that kept on giving, right to me.... Oh SHT! A little something to remember them by. @#!$%$!!!! Took me three months after D-Day to hit rock bottom, I've been climbing back out ever since. I slipped hard about a month ago and considered suicide for a few days, but that passed. I can joke with friends now, laugh and enjoy movies again. For me, the physical/emotional pain link was made when I was a teenager. I had just broken up with my first girlfriend and I had an appointment to have some warts frozen. The doctor did two, which stings a lot but isn't that bad, but I didn't react at all. He looked at me and said something like "You can react if you want, I know it hurts." Although I felt the pain, it seemed so insignificant next to the emotional turmoil that had kept me awake for days and killed my appetite. I just looked at him and shrugged.
hurt and devastated Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Oh SHT! A little something to remember them by. @#!$%$!!!! Took me three months after D-Day to hit rock bottom, I've been climbing back out ever since. I slipped hard about a month ago and considered suicide for a few days, but that passed. That's what I'm afraid of. Even though I don't think I could hurt any more than I do now, I feel like I'm still in free fall. On a bright note, no STDs, thankfully.
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