AlexiHC Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 So I recently met this woman, she asked for my number 2 weeks ago and suggested going out for drinks something. didnt hear from her for a week until she stopped by my work again, we were talking and she asked what my days off were that work. I told her and she again suggested going out, so i made sure she had my number and she texted me later that day so I had her number. We didnt talk at all the following day *wednesday*, SO i texted her thursday to set up plans for friday night. She seemed excited, lots of smiley faces throughout her texts etc. So friday rolls around and we went out and hung out for almost 3 hours, the drinks turned into drinks and dinner and hangin out after that. As we were leaving I got a hug, and she suggested hanging out again. Later that night I told her I had fun, she said she did too, and said she would call me after she got off work the next day *saturday, yesterday*. Havent heard from her since, wth?
Cracker Jack Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Um, wow. It's only been one day. Hardly qualifies as "playing games" at this point.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 I dunno maybe it's me but if I say I'm gonna call somebody at a certain time. I do lol
Gero Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Yeah, I know. What's up with that? Men ALWAYS call when they say they will. I do unless there is really something that comes up to where I can't take 2 minutes to call someone. I guess I am just weird like that. I live up to what I tell someone I am going to do.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 (edited) Ok so here we go. I'm not trying to just bone this girl the first night, she doesn't seem like that big of a slut. I work till 2 am at least, bars are closed then which is why It couldn't be an after work thing. We both live at home and she had to work at 6am the following morning. Which is why we didn't go anywhere else. I shoulda been more agressive I guess. But at the same time I thought of pit as more if a get to know her thing and if it went well then push it to the next level next time Edited July 5, 2010 by AlexiHC Spelling
Author AlexiHC Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Ugh now I'm just mad at myself for messing this up dammit!
Author AlexiHC Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Ya I guess, I start a new job next week, gonna be really awkward if she comes in this week though I won't even know what to say
Author AlexiHC Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Na I'm just gonna go tear it up at the gym when I get off work, screw it lol this is why I don't care about dating. I had a 2 year relationship and did everything under the sun already. Never ends up working out
Hot Carl Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 (edited) Either that or you can think about pink elephants. That sometimes works for me. I wouldn't put it past you. Just keep your clothes on, goddess. We don't need any bare ones running around here stirring up trouble. Edited July 5, 2010 by Hot Carl
bac Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 There is misunderstanding because she behaves as a man, and you behave as a girl. That is hard to date this way. A man is expected to lead and take an initiative to call a girl. If you give the initiative to a girl, you put yourself in a strange situation because she does not really know what to do with that.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Lol the only thing she did was ask for my number I set everything else up, time place day etc. She just beat me to the number part, but it is a non issue now as she us clearly not interested, which strikes me as odd considering she was poppin off with all these plans about going to do stuff such as you should come with me to Mexico in December or we should go do this or that sometime. Then I don't hear from her hah whatever edit: also I am not going to text her again and look desperate after she didn't hit me up lol
bac Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Lol the only thing she did was ask for my number I set everything else up, time place day etc. She just beat me to the number part, but it is a non issue now as she us clearly not interested, which strikes me as odd considering she was poppin off with all these plans about going to do stuff such as you should come with me to Mexico in December or we should go do this or that sometime. Then I don't hear from her hah whatever edit: also I am not going to text her again and look desperate after she didn't hit me up lol Calling her does not make you look desperate. It is your right to call her if she promised to call you, but did not follow up. It is your natural behavior as a man to take all initiative and be assertive. It is your natural behavior to chase a girl, while her natural behavior is to try to put herself into a position to be chased.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Somewhat but if a girl says she will call you and then doesn't come through on that, I take it as a sign she isn't interested I asked my buddy if I should text her but he said to give her some time or I'll come off as desperate, on top of that she was gonna come keep me company today, haven't heard or seen her so lol ya
xpaperxcutx Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Initial attractions fade quickly. When she asked you for your number she might have thought you were attractive but overtime, with just minor communications thru texting, her attraction became lukewarm. The fact that she went out for drinks with you meant she at least put in some effort to see how things would go, but when you guys parted ways, the whole attraction just fizzed out. I doubt she meant to play games but I can say for sure she wasn't clear on what she had wanted.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 (edited) I understand that paper, what I don't understand is why stick around for 3 hours and make plans for the next day lol if she was like alright I'm gonna get going after like half an hour, that woulda made more sense, like we somewhat made plans for the next day after we had left the bar already that's what is dumb lol the reason this is bothering me is because I like to think I have good intuition on this kind of stuff, which clearly I do not lol and I'm not used to getting shrugged off like that Edited July 5, 2010 by AlexiHC
xpaperxcutx Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I understand that paper, what I don't understand is why stick around for 3 hours and make plans for the next day lol if she was like alright I'm gonna get going after like half an hour, that woulda made more sense, like we somewhat made plans for the next day after we had left the bar already that's what is dumb lol the reason this is bothering me is because I like to think I have good intuition on this kind of stuff, which clearly I do not lol and I'm not used to getting shrugged off like that Well Alex unless you're a mind reader, we'll never really know. Let's just chalk this to bad timing and bad luck. The next time you really like a girl, make an effort to pursue more.
Author AlexiHC Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 So update to the story, I get a text today "hey how are you" I was like in good you? She goes I'm good I just wanted to say hi , woman are insane seriously
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