ecto-1 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 ....just something I was thinking about, they're holding out for something better? And that's why they aren't completely honest with you or "clam up"? when you suggest meeting? I knew this one woman that told me, "Well, it's not like I'm not interested in the guy...but <insert excuse here> And I'm sure they won't ADMIT to holding out for someone better, but I do hear women do this actually.
norajane Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 If by "something better" you mean someone they are more attracted to without reservations, then, yes, they are holding out for "something better". Isn't that the case with everyone, women and men? Men don't pursue every woman, just the ones they think are "something better" than the girls they choose not to pursue.
tami-chan Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 ....just something I was thinking about, they're holding out for something better? And that's why they aren't completely honest with you or "clam up"? when you suggest meeting? I knew this one woman that told me, "Well, it's not like I'm not interested in the guy...but <insert excuse here> And I'm sure they won't ADMIT to holding out for someone better, but I do hear women do this actually. Some women find it difficult to tell a guy "sorry I am not interested", especially if the guy is very nice because they do not want to hurt the guy's feelings. I do not think they are necessarily "holding out for someone better" but more like, they are hoping that the guy would lose interest without having to be told "I am not interested in you".
Pfiend101 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Because SOME women are selfish and are only concerned about what is doing what is easiest for them and often that means a lie.
BubbleFreak Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Maybe they won't say they aren't interested because they are interested.
ivyterre83 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 for me i wouldnt say for something better maybe for a someone who your waiting for to come around before putting interest into someone else. :/
SarahRose Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Why does someone really need to come right out and say they aren't interested before the person gets the message. I mean come on, it is really easy to tell if someone is interested or not by their body language etc. Women don't like being direct and most won't be. I have to laugh at my social network as every other week someone posts how ticked off they are at "somebody" and that person is on their network but do they actually tell that person directly? No, never. Then come the posts from their friends asking if it is them. lol If someone isn't completely honest with you or clams up when you ask them to do something that is your answer right there. They aren't interested. End of story. as for holding out for someone better. maybe that should be worded they are holding out for someone they are actually interested in.
gamma1 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I'm so confused by the responses. No wonder there is nothing, and I mean nothing, that is harder than dating.
ivyterre83 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 yea that is what i meant lol i didnt know how to put it i SAY if im interested or if im not because i would hate to be in a position where i felt like they were just sugarcoating the situation in order not to hurt my feelings. i mean comeon! your hurting them more by giving false hope. yes or no is the way to go. and "getting a hint" isnt an excuse either.
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