wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 (edited) Okay… Okay… I am following this forum and laughing out loud… I’m thinking to myself… do people really lay out all of their dirty laundry for complete strangers to scrutinize?!?!? And then it dawned on me… OMG that is my dirty laundry!!!! Lol I am also laughing because… If MB and I were to have our own reality show… it would probably be the biggest hit since John and Kate… Our relationship is like a complete TRAIN WRECK!!!!!!! You know… the kind that you know is going to end in a complete massacre and you know you shouldn’t look but you can’t take your eyes off of it because you want to see what happens next. LOL You all are probably shaking your heads wondering what the hell are those two even doing together?!?!?!? It is never going to work!!! Well… the truth is… I am absolutely madly in LOVE with that crackhead MB He’s a little crazy but he has so many great qualities about him… we share private jokes… goals and dreams… he makes me laugh... he makes me crazy... he makes my heart swell I am not accustomed to airing out my dirty laundry for all to scrutinize over… but if that is how he wants to play it… then I am game… because … one of the many things that my wonderful MB failed to mention is... I have told him that I will do whatever it takes for him to feel better about the situation… The only thing is… if we are going to tell the truth… lets tell the whole truth and not leave out any details… eh?!?!? You guys ready for the train wreck?!? Okay… but before I continue… I just want to address the whole wronglyaccused thing… I wanted misunderstood… but it was already taken and it was like 2 in the morning… I was tired and that was the best I could come up with… I never ever had said that what I did was not wrong… as bondgirl had stated… I take full responsibility for my involvement of the texting ordeal… what I am wrongly being accused of is that I had an emotional investment in the situation. That I enjoyed being trashed talked to by a snot nosed douche bag kid… and that I am unwilling to admit that I did anything wrong… Just to make it very clear to everyone… I KNOW THAT I LET THE SITUATION GET OUT OF HAND… I could have handled it better… I was wrong!!!!! I get that… will know how to handle it better in the future… What I have been trying to explain… quite unsuccessfully I see… is that I did not solicitate his advances… I did not ask for him to come on to me…. He was the aggressor and I was playing defense… There was a point where he took it too far… and I thought to myself… okay… there is no saving this… he wants to play… okay… lets play… at that point I went on the offense and manipulated the conversation to my benefit… My intentions were to let him think whatever he wanted to and get his sale… At that point was where I take full responsibility in my actions and once again… I know it was not one of my most stellar decisions… I was WRONG! And am very sorry for any pain that I caused MB. What I will not admit to because it is absolutely not true is that I had any inappropriate intentions with this douche bag kid. MB continues to accuse me of having an emotional affair with this guy… Which makes no kind of sense… because as MB has stated himself… there are a bunch of decent men that I could get my ego stroked by… if I wanted to have an emotional affair with someone… why would I pick a disrespectful trash talking kid to do it with… and… why would I tell MB!!!! About it. So… yes I feel like I am being wrongly accused of two things… Having an emotional affair with that idiot… and not knowing what where and when I did wrong.[/sIZE][/FONT] With that said… let the train wreck begin… MB stated that I am still married and that I have guys texting me all the time and that I wanted to have my ex-husband come to work for me… all true… but lets fill in the blanks for kicks and giggles… When I first met MB… I had been separated from my husband for over 3 and a half years… we were not living together… and had not been intimate for that long… I started picking up the pieces to my life about 6 months before I met MB and he was the 3rd person that I had dated. MB on the other hand… had just broken up with his girlfriend of a year right before he met me… A fact that he failed to mention to me… A messy break up to say the least… so for several of months he strings me a long while he decided if he wanted to make it work with his ex or not… he runs hot… everything is great… then nothing from him… at one point he even changes his phone number without telling me… only to find out later that his ex girlfriend has it… and that they had discussed getting back together but things just didn’t work out… so he finally realizes that I am the one for him. He failed to mention that he repeatedly lied to me… planning our future together… being intimate with me… all the while… he had not finished his relationship with his ex…I found out about the girlfriend from his family and friends… Was I devastated?!?! Absolutely… was I humiliated… absolutely… After much prodding to get the truth out of him… he did not volunteer any info mind you… I had to dig and pry every bit out of him… I forgave him… I understood for him… and I gave him the benefit of the doubt… Still love him uncondtitionally… As someone pointed out in an earlier reply… I have a very liberal viewpoint when it comes to people and relationships… I do not expect anyone to be perfect… and I will always look for the best in people… and give them the benefit of the doubt… I don’t know what circumstances