john 07 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 3 weeks ago: met this new girl through a friend and had a great time at the bars and club. Talked a lot and a good amount of dancing. Didn’t really think about asking her out on a date or anything. Bu the funny thing is she asked for my number before I got to ask her first. * This past weekend: went out for her bday weekend. Had some drinks at a bar and went to clubs again. Held hands and kissed on multiple occasions. We were both kinda drunk though. I get a text from her the same day. Exchanged some friendly texts, nothing special. Finally asked her out on a first date and she accepts. * Yesterday: Went out to have dinner and talked for a decent time. Customers next to us changed twice while we were there. Just asking questions and trying to get to know her better personally. Then we went to a bar to get some drinks and talk a bit more. Before we even knew it, it was already midnight and decided to go home. Walked her home and said by. We did not hold hands, no hug, no kiss…..I wanted this as I didn’t want to scare her away. Just wanted to keep it casual. It was different from past weekend when we kissed and stuff….but we were drunk so im trying not to think about all that. * After ten minutes we sends a text saying thanks for coming out and that she had fun. I send a text saying I had fun and we should do it again. she sends a text saying that we should and next time we should do an activity and something more fun(ending with a smiley). * What do you guys think of my first date. Have been out of the dating scene for a while and I really like this girl. It was weird not even touching her cuz at the club we were all over each other….but then again we were drunk. I do not want to fall into the friend zone at all. I was nervous through the entire date as I didn’t know what to do at time. Oh but one good thing was that we were constantly talking without any awkward silence. Anyways what do you think and where should I go from here. Im thinking about asking her to the movies this Friday night. Yes no?
bobdole Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Mmm.. Sounds like it went well. I tend to stay away from the movies on dates though. Its so generic and you don't get to know each other anymore.
Diezel Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Please, for the love of God, stay away from the movies. Why do people revert back to being 13 when pretty much, the only thing you COULD do was go to the movies? I hope you're old enough to do OTHER things.
Author john 07 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 How long after first date should I contact her again??
Diezel Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Tomorrow to set up something for Friday. Thursday to set up something for Saturday. I always do 2 days in advance. BTW, I reread your OP, she said she wanted to do an ACTIVITY. Movies are NOT an activity. Instead: Billiards Mini-golf Bowling
make me believe Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Sounds like your date went well! I think it's good that you weren't all touchy-feely and that you tried to get to know her. I agree with the others that you should do an activity on your next date, and not go to the movies. Pool is usually good cause it's casual and relaxed, or maybe bowling. And I think you should contact her tomorrow. Don't wait until Thursday!! That seems too long.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Contacting a girl the next day is a good idea IMO. It shows your interested and don't want to play some crazy games. Maybe take her out to a park for a walk. Out doorsy stuff is great for learning about other people and can be really fun.
deux ex machina Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Looks promising so far. Agreed with Diezel on the activity thing. She was very clear about that; be glad she feels free to tell you what she likes.
Author john 07 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Tomorrow to set up something for Friday. Thursday to set up something for Saturday. I always do 2 days in advance. BTW, I reread your OP, she said she wanted to do an ACTIVITY. Movies are NOT an activity. Instead: Billiards Mini-golf Bowling Nice catch.gotta think some activities now!!
Author john 07 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 so i texted her today for a second date which she accpeted but she said she wants to go see a movie shes been wanting to watch....Now what do i do?? Most of you guys said not to have a movie date. Oh and instead of saying "would you like to go on a second date" I said "do you want to hang out again this friday if you are free" Did i do the right thing here? I just thought asking for second in those words were weird so i used words hang out instead.......
Diezel Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Next time... "Hey, I've really been wanting to play some mini-golf all summer, you should come with me. If I win, you get to pay the first round of drinks afterwards."
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