drew86 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I'm not sure what to make of this situation and I would be really thankful for any insights or advice. So I'm 23 and she's 19. We met a few weeks ago and have gone out several times, watched a movie at her place (met the parents), etc. She even came to my football game yesterday. Now although we haven't even made out yet things seem very positive. After our game last night we all went out for food with a group of friends and she kept kissing me, holding my hand and texting me compliments:D! We made plans to hangout today. I texted her a few hours ago to see if we were still on and she hasn't replied. I think it might come off needy if I try calling now... It's pretty much me who initiates contact daily through texting also. It's happened a couple times now where she flakes and WOW I can't believe how much it knocks my ego. I really like this girl and when we're together I can tell she's into me. (A mutual friend even said recently she was "smitten" with me). But I mean I went from feeling like a damn millionaire last night when we kissed goodbye to now where I don't know what to think... I'm really bummed out right now. I was really looking forward all day to seeing her tonight. Your thoughts, LS?
tami-chan Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I'm not sure what to make of this situation and I would be really thankful for any insights or advice. So I'm 23 and she's 19. We met a few weeks ago and have gone out several times, watched a movie at her place (met the parents), etc. She even came to my football game yesterday. Now although we haven't even made out yet things seem very positive. After our game last night we all went out for food with a group of friends and she kept kissing me, holding my hand and texting me compliments:D! We made plans to hangout today. I texted her a few hours ago to see if we were still on and she hasn't replied. I think it might come off needy if I try calling now... It's pretty much me who initiates contact daily through texting also. It's happened a couple times now where she flakes and WOW I can't believe how much it knocks my ego. I really like this girl and when we're together I can tell she's into me. (A mutual friend even said recently she was "smitten" with me). But I mean I went from feeling like a damn millionaire last night when we kissed goodbye to now where I don't know what to think... I'm really bummed out right now. I was really looking forward all day to seeing her tonight. Your thoughts, LS? Let her breathe. This constant contact can be suffocating.
Pfiend101 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 you made plans with her and you double checked and she didnt respond to your text. Give her a call if she doesnt answer/call back go do what you want to do. **** it. Girls that flake are not worth your time. Do what makes you happy.
Author drew86 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Thanks guys. She ended up texting me many hours later and it seemed like she didn't even realized she bailed on me haha... I'm very confused. I'm going to wait for her to contact me again I think. I don't like that she bailed on me again and would like to make that clear to her without coming off as me being angry or that I'm guilting her of course... I'm thinking more along the lines of she missed out on a fun time.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Thanks guys. She ended up texting me many hours later and it seemed like she didn't even realized she bailed on me haha... I'm very confused. I'm going to wait for her to contact me again I think. I don't like that she bailed on me again and would like to make that clear to her without coming off as me being angry or that I'm guilting her of course... I'm thinking more along the lines of she missed out on a fun time. She is not into you. I think she likes things about you and spending a certain amount of time with you but does not want a relationship. Best thing you can do is let her do the chasing and give her distance. If she likes you and wants a relationship she will let you know.
Diezel Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 (A mutual friend even said recently she was "smitten" with me). But I mean I went from feeling like a damn millionaire last night when we kissed goodbye to now where I don't know what to think... I'm really bummed out right now. I was really looking forward all day to seeing her tonight. Your thoughts, LS? Big Daddy Diezel says: You're too available for her. You guys went out last night, and now you've been pining all day to go out with her? As someone else said: Let her breathe. It's too soon and BTW, she DOES realize she bailed on you. She just didn't know how to break it to you. Second: Stop believing what your friends say. Just go by the actions she's putting forth and NOT hearsay. Third: Give her some space, give her a few days. You're TOO invested in this and you'll eventually burn for doing so.
threebyfate Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Thanks guys. She ended up texting me many hours later and it seemed like she didn't even realized she bailed on me haha... I'm very confused. I'm going to wait for her to contact me again I think. I don't like that she bailed on me again and would like to make that clear to her without coming off as me being angry or that I'm guilting her of course... I'm thinking more along the lines of she missed out on a fun time.Both of these are red flags. Whether it means she's gaming you or low interest, I'm not sure. From the sounds of it, this isn't the first time she's bailed on you. How many times has she done this?
Author drew86 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Yeah very true, I think that's what I needed to hear. I suspected I was getting too invested too soon -- thanks for your thoughts guys
Author drew86 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Both of these are red flags. Whether it means she's gaming you or low interest, I'm not sure. From the sounds of it, this isn't the first time she's bailed on you. How many times has she done this? Well this is the 2nd definite time, maybe 3rd. I don't want to believe I'm being gamed considering how when we're out together she acts like we're already dating, but I'll concede I'm not being 100% logical right now
threebyfate Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Well this is the 2nd definite time, maybe 3rd. I don't want to believe I'm being gamed considering how when we're out together she acts like we're already dating, but I'll concede I'm not being 100% logical right nowSo she's flaked on you at least two times and possibly a third in a few weeks. Houston, you have a problem.
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