ladyusa Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 (edited) I am in a ldr(long distance relation)for about 6 years. My bf is angry with me for getting him in trouble at work by being I admit annoying and over texting him. He then got written up. I realize I was annoying and I never meant to cause job jeapordy, and didn't consider the effects of the job, but I believe I just miss him and I get just so excited to talk to him, but this can easily be fixed, by me just making more hobbies and going out with my friends a lot more. I did apologize and told him this can be worked on but he just ignores me. The last thing he said was a week and half ago and that was when i told him, you are more than welcome to leave me ive never forced you to stay with me and Id rather you be honest and not coward out, or if you would like to work this out like I would we can talk about this. I said we can both work on being better as a couple. He said Then stop messaging me at work it gets me in trouble. And so I said and are you going to directly answer my question? he said What Im saying is stop messaging me. My boyfriend is a great guy and I do want to work it out, he has been going through a hard time with his mothers cancer and having to help pay for that. He also works two jobs. Id rather not argue and be the supportive gf I am, but at this time he obviously isn't allowing that by ignoring me. This is out of his character and we really don't have HUGE type blow outs. I am not sure how long he plans to ignore me, or if he is wanting this or not. I choose to not be disrespected so I do not talk to him either, I feel at this stage he wants me he knows where I am. I won't beg or anything not that kind of girl, but surely I do love him. I go to his town in a month, the ticket was bought before this incident an non-refundable even. I have removed the offending problem of messaging. What is the intentions to ignore me for so long? just angry, to leave, to see if ill improve what? I have had time to reflect. I am calm cool relaxed and thinking straight, I am not going to let emotions overwhelm me, I feel in control of myself but curious of others thoughts here. Thanks for any ideas advice or suggestions here! PS he is 30, and I am 28 Also few weeks ago my dad asked him his intentions for his daughter and he told my dad he was ready to marry me in less than 6 months. He has been talking a lot of marriage hence the reason for the trip to prepare paperwork. Obviously there are things wed have to communicate and work out better, but at this point I am like what marriage your ignoring me, and I would have to see he can handle conflict better. But still its like what marriage, your not being a team player here. Edited July 5, 2010 by ladyusa
LittleTiger Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Hi ladyusa. Your post isn't that clear, which is maybe why nobody has replied. How is he ignorning you? Do you mean he hasn't been in touch since that conversation and you haven't contacted him? Relationships take two and somebody has to give after a disagreement, at least to get talking again. It seems a little odd that somebody who apparently wants to marry you within six months hasn't been in contact for a week and a half, but then it sounds as though you haven't contacted him either. If you gave him the option to end the relationship, maybe that's what he's done - but hasn't seen fit to let you know. I think your only option is to get in touch and find out what he's thinking.
Author ladyusa Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Thanks sorry for the confusion on the post was a bit hard to explain! He called me though, and he wants this future and life together, he was clearly just upset over the write up and I gave him my concerns on our communication issues, we will do premartial counseling and were ordering some communication tool books to do as a couple for this next trip up there. But the wedding and all yes is still going strong! Thanks all!
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