emely Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 hey all of you!! I have a question about guys giving compliments? can a guy (straight)give you a compliment without actually meaning something romatic about it. A guy I recently worked with sent me an mail saying "Hello Lady, Hope you are well. Just a compliment, please don't read to much into it, but you are stunning! Next time you owe me a beer!" He has a girlfriend and they seem very happy and stabil. He is very outgoing and friendly. I think she is as well, I have only met her briefley but liked her. I will probably never see this guy again since I've moved quite far away., So is this just a nice harmless compliment or something more??? Thanks for all input!! cheers
Gero Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I can't speak for most guys because don't relate to a lot of them. I give out a lot of compliments, but when I do, I actually mean them. I don't think that I have given a compliment to a girl that I was not interested in unless she was obviously fishing for one. At the same time, I have never complimented another girl while I was in a relationship. I don't really know what to tell you. That's just me. Most guys on here will probably say something different. I don't know.
Author emely Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 I can give compliments to other guys even if Im in a relationship. It doens't mean I want something for it, I mean I wouldnt go out of my way to do it you know.. I mean this guys gives a lot of people complimets(incl guys sometimes) etc??
Serenitynow Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I mean this guys gives a lot of people complimets(incl guys sometimes) etc?? Are you trying to ask : Does this guy give out compliments on a regular basis to other people as well ? No one can read his mind and tell what his intentions are. Anyone that gives you an answer is simply guessing as to what the guy may be thinking. If you are never going to see him again then why do you even care what he means ? .
madde09 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I don't think he necessarily means something "romatic" with it, i mean just because you're in a relationship doesn't make you blind. And maybe since you're going away he just thought he would be nice and compliment you. I mean he says "please don't read to much into this", Which I think he means something like that he finds you attractice but wouldn't wnat to do anthing cause he loves his GF?? or am I totally wrong here??
Author emely Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 My first reaction was "how nice" and nothing else but after thinking about it I became a little thoughtfull about it. Cause if he doesn;t really mean anything about it I'll reply to it just saying thanks, hope youre good, bla blka bla.. But if not I'm not gnna reply at all.... So Im wondering just in general about guys and compliments I guess, if you guys in relationships give out complimets like that to other girls??
madde09 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 hmm well maybe some more guys should respond? But I think this might just be an innocent compliment?
Author emely Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 So what do girls think about this? If it was your boyfriend emailing this to someone??
Engadget Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Most guys wouldn't say something like that unless they were trying to get in your pants, unless they're gay of course.
Author emely Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 the thing is though I won't see him again???probably ever again?
White Dove Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 the thing is though I won't see him again???probably ever again? He's just giving you a compliment. He did say don't read too much into it. Take it as it is.
Author emely Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 thanks for all your replies, yeah you're right White Dove, he did say "don't read to much into it" and we'll prob.never meet again. Thanks! More replies are very welcome!!!
madde09 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 had a talk with some of my male friends yesterday, and I brought this subject up( God I love having male friends!!) and almost all of the said he probably didn't mean anything, otherwise he wouldn't have said "Don't read to much into this" two said that if you were still around that he probably would have wanted something but as you're gone he probably just meant it as a nice compliment. They also carried on talking about how sensitive chicks are if their boyfriend finds anyone else attractive etc etc...and that they cant really give another chick a compliment without their girlfirends and wives getting jealous.. So I was wondering if when a guy gives compliments, does he always have to "want" something or what??
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