were going through his mind at the time… I can only believe that the man I love is now telling me the truth... As for all these men texting me… While he ran hot and cold I occupied my time with dating other people… none really worked out… because I was truly in love with MB at this time… but I never felt it was necessary to tell these men never to call me again… After MB and I worked things out… he asked to have men stop texting me… which I have been doing as they came up… I did not really feel it necessary to send out a mass text asking all men who I ever talked to never to contact me again. The Doctor that lives out of state… never see or talk to him… MB listened to the voicemail and saw the text… nothing inappropriate was going on… chose to ignore it. The guy from work… A colleague from out of state…never see him… never went out with him… text me good morning beautiful…. I text back… it’s a little too early to be drunk texting don’t you think… he replied… I ignored… did not tell him about MB… probably would not look good for me professionally to be married and have a boyfriend… Told MB that if it really bothered him… I would tell my company… HE said no… Third guy… Someone I dated out of the blue… text me… said he was out on the town. Nothing inappropriate… I said good luck I am getting married… He text back… asking me if I was serious… I ignored it… he text me again… I replied… what do you care?!?! It’s not like we are dating?? Besides… it has always been number 3 (MB) just needed to date a few more numbers to make sure… have not heard back from him since. What my beloved MB did not disclose is… the fact that HIS EX blew up his phone at 2 AM this weekend… Hmmmm… he is so ready to crucify me for men that I have never had any emotional connection with texting me… yet he leaves out the fact that his EX called and texted him this weekend… He also left out my response… I told him to text her back and find out what she needed… I told him that I would expect him to help her in any way he could if she were to truly be in need… you do not ignore someone that you have had a relationship with… I told him that all I ask of him is to be honest with me about it… No jealousy… No mistrust… As for my soon to be ex husband… What MB failed to mention is… I have a four-year-old son with this man… He has not had a job in over 2 years… I am willing to leave my friends and family to move to another state to be with MB… I was only thinking of the custody situation… I was merely brainstorming… trying to figure out the best solution for my son… asking his opinion… he said he was uncomfortable with it… I said fine… we would figure something else out. So… there you have it… Bottom line is… for whatever reasons… I love MB… I made a mistake with the way I handled the inappropriate texting… I am sorry… that I hurt MB with my actions… I feel that I have taken the appropriate steps to rectify my mistake and am willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. I also know that it takes two people… I have said my peace… now the ball is in his court. Once again… thank you everyone for listening and replying… Edited July 7, 2010 by wronglyaccused
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 (edited) Yeah, she shouldn't have asked him that question. She's clearly one who needs validation from men. If she can't stop herself then I'm not sure she's marriage material. She talked about you to her doctor friend in terms of you rocking her world and being her best friend. But this isn't how you treat your best friend. Aweee bondgirl... I can't believe you jumped ship so quickly... you should know... there is always two sides to a story... No worries... Here is a site where you can get more cholesterol info... Thincs.org The quick of it... The liver makes 85% of the cholesterol found in your body because the body needs it. There are three main reasons why your cholesterol would be elevated? 1) Cholesterol is the bodies strongest anti oxident... if you are toxic your body will make more cholesterol to combat the free radical damage. 2) Cholesterol is the precurser to all sex hormones and cortisol your stress hormone... so if you are under a lot of stress your body will elevate cholesterol in order to make more cortisol. 3) Cholesterol... is used to repair damage to the arterial walls due to inflammation of the body. Mainly from your diet... eating sugars and foods that readily turn into sugars is the main cause. So when you take a statin drug... you are not doing anything to address the cause of elevated cholesterol... you are merely damaging the liver to the point that it can no longer make cholesterol. Statins kill... There are many natural ways to lower cholesterol... If you would like more info... please don't hesitate to ask. Edited July 7, 2010 by wronglyaccused
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Yeah, she shouldn't have asked him that question. She's clearly one who needs validation from men. If she can't stop herself then I'm not sure she's marriage material. She talked about you to her doctor friend in terms of you rocking her world and being her best friend. But this isn't how you treat your best friend. Bondgirl.. please reread the original post... pertaining to why I told MB about the incident... You misread it... I said MB was accusing (wrongly) me of only telling him because I was afraid he was going to find out... I said I could have just turned my phone off... if that was what I was afraid of... Even better yet... I could have erased all texts... That was not the case...
