cr1223 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 After nearly a year of not speaking to an ex of mine, we recently became friends again. I've come to value my friendship with her again, and actually consider her to be one of my closer friends. The problem is that the attraction between us is still there, and I let myself have feelings for her again. We recently had sex, but it turned out to be a mistake because I have feelings for her that aren't really reciprocated. However, I want to maintain my friendship with her, as she's someone I legitimately enjoy and care about. Is it even possible for me to put away my feelings for her, or do I just need to cut her out again? Dropping this friendship would probably hurt both of us, but that might be better than constantly wanting someone I can't have. Advice?
spyyder Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I know your problem and sorry bro, you need to cut off ties with her. I know your thinking that you can cap your feelings and hide them from the world but trust me, it WILL make you go crazy and one day, perhaps when your drunk, you'll declare your feelings for her and everything. It will turn sour. Everyone cares about their friends, but you can't have friends that you have romantic feelings for that aren't reciprocated - especially when you were once a couple and it didn't work out. Also the feelings you have for her WILL grow over time so it'll be a bigger and bigger problem. Don't immediately cut her off, but slowly talk & see each other less and less until you don't see her anymore. If she asks why just say why and she'll understand. Doesn't it suck when you like/love someone who doesn't like/love you back???? Well... imagine having that feeling all the time!
Author cr1223 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 She's well aware of my feelings for her, it's not about hiding them at this point. You're probably right about needing space though
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