heavensmesenger Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Hey all, I'm sure most of you will know about my dramas with my ex, I've been in a good place as of late, I'm accepting the fact that she's with somebody else who I know will never treat her as well as me so thats helping too. Anyways we've recently been speaking and she knows all about me having nightmares as a result of an accident a few months back. She now wants to see me Thursday night after she finishes work to help me with them as she has an idea but won't spoil the surprise (Her words) We haven't seen each other in 2 weeks and I could understand a coffee to catch up but this has thrown me for a loop. Any thoughts as to whats going on in her mind? Why night time? Why my place? What the hell can she do to help with my nightmares?
BiAxident Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I dont know, sounds interesting, and given that its your ex, suspicious. Go into it with an open mind. I'm not familar with the details of your situation, but assuming you were good friends in addition to romantic partners, she may simply want to help in whatever way she can. I assume most people would advise you to guard your emotions. However, keeping mine guarded for too long got me into a miserable situation. So my advice is to keep an open mind.
Author heavensmesenger Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 Yeah my mind is open, I mean I can understand "heys lets go for coffee" but a "I'll come over to your house at 10pm at night to help you out with your sleeping" Sounds very weird...The last time we met we ended up having sex twice, which was 14 days ago. She then said she was confused and I had to leave her alone which I did now she's contacting me... Open mind, got it
monkeymaid Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 sounds like ex sex. i say tell her no. ...make her beg, then walk away
lunita Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Keep your emotions in check and NO SEX. Good luck and keep us updated!
Author heavensmesenger Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 My thoughts were she's possibly regrettng the decision with her new bf (She dumped me for him) and now wants to come back to see me to see if theres anything left for me? I was thinking of just keeping it casual, fun and friendly. I know I'm a guy but I don't want to be used for sex especially with what I feel/felt for her. I'll try my hardest for no sex and I defo have to keep my emotions in check as she said last time it makes it easier to leave me for him when I'm like this. Was just going to treat it like a catch up I even offered to take the sofa if shes too tired to drive home. Speaking of her new bf, I havnt mentioned him to her nor has she to me.
BiAxident Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Yeah, leaving sex out of the equation is probably a good idea. It would have been a good idea in my situation, but after 2 years dry, to have the offer just thrown in your lap (almost literally) with the woman you love? I couldn't turn that down. I'm not even sure that I wish I had, despite all the pain it is now causing.
Author heavensmesenger Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 Yeah I think the sex thing was the problem 2 weeks ago...instead of going slow we went straiht back into it and I ended up spending the night in her bed. Probably confused her heaps as it was like we were back together sort of thing. I'll let her lead and if nothing happens but she wants to see me again then good but hopefully I can restrain myself to only kissing her
monkeymaid Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 no sex and habging out =friends sex and hanging out = booty call she needs to make her intentions clear. till then nc sorry bud i know you dont want to hear this, but thats how its got to work for you to really get what you want
Author heavensmesenger Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 I agree monkeymaid problem is she won't tell me what she has planned. Guess we'll just have to wait and see
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