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I hope you guys make it but you've got a lot of work to do on your style of resolving conflict and your communication skills. A flirtatious transgression can be overcome but the rest will make you or break you as a couple. Crackhead... term of endearment
Minnie09 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 After reading the entire thread, here's my brief analysis: Could it be that after all the initial imbalance in the relationship (him not being ready to leave the ex, not making a decision, not being upfront abt it on top of that), wronglyaccused was trying to get even by demonstarting that she is also someone who is able to draw on plentiful resources? I think she just might have tried to show the OP that he's not the only one interested in her. By being open abt the text messaging she created the impression that she has nothing to hide, but hey, OP, be aware! Given the atmosphere of deception that he created in the beginning, this would be quite logical. What I suspect, though, is, that the OP's nature is somewhat controlling. He controls the situation in the beginning by directing the relationship, and as soon as she commits to him, he plays the victim whose trust has been violated. It's a jealous reaction, but contradicts his own actions in the beginning of the R. He complains abt her not owning her s**t (sexting and such), but has he owned his? How did he explain the limbo he had put her in, before he made a generous decision to choose one of the two? In my opinion, wronglyaccused was just making a point, and rightly so.
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 He was not texting her... she was texting him... my point was you cannot help what other people do... I was saying... I was not jealous or angry at him... why is it that he is mad at me for men texting me... Definately a trust issue... To further clarify... I was not airing out his dirty laundry to try to hurt him or for no other reason to one up him... I was trying to show that if he feels he has reasons to mistrust me... I have every reason to mistrust him... but I do not. After reading what you wrote... I realized... it just doesn't really matter... none of this... This forum has probably killed whatever chance we might have had to resolve things... Agreeing to let him post this was probably the worst thing I could have done for our relationship. I just hope he gets what he needs from this...
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Ok, you guys are probably sick of me by now but I wanted to add something. RightlyAccused, look at what MB said here: actually in her eyes i seem to be more in the wrong for being upset about than she was for having this three day fling. Is this true? Do you feel that way? I think this is at the root of what's bugging him maybe. Is that right, MB? That is the way he see's it... I have never said that... I totally understand that he is hurt... and I have apologized to him over and over... I told him I would do anything to right the situation for him... What I get upset about is he says he is okay and then he makes jabs and snide reamarks about things to me to purposefully hurt me... I got mad at him not because he does not have the right to be hurt... I just don't think he should try to hurt me in order to make himself feel better... In the beginning of the relationship... when he hurt me... I never ever made him feel bad about himself. I never made him confess to the general public and put himself on the chopping block... I got mad at him because I have apoligized till my mouth has gone dry... I let him post the text log online... with the assumption that we were just going to see what other people thought... I feel like he has turned it into a crucify my girlfriend event... and then on top of that... he is mad at me for what other people say about me... So no... not mad at him for being hurt... mad at him for how he is handling it....
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 You two are retarded. You are both probably highly educated, yet you fail utterly at simple communication and setting boundaries. Just kiss, make up and decide how you will conduct yourselves in the future under the same circumstances. Now that said. MB. She has a child. She'll always be mommy. You'll always have to deal with Daddy. Get over it or get out. Rightly Accused. Bulls**t. You enjoyed leading that GROWN MAN on (yeah, I read the transcript). Stop minimizing it. Stop saying he's some punk kid, it just illuminates your guilt. Yes, I understand you have remorse for that. Good. Don't do it anymore. But its still on the table for discussion. And stop flirting with your clients. It makes you a whore. (sidebar: I don't think prostitutes are whores). Continuing that would always cause me to question your fidelity when you were away. It's inappropriate, and you're supposed to be professional. MB may say he doesn't mind...(shhhh..he does). Okay that may be a little harsh, but I see nothing here not easily remedied by a few sentences and an OK lets do that. Carry on. Have a good life.
