BiAxident Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I've often read articles about how bad it is to be single on the holidays, not having someone special to take to parties and family functions. Yet, in my mind, it is much worse to be grieving during the summer. At least where I live, if you want to mope around indoors during the winter, mother nature will help accomodate you. The sun sets so early, it also seems to help add to the ambience of being.. I dont know.. settled in. But the Summer? Everyday is bright and sunny, beckoning me to go outside and do... I dont know what? I would love to be camping, or fishing, or walking through the park, or watching a sunset on the beach. Yet, I find doing these activities alone to be rather depressing. Infact, sunsets are just about the worst right now. Anyone out there identify with this??
GrayClouds Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 (edited) Most studioes suggest that April and May are the worst months for much of the reasons you state. beckoning me to go outside and do... I dont know what? I would love to be camping, or fishing, or walking through the park, or watching a sunset on the beach. Yet, I find doing these activities alone to be rather depressing. Infact, sunsets are just about the worst right now.This is what it is all about. After a break-up you grieve the loss of the other but healing mean figuring out how to live a life being content and alone doing things that gives satisfaction without loneliness. It is ok if your not their yet, though you are one of the lucky ones because you now see so clearly the direction you should be headed. (Here is a secret...your lonely right now you may as well go do those things. It better being lonely doing something you enjoy then lonely and feeling sorry for yourself, and trust me 9 times out of 10 you will be proud of yourself for doing so. For there will be a small little voice telling you that you are turning the corner) . Edited July 6, 2010 by GrayClouds
This Hurts Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I've often read articles about how bad it is to be single on the holidays, not having someone special to take to parties and family functions. Yet, in my mind, it is much worse to be grieving during the summer. At least where I live, if you want to mope around indoors during the winter, mother nature will help accomodate you. The sun sets so early, it also seems to help add to the ambience of being.. I dont know.. settled in. But the Summer? Everyday is bright and sunny, beckoning me to go outside and do... I dont know what? I would love to be camping, or fishing, or walking through the park, or watching a sunset on the beach. Yet, I find doing these activities alone to be rather depressing. Infact, sunsets are just about the worst right now. Anyone out there identify with this?? I can definitely identify with this. It could very well be a personal preference, though. I always preferred cold weather over hot weather. In the winter it's so nice and chilly outside (at least in Florida, since it doesn't usually get excruciatingly cold for obvious reasons), and I love being either outside breathing in the nice, crisp air or inside all cozy and homey. Summers in Florida are annoying. They're extremely humid and very, very hot. Being outside is an absolute no-no and if people are outside then they're in water (pool, beach, lake, etc). Walks don't work out during the summer 'cause it's either far too hot, or it's pouring. Yeah, it rains literally every afternoon. I don't mind this, though, because it's relaxing and it tends to make it cooler outside but still! Summers in Florida force you to spend a lot of time indoors, and usually that means a lot of time at home so you don't really have much to do but dwell. I think going through this during the winter would have been more convenient for me. Oh and winters in Florida still get random warm days, so going to the beach is still an option in December lol.
Author BiAxident Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 It is ok if your not their yet, though you are one of the lucky ones because you now see so clearly the direction you should be headed. Thank you for the kind words. However, I have no idea which direction I "should" be headed. You see, I haven't been dumped. Rather, I've been put "on hold" pending the discovery of "better options". Thus, I'm not facing these activities alone, rather I've been engaging in them with a woman I am absolutely infatuated with, but she is rather aloof. Thus, each time I get together with her, I suspect it may be the last time I get together with her. As such, I am mentally preparing for a boring and lonely summer, though at least May and June were a good deal of fun.
GrayClouds Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Thank you for the kind words. However, I have no idea which direction I "should" be headed. You see, I haven't been dumped. Rather, I've been put "on hold" pending the discovery of "better options". Thus, I'm not facing these activities alone, rather I've been engaging in them with a woman I am absolutely infatuated with, but she is rather aloof. Thus, each time I get together with her, I suspect it may be the last time I get together with her. As such, I am mentally preparing for a boring and lonely summer, though at least May and June were a good deal of fun. Actually you know the perfect direction, if someone needs to think about being with you, it is time to dump them. Never make someone a priority in your life when they see you as a option in yours. You are feeling weak because your giving up your power. Do you think a women will fall in love with someone who tells her he will be a doormat and be her back-up plan. The #1 thing that women look for in a man is some who is strong and confident, waiting for a women to decide is neither. Here is some worth while thinking you can do; Where did you learn that you have to wait for someone to love you, that love means proving your worth? F#ck the romantic movie BS, the man who pines for the women never gets the women in real life, all he ever gets is self inflected pain and misdirected anger. And after you go NC pick up the books "Journey from Abandonment to Healing" and "No More Mr Nice Guy" and give them both a good read. We do not choose our pain, but we choose to suffer.
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