hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So I have met someone! Well not quite ‘met’ him, he’s been around since I started my new job but maybe I’ve just taken my xMM blinkers off!…..[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Before the ‘red flags’ come up, no I haven’t acted on it but I’m very pleased with myself that I’ve even noticed him…first time in a very long time I have looked past just another ‘person’ in front of me!![/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]We bumped into each other(literally) as we walked round a corner and I was like….HELLO!! This was at the weekend when I was working overtime and there was only 3 or 4 people working so I had no idea who he was but when I got to work on Monday he was sat at the door talking to security and just grinned at me and said Hi.[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So anyway, he has been appearing at work so much since this meeting and again just smiles and small talk.[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]My worry is I’ve been ‘out of the game’ for so long I’m actually not sure how to act or what to say…..he was by the door again when I left tonight and I just said ‘do you ever do any work’ and he was like ‘I try not to’ but with that cute smile…..[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] So is he flirting?? How do I find out without looking obvious and the BIG question is what if I’m just not ready for this??? TBH I'm a little bit scared:o
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Copy and pasted this from word....oops!!
jthorne Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 My fiancé is someone that was right under my nose for quite awhile before I pulled my head outta my arse. Good luck!
Corporate Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Have you learned your lesson? Find out whether or not he is married, engaged or dating someone, NOW.
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Should of read like this!! So I have met someone! Well not quite ‘met’ him, he’s been around since I started my new job but maybe I’ve just taken my xMM blinkers off!…. Before the ‘red flags’ come up, no I haven’t acted on it but I’m very pleased with myself that I’ve even noticed him…first time in a very long time I have looked past just another ‘person’ in front of me!! We bumped into each other(literally) as we walked round a corner and I was like….HELLO!! This was at the weekend when I was working overtime and there was only 3 or 4 people working so I had no idea who he was but when I got to work on Monday he was sat at the door talking to security and just grinned at me and said Hi. So anyway, he has been appearing at work so much since this meeting and again just smiles and small talk. My worry is I’ve been ‘out of the game’ for so long I’m actually not sure how to act or what to say…..he was by the door again when I left tonight and I just said ‘do you ever do any work’ and he was like ‘I try not to’ but with that cute smile…. So is he flirting?? How do I find out without looking obvious and the BIG question is what if I’m just not ready for this??? TBH I'm a little bit scared!
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 My fiancé is someone that was right under my nose for quite awhile before I pulled my head outta my arse. Good luck! Thanks JT, not sure if he could be dating material but at least I've noticed someone, right!!
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Have you learned your lesson? Find out whether or not he is married, engaged or dating someone, NOW. No need to worry on that score C, i'm way off dating him but just noticing him is a step forward for me right now....I'm rather pleased with myself:p
califnan Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So I have met someone! Well not quite ‘met’ him, he’s been around since I started my new job but maybe I’ve just taken my xMM blinkers off!…..[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Before the ‘red flags’ come up, no I haven’t acted on it but I’m very pleased with myself that I’ve even noticed him…first time in a very long time I have looked past just another ‘person’ in front of me!![/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]We bumped into each other(literally) as we walked round a corner and I was like….HELLO!! This was at the weekend when I was working overtime and there was only 3 or 4 people working so I had no idea who he was but when I got to work on Monday he was sat at the door talking to security and just grinned at me and said Hi.[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]So anyway, he has been appearing at work so much since this meeting and again just smiles and small talk.[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]My worry is I’ve been ‘out of the game’ for so long I’m actually not sure how to act or what to say…..he was by the door again when I left tonight and I just said ‘do you ever do any work’ and he was like ‘I try not to’ but with that cute smile…..[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] [/FONT][/sIZE] So is he flirting?? How do I find out without looking obvious and the BIG question is what if I’m just not ready for this??? TBH I'm a little bit scared:o ----------------------- What a romantic thtory .. .. Just keep smiling, until he leads the way .. He is sitting down - do you want to touch his shoulder on your way out ..
jthorne Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 There's nothing wrong with being open to new friends. And if it leads to something else, great. But yeah... find out his marital staus FIRST!
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 ----------------------- What a romantic thtory .. .. Just keep smiling, until he leads the way .. He is sitting down - do you want to touch his shoulder on your way out .. He works in maintenence, I'm tempted to just say 'i may have to start breaking things to give you something to do' next time he's hanging around....???
awkward Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 It was nice to log in and see this post. When I read your excitement and happiness I got the biggest smile on my face. Pretty weird since I don't even know you but still. You are healing hopeless and you will be fine. Flirting could be really good for you right now. Discreetly inquire about his marital status though. There are a lot of jerks out there.
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 There's nothing wrong with being open to new friends. And if it leads to something else, great. But yeah... find out his marital staus FIRST! First thing that crossed my mind and if we ever got to a point where we got talking properly it will be the first question I ask! But for now I'm happy to just notice a member of the opposite sex:laugh: Hopefully this is the next stage of my healing:)
jthorne Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 This is great progress, but he does work where you work. I tend to be wary of office romances... But a little flirting might be a good thing for you right now.