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I get it about the texting but was he not texting HER too? And I know you can't control what others do. I already pointed that earlier in your defense. But what you can control is your response. He didn't ignore the texts, right? I don't understand. How has this forum killed whatever chance you might have to resolve things? I don't get that. And why DID you agree to let him come here? I'm just curious. Were you talking about it and couldn't get any resolution BEFORE he posted here? It sounds like it to me. You can blame the forum if it makes you feel better but the fact is you both couldn't resolve this on your own. You both need clear boundaries about what's acceptable and what's not in your relationship because right now the line is fuzzy. This is a pretty common issue with couples and it's not insurmountable. I've already disclosed my issue and even at the beginning of our marriage I had to talk to my H about boundaries where his ex-wife was concerned. (She was often intrusive and calling all the time.) No... I thought we had already worked everything out... He says he trust me... but as you can see... he does not... We were laughing and joking about the situation... we decided that our relationship was stronger from having weathered the storm.... He wanted to post it because we disagreed on what people would think if they saw it... And what happened was it went 50/50 Some people saw my side some people saw his side... it is posted on another forum as well.... I really did not think anybody would care... but I was wrong... Instead of just leaving the comments alone he felt the need to have conversations with everyone pointing out all of my wrong doings... Thats when I got mad and posted... and here we are... Sad eh???? What I did not realize yesterday... when I got mad and posted... was that he might have just needed to vent... I saw it as him throwing me under the bus... And as for todays posting... Again... I felt attacked and so I tried to explain myself... I don't know how to fix this at this point.
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 You two are retarded. You are both probably highly educated, yet you fail utterly at simple communication and setting boundaries. Just kiss, make up and decide how you will conduct yourselves in the future under the same circumstances. Now that said. MB. She has a child. She'll always be mommy. You'll always have to deal with Daddy. Get over it or get out. Rightly Accused. Bulls**t. You enjoyed leading that GROWN MAN on (yeah, I read the transcript). Stop minimizing it. Stop saying he's some punk kid, it just illuminates your guilt. Yes, I understand you have remorse for that. Good. Don't do it anymore. But its still on the table for discussion. And stop flirting with your clients. It makes you a whore. (sidebar: I don't think prostitutes are whores). Continuing that would always cause me to question your fidelity when you were away. It's inappropriate, and you're supposed to be professional. MB may say he doesn't mind...(shhhh..he does). Okay that may be a little harsh, but I see nothing here not easily remedied by a few sentences and an OK lets do that. Carry on. Have a good life. LOL... I totally concur with you!!!!! We are both totally RETARDED!!!! thank you for your blunt and harsh analysis of the situation... I just hope MB will too... but probably not... his sense of humor... not as good as mine.
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I told him "You are either going to forgive me or you're not. Let me know if you can't get past this so we can move on." Public Announcement: Only follow this advice if your BS is a doormat. If not, you might conduct all future communication with BS through a lawyer.
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Iconoclast, yes she's a mom and will have to deal with her ex but what does that have to do with wanting to have her ex working with her? That's a whole other ball of wax. But I agree with the last part of your post. For whatever reason MB can't seem to move on from this yet. That's the conversation and boundaries conversation I was talking about. MB: "Hey baby, I have no problem with us needing to be close to Baby Godzilla, but I don't want you to work directly with Vile Human. Help him find a job, sure that's fine" WRONGLY: "Ok, great, thanks" TAAA - DAAA (another problem solved). Anyway, where is he? Crying in his cereal. HEY MOPEY, get your fiancee off the computer and tell her what your expectations of a good relationship are. Then bend her over the couch and make her see stars. Then tell her, that's what you lose if you screw up.
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Not at all. He's anything BUT a doormat. It was just a wake-up call to him. He knew he was taking it too far and he didn't want to break a marriage over it when I was remorseful, and more than apologetic. Besides, didn't you read what I wrote before that? He hardly took it lying down! Don't know the details of your infidelity / recovery, suffice to say I'm glad it's working for you two. I'd put you on the street for saying that. But, should mention that part of the reconciliation would be to provide me every detail, 100% honestly, on demand for the rest of my life.
wronglyaccused Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 That's the conversation and boundaries conversation I was talking about. MB: "Hey baby, I have no problem with us needing to be close to Baby Godzilla, but I don't want you to work directly with Vile Human. Help him find a job, sure that's fine" WRONGLY: "Ok, great, thanks" TAAA - DAAA (another problem solved). Crying in his cereal. HEY MOPEY, get your fiancee off the computer and tell her what your expectations of a good relationship are. Then bend her over the couch and make her see stars. Then tell her, that's what you lose if you screw up. My point exactly!!!!!!! I said thank you for your blunt and harsh analysis... And this guy... takes it to the next level with trash talk!!!!! I am sure it is totally my fault though because I put opened the door for that.... you wanna call Bull S**T... that is BullS**T!!!!! I am learning quick... watch this!!!! YOU ARE AN A**!!!!!!
