tigressA Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I've been on involuntary hiatus from LS since we moved into the new house; our internet was disconnected and wasn't activated until today. But I have returned, and with some new developments in my dating life, naturally! I met a new guy on OKCupid almost 2 weeks ago; I'd sent him a message one evening; he replied and then we IMed for a bit. He wanted to meet the very next day and I thought, "Well, sure. Okay." So we went to get coffee, which turned into dinner, which turned into a late-night trip to the Inner Harbor (where I was spotted by some fashion columnists for the paper and photographed/interviewed, so cool!), which turned into a sleepover. We've seen each other 4 times since we met. We talk every other day or so; either he calls or I do. Get this: He almost always picks up when I call! And if he doesn't, he calls me back within the day! This is a new thing for me; he's the first guy I've met in a long time, perhaps ever, who practices such common courtesy. He's also very intuitive and inquisitive, like me. I never met a guy who's so interested in what I'm thinking. He's also really into eye contact; I realized quickly that my gaze tends to dart elsewhere pretty often, so I'm working on that. Oh, and he turns me on like no other. Just a look from him and I want to jump his bones. I like him; if things continue to go well I can see myself being with him exclusively. I'll be updating, of course.
Mutant Debutante Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I've been on involuntary hiatus from LS since we moved into the new house; our internet was disconnected and wasn't activated until today. But I have returned, and with some new developments in my dating life, naturally! I met a new guy on OKCupid almost 2 weeks ago; I'd sent him a message one evening; he replied and then we IMed for a bit. He wanted to meet the very next day and I thought, "Well, sure. Okay." So we went to get coffee, which turned into dinner, which turned into a late-night trip to the Inner Harbor (where I was spotted by some fashion columnists for the paper and photographed/interviewed, so cool!), which turned into a sleepover. We've seen each other 4 times since we met. We talk every other day or so; either he calls or I do. Get this: He almost always picks up when I call! And if he doesn't, he calls me back within the day! This is a new thing for me; he's the first guy I've met in a long time, perhaps ever, who practices such common courtesy. He's also very intuitive and inquisitive, like me. I never met a guy who's so interested in what I'm thinking. He's also really into eye contact; I realized quickly that my gaze tends to dart elsewhere pretty often, so I'm working on that. Oh, and he turns me on like no other. Just a look from him and I want to jump his bones. I like him; if things continue to go well I can see myself being with him exclusively. I'll be updating, of course. Welcome back, T. Guy sounds like a keeper.
Serenitynow Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 You sound like you like coming here for attention. .
Author tigressA Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 (edited) Welcome back, T. Guy sounds like a keeper. Yeah, I think he is so far. The only real gripe I have with him at this point is that his taste in music is rather questionable. He really likes Nickelback, ugggghhhhhhhhhh. :sick: But on the other hand he's not a fan of Lady Gaga and I love her, so...we're even. He picked up on the fact that I analyze nearly everything and think "too much" rather early. We had a bit of an altercation earlier this week. He'd spent the night and it was kind of a last-minute thing; my "boss" wasn't totally okay with it since I'd been rather late in asking permission, but he allowed it anyway. He said he felt a little uncomfortable staying under those circumstances but I kept telling him it was fine. He'd started just messing with me a little bit, teasing, and he was getting a rise out of me. I connected dots and said "Are you trying to piss me off enough so that I'll make you leave?" He said, "Whoa, where did that come from? That didn't even cross my mind!" He said that if he'd really wanted to leave he would've, and that he only kept teasing me because I'm cute when I'm angry, haha. So I apologized... I'm trying to curb that "assume the worst" mentality with him because he's really straightforward, doesn't seem to have any hidden motives behind what he says or does, unlike previous guys I've been involved with who've talked in circles. It takes some getting used to. I do like it, though. Edited July 8, 2010 by tigressA
northstar1 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 It's been two weeks, slow down. Enjoy it, but if you keep up the intensity like this, one of you is bound to get overwhelmed or bored of each other. But I have to admit, the fact he admits he likes Nickelback pretty much takes away his awesomeness. I've never met a guy who likest that band who isn't a tool
Author tigressA Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 Yeah, I guess it could be seen by others as pretty intense for two weeks, but it doesn't feel that way to me. I'm just doing what feels right. I don't believe in a timeline. My first boyfriend also liked that band and he turned out to be a tool , but then again I ignored all sorts of red flags that showed we weren't compatible in the least.
JustJoe Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Well, ****, Tigress, that pretty much KO'S my plans to meet you, doesn't it.
Stung Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Agreed that liking Nickelback can be a red flag ...BUT...a guy who practices common courtesy, lets you know right away he likes you, calls when he says he will, etc...those are some pretty sterling qualities, Tigress. Keep your eyes and your heart open.
Author tigressA Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 I'm so glad I've got extra validation on the Nickelback-as-red-flag thing I didn't really realize just how important the calling/common courtesy thing was, and I suppose that's because it's practiced so rarely these days. It's more common to NOT be courteous in that way; it's something we've come to expect from most people we get involved with. The last guy I was seeing never returned my calls, he never called me, blah blah...he was really busy too (PhD student), but this guy never uses that as an excuse. He's on temporary assignment for work in a different city (still nearby) and he was working late yesterday, but he called me as soon as he had time--like he said he would. There was one time he said he'd call me the next morning and didn't, and I set him straight on that one, just saying, "When someone says they'll do something, I expect them to do it, that's all." I don't feel shy about establishing boundaries with him, being afraid that I'll scare him off. We communicate quite effectively. We've butted heads a couple of times but both occasions were resolved quickly.
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