mr heartbroken Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Hey, I I'm kinda struggling here. For some reason I really really want to break nc! I have been dreaming about my ex a lot recenlty. I seen her yesterday in passing. We were both in our cars. Part of me really wants to contact her and another part of me wants to scream at myself for not moving on already! I am currently seein a couple of girls. I just don't find them intresting in the way my ex was. I don't want to be still stuck in limbo (in my head) why haven't I accepted it's over and moved on? It's been a year and four months. She is still my first thought in the morning and my last at night! Aaarrgggghhhh
LK30 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I know just how you feel my friend! My ex drives one of the most common types of cars (and common colours too!) so every time I drive past one my heart beats fast!! My split was 5 months ago, and I still think about her every day. I've even got a date lined up soon but not remotely excited! I guess I'm hoping you'll feel better knowing you're not the only person feeling like this, and take heart in the fact you stopped yourself breaking NC and came on here first. Every time you want to message her then come on this site! There's no magic wand to get over this stuff. I think we all just have to fight through it :-)
earthfireuk Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I know how you feel. I was in no contact (managed a week) and I thought I was going strong. Then I had this horrible dream about her. She was seeing another guy and we were sleeping in a shared room in bunkbeds and they got into bed together when I was laying in my own bed and saw them together. lol it was awefull... I woke up feeling so hurt.. like I had actually experienced that. That day I texted her.. we chatted for a bit and I asked her out for lunch later on in the week. I went and got my hair cut, got some new clothes for the occasion as I wanted to make the best impression I could. On the day we were supposed to be going out for lunch she called me and told me she thinks it's too soon and that it would be best for us both if we didn't meet. I was gutted..... I regret contacting her because unless she changes her mind and makes it clear she wants me back, there is absolutly no point. I can feel it pushing her away each and every time I do. My mind fooled me into thinking it would be a good idea because of how much I was hurting but it just made things worse. I am going hardcore no contact now. If she doesnt want to be with me as a lover then she can't have me as a friend. Its just too painful. Be strong, you will thank yourself for it later, I promise.
hurt and devastated Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Don't contact her. Whatever you do, DON'T contact her. You think it's bad right now? It'll get worse, believe me. There are enough posts by people here that did it, and ended up regretting it. You get a huge dose of false hope if they are receptive to the contact, but it's short lived. Usually when you find out that nothing has changed and they have completely moved on from you. I feel for you, I really do. Sorry if this sounds so negative, but I'd hate to see you fall even further by trying to contact her.
AlwaysConflicted Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Stay NC. I'm one of the many who contacted an ex and pushed her away even further. It won't help. It will only mess things up more.
Author mr heartbroken Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 I know just how you feel my friend! My ex drives one of the most common types of cars (and common colours too!) so every time I drive past one my heart beats fast!! My split was 5 months ago, and I still think about her every day. I've even got a date lined up soon but not remotely excited! I guess I'm hoping you'll feel better knowing you're not the only person feeling like this, and take heart in the fact you stopped yourself breaking NC and came on here first. Every time you want to message her then come on this site! There's no magic wand to get over this stuff. I think we all just have to fight through it :-) Hey, thanks for the post. I know that there's people out there that are in the same boat as me and even worse. You know that feeling that you should be greatfull because you have health, friends and family. I get all that but nothing seems to matter anymore. Thanks for the post though. Also when you go into your date look don't look to get anything from it and take it for what it is. You meeting someone new. If anything happens then great but if not nothing lost on this part
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