BiAxident Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Assume that, after 2 years of nearly complete NC you had reached a very comfortable place in regard to your ex. You hadn't forgotten about them, you hadn't dated anyone else, rather, you focused on yourself and were mildly optimistic about your future. Now, assume that you could trade away all of that piece of mind in exchange for 1) regular sex with your ex, 2) regular companionship from your ex, seeing each other every weekend and one weekday, 3) the knowledge that you "might" get back together, which is also the uncertainty of not knowing when he/she might find someone better. This is the position I'm in. The more time I spend with my ex, the more emotionally invested I become. Yet, its still sex, companionship, and a chance, albeit slight, of another crack at the relationship. It's proving to be a bit painful, and I'm not sure how long I should continue holding out hope. So what say you, would you make the trade?
monkeymaid Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 although it would be fun, not in a million years! there are more women out there that havent screwed me, id rather be with one of them
Author BiAxident Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 Sounds like fun, but its hard when I've known her for 18 years and there is really nothing/no one/nowhere for me to move on to. At least not until January when I should be starting lawschool. Once that happens, I'm afraid that I wont have time to even think about dating
USMCHokie Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Sounds like fun, but its hard when I've known her for 18 years and there is really nothing/no one/nowhere for me to move on to. Not true. You only choose not to move on. The world is your oyster. At least not until January when I should be starting lawschool. Once that happens, I'm afraid that I wont have time to even think about dating Not true. Law school = overrated.
GrayClouds Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Assume that, after 2 years of nearly complete NC you had reached a very comfortable place in regard to your ex. You hadn't forgotten about them, you hadn't dated anyone else, rather, you focused on yourself and were mildly optimistic about your future. Now, assume that you could trade away all of that piece of mind in exchange for 1) regular sex with your ex, 2) regular companionship from your ex, seeing each other every weekend and one weekday, 3) the knowledge that you "might" get back together, which is also the uncertainty of not knowing when he/she might find someone better. This is the position I'm in. The more time I spend with my ex, the more emotionally invested I become. Yet, its still sex, companionship, and a chance, albeit slight, of another crack at the relationship. It's proving to be a bit painful, and I'm not sure how long I should continue holding out hope. So what say you, would you make the trade? I should be starting lawschool. This is the type of thinking that gives lawyers such bad reputations.
Trimmer Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Sounds like fun, but its hard when I've known her for 18 years and there is really nothing/no one/nowhere for me to move on to. To me, that means that you have EVERYTHING to move on to. Glass half empty, or half full there? Put another way, you mean to tell me that having experienced a relationship with your ex, you now have nothing else to look forward to in life? I think you need to get over that, first...
Ilovecake Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Sounds like fun, but its hard when I've known her for 18 years and there is really nothing/no one/nowhere for me to move on to. At least not until January when I should be starting lawschool. Once that happens, I'm afraid that I wont have time to even think about dating Doesn't sound like you're trying to move on at all. There is no way for you to know what's out there because you're not even bothering to look. If you two have been doing this regularly and there is no relationship discussion then your ex is just screwing you till something better comes along. Personally I would never take that trade, you can buy companionship but you can't buy self respect.
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