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 My point exactly!!!!!!! I said thank you for your blunt and harsh analysis... And this guy... takes it to the next level with trash talk!!!!! I am sure it is totally my fault though because I put opened the door for that.... you wanna call Bull S**T... that is BullS**T!!!!! I am learning quick... watch this!!!! YOU ARE AN A**!!!!!! Your'e either kidding and i'm missing it, or You're serious, and i've unintentionally offended you. My apologies if the latter.
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 You'd put me on the street? Haha. Glad I'm not married to you. Anyway, how's that kind of attitude workin' for you? Perfect. I've never spoken to the one who cheated on me. My wife of 14 yrs adores me and I her. I won. I have it all.
2sunny Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 why would you two think you need to get married so quickly after just starting your R? my best advice is to wait. time will reveal more truth for both of you - in your actions. loving behavior is thinking of the other person's feelings/position before you consider your own. a reflection of sorts... when you both can get to that point instead of only defending and/or justifying bad behavior and lots of words to explain things... THAT will show healthy progress. in the meantime do not plan to marry. wait - and then see what the other's action tell you/show you. no need for all the words when you are simply DOING the right thing all the time. to watch ones actions tells you his/her intentions and character. integrity is key. and it never needs all this explaining. to wait will reveal what the right thing is for both of you. to rush and compromise isn't healthy for your future.
Author MB2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Wow. This is really unbelievable!! Do we really want to air all the past?? Well, since it was brought up the reason I ran after west had nothing to do with someone else. I had Ben dating wronglyaccused for a few weeks and she told me "oh yea, im a jehovias witness" Christmas, Easter, mothersday, birthdays.... I don't celebrate them hey are all pagan holidays". Well, that scared the he'll out of me and I ran. I ran like forrest gump!! Lol bit after I thought about it i realizes that I cared for her enough that I could overcome it. Now as far as my x girlfriend texting...... She called one time and text one time Saturday night at 2 in the morning. She knows I have stArted a new life and knows about wronglyaccused. The text in question said "I'm scared". I text back with wronglyaccused at my side "ofwhat". And that was it. For all I know she was drunk texting. Let's ask u a question bondgirl....... How long was your hubby hurt? And how long did he make "jabs"?? I had less than a week to recover from her 3 day sexting fling. And u add on top of that the fact that the very weekend after she has three differenten texting her that knows nothing of me. Then throw on in the "I'm thinking aboutovong my x up and hiring him to work with me" thing. PleAse find me one person who says they would be ok with this situation??? Again I want to say that I actually trust her 100% but shaw is completly oblivious to her actions and how that makese feel and her look!! And bringing up partial facts from the past to justify her actions is a pretty week attempt at affirmation!!!!
