roccoandraddo Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 my GF is conservative on sex and nudity in all forms, if there is a scantily clad/naked woman anywhere or in any form (on tv, movies, in person) she goes off on a tyrade about how the girl's an f-ing skank whore slut from hell and has no right to exist and how men are pigs and are to blame for the acceptance of sexual content in media, etc. She gets into a bad mood for a while after any such incident, and especially if I'm there with her when it happens. If we're watching a movie and there's a brief instant of nudity and I don't have time to look away, then she assumes that I was watching it intently and lusting after the woman on the screen. That's just not my style, though, that's not real or relevant to me, I really don't care about some girl in a movie and I don't even think about it. I told my GF that I share and accept many of her convictions about sex but that there's so much of it in the world that you might as well just lighten up and not go off every time there's some skank in sight, while retaining you own views. I don't like having to deal with this all the time and being made to feel like a criminal when that's just not my style. Any input?
Errol Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 Any input? Yes. Dump her -- you don't need to put up with her anger or her issues. It will only get worse and hurt you. If you don't want to dump her then confront her and tell her that she has some issues that you won't tolerate and you want her to get some counseling to deal with them and that you will also go to couples counseling. Tell her that her attitude at times is hurting you and that is unacceptable. Tell her you would not expect her to tolerate behavior or attitudes that hurt her. If she claims that she already IS tolerating behavior from you that hurts her, then either go to counseling together, or go back to my original response -- dump her.
LaureninVA Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 Wow - she's got some serious issues, and chances are unless she goes to counseling she won't change. Do you want to live with being the focus of her tyrades forever? I can understand being conservative about sex/nudity, but this IS 2004 and it is part of American culture. Maybe she should move to Amish country.
moimeme Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 It is important that a couple share values. You two clearly differ greatly on everything to do with sex. This will be BIG trouble in the long run. It sounds like she is unlikely to change. Think VERY seriously about how wise it would be to continue this relationship, given the vast difference in your attitudes.
SoleMate Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 Hey rocco, you've got like 5 different thread going describing your major differences with your GF. There are plenty of red flags. She's very conservative, and says "...the girl's an f-ing skank whore slut from hell ...and ...men are pigs". HUNNHH??? If that's the way the nice girls talk in your area, I don't want to hear the foulmouthed ones. You don't need to be Dr. Joyce Brothers to know that this young lady has got some serious issues relating to sexuality. Sounds like your desire will always be filthy and vile in her mind.
dyermaker Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 the two of you just don't belong in a relationship, there's not going to be an easy way to get out of it, but you're going to find it a LOT harder to stay.
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