Mikki Mars Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 So I meet a girl after a good chat in a grocery store, and get her number. I call her, have a great convo, and end it like "lets hang out sometime." I text her one night if she wants to get dinner, and she's like "that would b nice but I have to meet up some friend later for dinner, she's leaving for the summer! What about Thursday night??" and I respond "I'll c what I'm up to them, I'll let u know" and she responds "OK! Let me know :)" So I text her Thurs like "i'm hungry...lets get some food" and I get no response, and I call her the next day and get no answer. What did I do wrong? Does this mean she's not interested, playing hard to get, what? What should I have done or said?
yah Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 What did I do wrong? Does this mean she's not interested, playing hard to get, what? What should I have done or said? You waited all the way until Thursday to text her. She might've gotten the sense that you had plans Thurs but the plans fell through last minute and that was why you texted her. She either wasn't free Thurs or was turned off from you thinking she was sitting around waiting for you on Thurs. That's my take. I'm a girl.
Author Mikki Mars Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 What did I do wrong? Does this mean she's not interested, playing hard to get, what? What should I have done or said? You waited all the way until Thursday to text her. She might've gotten the sense that you had plans Thurs but the plans fell through last minute and that was why you texted her. She either wasn't free Thurs or was turned off from you thinking she was sitting around waiting for you on Thurs. That's my take. I'm a girl. I thought I was simply playing "hard to get," and I know being "too available" is also a turnoff. How do I balance being polite with not being too available and playing "hard to get," because I know girls love reaching for things which seem hard (no pun intended)
yah Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I thought I was simply playing "hard to get," and I know being "too available" is also a turnoff. How do I balance being polite with not being too available and playing "hard to get," because I know girls love reaching for things which seem hard (no pun intended) Hmm, I'm just thinking that 48-72hr notice would've been nice. Why not try to set up another date with a set time?
alyssatranswarrior Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I never ever would play hard to get with your pun, there...Lol Anyhow, I agree with the first replier. It seems you should have messaged wed night asking about thurs! That would not have seemed too available. But now you shouldnt force it since maybe she was busy with something unexpected - let her make the next move.
westrock Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 A few things you did wrong: "lets hang out sometime" shows you had no ability to plan. Texting someone to go for dinner for a first date that same night is too short notice. When she suggested going out on Thursday, instead of saying a definite YES, you answer with a vague ""I'll c what I'm up to them" which basically says that if something better comes up then you're busy, but if nothing better comes up then you'll go out with her. Doesn't convey a message of interest on your part. Then on Thursday you simply text her "i'm hungry...lets get some food". What about her?
Serenitynow Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 All of you are living in another reality, or you are simply trying to cover for this girl blowing him off. Or both. This lady simply had no interest in going out. If she was TRULY interested she will MAKE herself available and anyone with half a brain knows it. People give their numbers out all the time, and either change their mind after the fact, or have no intention of actually going on the date. IT DOES NOT MATTER how nice and cordial she was with him in person or on the phone. People will manipulate these situations like pros. I have had women tell me to me face how they had a GREAT first date and WOULD LOVE to do it again soon. And then when I try to get a 2nd date, they dissapear from the face of the earth. Males and females do it, if she was interested she would have not ditched him twice PERIOD .
Recommended Posts