Author MB2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 (edited) Wow. This is really unbelievable!! Do we really want to air all the past?? Well, since it was brought up the reason I ran after two weeks had nothing to do with someone else. I had Been dating wronglyaccused for a few weeks and she told me "oh yea, im a jehovias witness". Christmas, Easter, mothersday, birthdays.... I don't celebrate them hey are all pagan holidays". Well, that scared the hell out of me and I ran. I ran like forrest gump!! Lol. but after I thought about it i realizes that I cared for her enough that I could overcome it. Now as far as my x girlfriend texting...... She called one time and text one time Saturday night at 2 in the morning. She knows I have stArted a new life and knows about wronglyaccused. The text in question said "I'm scared". I text back with wronglyaccused at my side "ofwhat". And that was it. For all I know she was drunk texting. Let me ask u a question bondgirl....... How long was your hubby hurt? And how long did he make "jabs"?? I had less than a week to recover from her 3 day sexting fling. And u add on top of that the fact that the very weekend after she has three different men texting her that knows nothing of me. Then throw in the "I'm thinking about moving my x up and hiring him to work with me" when we get married thing. PleAse find me one person who says they would be ok with this situation??? Again I want to say that I actually trust her 100% but shaw is completly oblivious to her actions and how that makese feel and her look!! And bringing up partial facts from the past to justify her actions is a pretty week attempt at affirmation!!! And the reason for me posting online to begin with?? Well, that should be apparent by this point..... Because she seriously thought it wasn't a big deal and everyone would tell me to chill out that it was nothing. Geez, she just posted above that it's been 50/50 on the responses. I mean REALLY?? That only shows le that she still doesn't quite get it!!! Edited July 7, 2010 by MB2010
Author MB2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 U know I just went back and read the chat log for the first time sncenot was uploaded..... She says I accused her of havmg an emotional attachment. She sent him pictures of her kids!!! But she deleted that post, it evident when on June 26 he tells her that her sister is cute and she tells him that was he dAughter. Als gone is the text when he ask her for a naughty pic and she tells him that she can't send one but there are some online for him to see f he can dnd them. She deleted those txts but she didn't delete the ones on June 26 where he says "send me the pics or give me the website". She had an emotional attachment to him or she wouldn't be sendng him pics of her kids and she kept the sextng gong on by telling him things like " there are naughty pics of me online, see if u can find them" I would love to hear her response to that. Why did she delete the texts? How can she say it wasn't emotional and how can she say that she wAsn't just as guilty as he was. It's kind f like u said bondgirl when he asked if she was married she said "no". No mention of having a fiancée. Oh well, I'm done with the relationship. She lied and continues to lie to cover ot all up. I love her with everything I have but I'm not going to be In a relationship like that
2sunny Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 U know I just went back and read the chat log for the first time sncenot was uploaded..... She says I accused her of havmg an emotional attachment. She sent him pictures of her kids!!! But she deleted that post, it evident when on June 26 he tells her that her sister is cute and she tells him that was he dAughter. Als gone is the text when he ask her for a naughty pic and she tells him that she can't send one but there are some online for him to see f he can dnd them. She deleted those txts but she didn't delete the ones on June 26 where he says "send me the pics or give me the website". She had an emotional attachment to him or she wouldn't be sendng him pics of her kids and she kept the sextng gong on by telling him things like " there are naughty pics of me online, see if u can find them" I would love to hear her response to that. Why did she delete the texts? How can she say it wasn't emotional and how can she say that she wAsn't just as guilty as he was. It's kind f like u said bondgirl when he asked if she was married she said "no". No mention of having a fiancée. Oh well, I'm done with the relationship. She lied and continues to lie to cover ot all up. I love her with everything I have but I'm not going to be In a relationship like that good for you MB. maybe you loved the woman you thought she COULD be. the potential vs the reality are sometimes worlds apart. took me 20 years to figure out what the meaning of those two sentences represent in my life.
lkjh Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 MB, there are too many red flags in this relationship. She obviously enjoys the attention of other men and you have caught her 3 times having text relationships. You two just met recently and you are engaged and this is already going Think with your head. You might want to step back from getting married and actually think about this. You are getting some clear cut warnings but love can blind a man
ComputerJock Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 (edited) Better to take the pain of a breakup know the the bitter remorse of a divorce later on. Let her husband have her back. Edited July 7, 2010 by ComputerJock
Author MB2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 (edited) Thank you for the reply bondgirl the texting thing ended a week ago Sunday. Then we met up again on Friday for the long weekend and the texts from the other three guys started rolling in. So actually it's just been a few days! I never faulted her for making a mistake. And I believe a person isn't defined by the mistakes they have made but by the dignity and integrity they handle themselves afterwards. U make mistakes, u own up to them and then u learn and grow from the experience. It seems that Im just in over my head here. She is younger and more attractive than I am and its pretty obvious that I would never be able to hold her attention. Thanks for your input and help but I guess it's time for me to move along. Edited July 7, 2010 by MB2010
Iconoclast Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I'm happy for you. My husband of 15 years and I love each other also. I learned my lesson and we're very happy. As for Wrongly...I didn't get her last post. I think that might have been directed at MB maybe? Not sure. And I am VERY happy for you. Successful reconciliation is uplifting. BTW, my "out the door comment"... that would be an agreement to reconciliation. That's why for me, "get over it" would be a deal breaker. I decide when I'm over it. As Wrongly..dunno, it was a silly quip aimed at MB to lighten the mood. My error I guess.
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