Shyguy6 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I’m married and in the process of getting a divorce and she works part time at where I work. (amicably). I work at a retail store and there is this girl who would always flirt with me(She works part time at my job and is a full-time teacher of autistic kids). We did exchange numbers. Well one night after work we went to Appleby’s for a drink with another co-worker for this persons birthday. I sat next to someone else and she sat next to some loser we work with who wouldn’t stop trying to get with her. But she kept going out of her way to talk to me. When she was leaving she gave me a kiss on the cheek. The next morning she told me she wanted to message me but was scared to do so. I told her its ok that she could. Next thing you know she was really touchy feely with me. She would always hit me or grab my butt and even purpously bump into me but I never return the favor. So she really started chasing me down. She would bring up the topic of sex on occasion and how she is deprived(********!) and HINT HINT thinks about me. Even though she was seeing someone who works here also but told me that she is not interested in him anymore because he wants way too much like marriage kids and the like. We went out a couple times and had a few drinks and even shared a passionate kiss. I began to really like her but was confused. She would always want to do things with me and when I would try to engage it she would blow me off. May I reiterate she chased me for awhile. I basically try as best as I can to just treat her like a lady and not an object of lust. I try to downplay the topic of sex whenever it comes up. She told me that she really cares about me and that I’m a great guy and that she would date me. And I really really like her. But I keep telling myself I’m asking for trouble because this whole thing is too hot to handle. I try not to text her and we always say “Goodmorning or hows work? or Goodnight” everyday. I tried not to text her for a week because I just feel I’m going to get hurt by this and she got mad and called me a jerk because she was texting me the whole time and I didn’t respond. But I don’t want to seem needy or desperate and I really don’t like bothering her and I wanted to forget her and move on. But she just wouldn’t leave me alone. So to make a long story short I got kinda fed up and wrote her a letter since I can never get a moment alone with her because of her friends. It was explaining how I feel about her and how she has been making me feel these past few months and that I really really care about her and like her as a person. I just couldn’t take it anymore and told her how i feel. She read my letter and text me right after. She said she was really shocked and didn’t know what to say. I said I’m too embarassed right now. And she said don’t be that I made her smile. But now I haven’t heard from her in days. I’m just wondering if she wants me too or is thinking about what I wrote or if she doesn’t give a **** about me. I feel so upset at work half the time I want to find a new job. I don’t know if she is playing with me or wants me. I want her so bad. I knew this would turn bad. For now I’m just playing the waiting game but how much longer can I wait? I can’t do this anymore. My emotions are up and down everyday wondering what she is thinking. Help! Well so far she text me one early morning about a date. About hanging out in NYC for a day. I told her sure but it depends on her availability. She told me that she misses me many times before and that she feels like we have grown apart and she said we need to talk. That she doesn't get to see me. I try to be sympathetic about her working two jobs. But I recently asked her to keep next monday open because we can go hang out in NYC for the day and get to know each other more. She told me she was working that day. So I said, "Well later during the week would be ok as well" I still haven't heard from her. And she was at work today but we had a power outage and it was pretty dead meaning she had plenty of opportunities to give me a reply with an answer. She said Hi to me and asked if i'm by myself in my dept because it was so dark on the other end of the building. But yet no response to my question. I leave work feeling dejected and defeated AGAIN. I begin to fall asleep and I get a message from her saying "Have a goodnight my pudding!" (thats he nickname for me btw:p) So I just wake up and I'm just deep in thought this morning. I really don't know what to do next. I have other female friends but I'm really interested in her. She likes me but I don't know if she is playing with me or is so emotionally guarded to let me in. I'm losing all hope. I keep saying to myself to leave it alone and move on but she keeps coming after me. I'm tired emotionally physically and mentally....
Diezel Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 She's using you for ego validation. Notice how everytime she says she wants to do something with you, the moment you agree... she starts pulling away??? She's just jerking your chain and stringing you along. My guess is she has no other options, but doesn't want to make you Plan A. She's waiting to see if something better comes along first, and if it doesn't, she'll eventually come back to you. You are "rainy day" guy. My verdict: If you two are getting a divorce, STOP seeing her. It's time to go meet new women who won't play with you like this. It's not healthy for you.
D-Lish Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Let's see- she has a bf, and she only texts you once and a while... She's using you, why would you let her? Demand better for yourself.
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