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 It was nice to log in and see this post. When I read your excitement and happiness I got the biggest smile on my face. Pretty weird since I don't even know you but still. You are healing hopeless and you will be fine. Flirting could be really good for you right now. Discreetly inquire about his marital status though. There are a lot of jerks out there. Awww Thanks A, it feels nice to be posting on here with a smile on my face too, I'm glad I made you smile too:) Yeah I'm thinking of maybe getting my workmate to ask the security guy??
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 This is great progress, but he does work where you work. I tend to be wary of office romances... But a little flirting might be a good thing for you right now. I'm only at this office for 6 months, part of the reason I took this project, my old job is still open and he doesn't work in the office, he works for a maintenence firm my company employ so nothing like xMM....
jthorne Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I'm only at this office for 6 months, part of the reason I took this project, my old job is still open and he doesn't work in the office, he works for a maintenence firm my company employ so nothing like xMM....Even better
2sunny Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Awww Thanks A, it feels nice to be posting on here with a smile on my face too, I'm glad I made you smile too:) Yeah I'm thinking of maybe getting my workmate to ask the security guy?? you ask him directly. that way HE knows your looking for the info on his marital status. that way YOU have the correct info straight from the source. no room for misunderstandings. just ask.
Author hopeless4u Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 you ask him directly. that way HE knows your looking for the info on his marital status. that way YOU have the correct info straight from the source. no room for misunderstandings. just ask. He seems quite shy at the moment and from my experience MM are far from shy but yes I am more than aware he could be in a R and will not be sucked into anything. I truely have learnt my lesson when it comes to men who are taken!
whichwayisup Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Don't get involved with ANYBODY from work, especially even more so if he's married or has a girlfriend. I could be completely wrong here, but you're nowhere ready for this. Fact that you're even considering dating someone (again) that you work with, scares me a little because of how things went down with your exMM. you're not over him yet and you're vunerable too. It's good that he caught your eye, shows that other men are out there. Not a good idea to go after him, the timing isn't right. Just my 2 cents.
fooled once Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 (edited) Should of read like this!! So I have met someone! Well not quite ‘met’ him, he’s been around since I started my new job but maybe I’ve just taken my xMM blinkers off!…. Before the ‘red flags’ come up, no I haven’t acted on it but I’m very pleased with myself that I’ve even noticed him…first time in a very long time I have looked past just another ‘person’ in front of me!! We bumped into each other(literally) as we walked round a corner and I was like….HELLO!! This was at the weekend when I was working overtime and there was only 3 or 4 people working so I had no idea who he was but when I got to work on Monday he was sat at the door talking to security and just grinned at me and said Hi. So anyway, he has been appearing at work so much since this meeting and again just smiles and small talk. My worry is I’ve been ‘out of the game’ for so long I’m actually not sure how to act or what to say…..he was by the door again when I left tonight and I just said ‘do you ever do any work’ and he was like ‘I try not to’ but with that cute smile…. So is he flirting?? How do I find out without looking obvious and the BIG question is what if I’m just not ready for this??? TBH I'm a little bit scared! Find out marital status. IF single, sit back, relax and enjoy Edited July 6, 2010 by fooled once
ladydesigner Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Wow I'm so excited for you! I was happy to see this thread as well since it has been a while since I've been here last. Glad you are doing well these days and on the upswing. Woo hoo!!!!
Author hopeless4u Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 Don't get involved with ANYBODY from work, especially even more so if he's married or has a girlfriend. I could be completely wrong here, but you're nowhere ready for this. Fact that you're even considering dating someone (again) that you work with, scares me a little because of how things went down with your exMM. you're not over him yet and you're vunerable too. It's good that he caught your eye, shows that other men are out there. Not a good idea to go after him, the timing isn't right. Just my 2 cents. Don't worry WWIU I have no intention of getting involved with anybody just yet but it's good that I am noticing 'men' again! I don't even know his name and yes my first thought was 'why do I notice someone from work' but as I said this is a project for 6 months so even if we did hit it off and thats a huge if, I wouldn't be working with him. I am the first person to say I'm in no way ready for a relationship but I am hoping this is a good sign in my healing.
Author hopeless4u Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 Find out marital status. IF single, sit back, relax and enjoy Thanks FO and yes it will be the first question I ask if we ever get past the small talk and the shy smiles:o
Author hopeless4u Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 Wow I'm so excited for you! I was happy to see this thread as well since it has been a while since I've been here last. Glad you are doing well these days and on the upswing. Woo hoo!!!! Thanks LD, yeah i'm not about much but I thought it would be nice to post something positive for a change! Still have some 'bad' days and far to many confused thoughts but I think I'm finally seeing xMM for what he was, well most of the time anyway:o It feels good to be able to laugh with my workmates about our cute maintenence man:p 2 months ago I would of run a mile from any conversation about men as it would of just made me want to cry so another step closer to the 'old me' coming back, right:D xx
Hazyhead Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I can almost see the smile on your face in your writing and that is fantastic! Take it slow though and find out his marital status. If he is free then a little flirtatious behaviour ain't gonna do you no harm girl! I'm not the best to give advice here though because I always move a little too fast and am so not cool. It's so much fun to be at this stage. And then it begins!
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