airjordan Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 My friend is dating this guy and she doesn't seem to open up to him on how she feels, she's interested but she doesn't show any feelings, is being shy a good enough excuse? and i ran into to him at the grocery store and he told me that things aren't happening because she shows no effort.
Susaluda Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 As a shy girl I will say that it is extremely difficult for us to show our feelings at first. Tell the guy to keep pursuing her and she should go along with it. It may appear that she isn't putting in any "effort" but she is probably very, very nervous and doesn't know what to do. Whenever I like a guy I freeze up and there's no way I would be able to make any moves on him. Instead I have to wait for him to and I try to show him I'm interested by going along with things he suggests. Also, she should open up eventually once she feels more comfortable around him. I've definitely opened up with the guys I've dated after a little while. Hope that helps!
harmfulsweetz Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I'm shy too, and it's not about how little effort you put in, trust me, there's a lot of effort going into the smallest conversation when you're shy. It's tough to open up to people when you're not used to, and you kind of answered your own question within your question why do shy girls not share their feelings? Because they are shy. It takes time, patience, understanding. Most people open up as they go.
alyssatranswarrior Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I am a shy girl. Only it does not reflect visually. I would openly share my feelings with any girl willing to know me who I also care about or like. I'd say if he likes her he should break down her barriers with caring persistence.
summer_scent Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 i am a shy girl too and i would say that your friend should go the extra mile because it can be difficult for us to initiate things. perhaps he could talk more to open up through conversation and normally the girl could also go along. just show that he is sincere and with the right combination of aggressiveness and gentleness. goodluck to him!
bittersweet memories Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 As a shy girl I will say that it is extremely difficult for us to show our feelings at first. Tell the guy to keep pursuing her and she should go along with it. It may appear that she isn't putting in any "effort" but she is probably very, very nervous and doesn't know what to do. Whenever I like a guy I freeze up and there's no way I would be able to make any moves on him. Instead I have to wait for him to and I try to show him I'm interested by going along with things he suggests. Also, she should open up eventually once she feels more comfortable around him. I've definitely opened up with the guys I've dated after a little while. Hope that helps! I have to agree with you..I'm shy as well. I go with the flow when I am interested but keep to myself until I start feeling comfortable with you. But the person needs to pursue me first, I don't usually do the pursuing.
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