angielove Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 About a week ago, I was having drinks at the local pub with some workmates. One of my workmates had some of his friends there and I was introduced to one of them - Jono. Jono was quite lovely and very friendly. He sat next to me chatting almost the entire night, and we got along really well. As I was leaving he asked if he could take me on a date (his words!). I said yes and gave him my mobile number. He then walked me to my car, and when we got there he said "I'm just going to say this... I want to kiss you really bad". Neither of us were drunk at all by this stage, so I thought that was very brave of him! I laughed and said "well, kiss me then!". And so he did. It was sooo sweet and he was a great kisser. The night ended there. A few days later (late at night on a Saturday) he msged me asking if I was out on the town. I was asleep and so never wrote back. The next day (Sunday) he called me twice but I missed the calls because I had left my mobile at home. He then msged me "Hey punk, don't pick up your phone you snob So I have the next two days off and was wondering if you'd like to get together for a drink or a game of scrabble?". I got home and looked at my phone about 5 hours after he msged me that. I replied with "Sorry! I was out and left my phone at home. Haha drinking and scrabble in combination sounds good ;)". It is now Tuesday night and I still haven't heard back from him... what is up with that do you think?!
lso802 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 He might've thought that was just an excuse or something came up. Sounds like he's already done his fair share of expressing interest. Your turn. Call or text the dude back and ask what's up? Are we still on for scrabble?
fwang Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 If I was that guy, I will think you are not interested in me. You need to explain it to him.
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I agree with the above posters. It's rare for a girl to be so uncommunicative (most are permanently affixed to their cell phones) and he probably assumes that if a girl is interested, she'll reply within the hour, if not instantly. Just send him another text. If there's no reply after that, consider it a lost cause and move on. Good for you for not being a slave to your cell phone though!
Serenitynow Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I would expect an interested person to respond sometime within the same day I left a voicemail or text. Why didnt you reply to him after you woke up ? Put yourself in his shoes, never getting any reply back. WHY would you let him sit there and wonder whats going on ? You KNOW he contacted you multiple times and never responded. WHY ? If you just TALK (actual phone call) to him and explain the situation it shouldnt be a problem. .
that girl Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 You took a very long time to respond and it looks like he decided to stop chasing you. Call him and try to set up something for a specific date.
tigressA Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Agreed with the others. He's thinking that you're not very interested and just coming up with excuses. Just explain briefly, tell him you'd really like to go out and see what happens. If he doesn't respond, chalk it up to a loss. And next time don't be so careless about your cell phone. Don't be a slave to it, but don't totally ignore it either.
Diezel Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 A few days later (late at night on a Saturday) he msged me asking if I was out on the town. I was asleep and so never wrote back. The next day (Sunday) he called me twice but I missed the calls because I had left my mobile at home. He then msged me "Hey punk, don't pick up your phone you snob So I have the next two days off and was wondering if you'd like to get together for a drink or a game of scrabble?". It is now Tuesday night and I still haven't heard back from him... what is up with that do you think?! So he texted you on Saturday. You wake up Sunday and shrug and say: Hey, let's play the "Not too available" game. Because come on, you can't say that you DIDN'T check your phone when you woke up... but you couldn't be bothered to text him back. He calls you TWICE (which btw, is one too many). He then texts you AGAIN... And you reply with a text and wonder why he isn't replying back? Not only that, but now you ask "What's up with that?"... as if it were his fault that he thinks you were just messing with him and weren't interested. Are you really that interested? Call him. He WAS high interest level. He texted TWICE and called TWICE. You only texted once and gave up and shifted the blame to him as to the "why" of him not getting back to you. How dare he get ONE text message from you and not reply while he sent 2 and 2 and it took you a whole mess of time to even consider getting back to him.
Jemay Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 He calls you TWICE (which btw, is one too many). Damn, one too many eh.... have not read the most recent 'rules of dating 2010' but sounds like rules have gotten stricter since my last date It does sound like a case of you were not interested but now that he's not contacted you right away after your message you wonder why.... normal human psychology.... had he contacted you right away you'd put him in the 'I'm so not interested folder' but since he's not contacted you he moved up into the 'well, maybe he's worth while folder'....... I hate dating and the games involved............
Author angielove Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Wow, thanks everyone for the responses. I honestly was not playing games or anything, I am just very slack with my phone (it's new and hard to use lol - I hate those touch screens!). But I should definitely have thought more about it from his perspective. I'm really glad that you all said that because I was worried that he had lost interest! So I messaged him today (not confident enough to call just yet sorry Serenitynow!) and said "Hey, are we still on for Scrabble?". Snaps to Iso802 for that advice He messaged back straight away (yay!) with "Oh yeah! Soon. I'm free next Monday and Tuesday. What about you?". I said I would have to get back to him once I get my work roster. SO I will now be much more communicative and message him as soon as I know when I'm free. Thanks to you all for the great advice xx
Serenitynow Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I honestly was not playing games or anything, I am just very slack with my phone (it's new and hard to use I think you are slack with your maturity and communication skills, but if you want to blame your phone go ahead. .
Author angielove Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 Serenitynow, I find it very strange that you feel the need to personally attack me, especially after the problem has already been resolved. But I guess I should thank you for your obvious concern. As I said previously, I will be more communicative in the future.
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Serenitynow, I find it very strange that you feel the need to personally attack me, especially after the problem has already been resolved. But I guess I should thank you for your obvious concern. As I said previously, I will be more communicative in the future. He always has a certain degree of hostility in his posts so I wouldn't take it personally. Kinda like the girl at the office that looks pissed off all the time when that's really just the way her face looks! Haha.
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