Turtlelover28 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Although my friend and i were in the talking and haning out stage since dec and we are in our 20's, I would spend the weekends with him at his house,we both had strong feelings for one another,as he has told me, in feb he was in an accident and we havent seen one another since feb, although i have made numerous attempts to see him. He lives about 30 mins from me and i asked to see him for a few mins at a gas station or the mall or anywhere he suggested, he said he was watching a movie, but would see me next weekend, i told him its ok, sorry i asked to see you, after making several attempts to see him, i told him i am ok now with you not wanting to even be friends,he said we are friends, i have waited long enough to try and work things out, but its time i start living my life and to pursue other interests, i said i dont think you want to be friends cause u cant even see me for 5 mins, he then again said, i will see you next weekend, thats if you and your boyfriend do not have any plans, which i never told him i was dating anyone or even talking to another man, he knew i still liked him and i wanted to try to get together. I told him i think he has mental issues since he at once cared about me and now he gives me the cold shoulder. He then asked why am i trying so hard to get with him, i said im not, i was trying to be a friend my feelings have changed, then he says, well no need to worry about me anymore then, do you want me to delete your number, i said do what you want your doing it anyway, then he said i was being a smart a**, all i could after after that was say ok, and thats the last time i heard from him. Prior to all of this he told my friend he wanted to work things out with me and be with me. I havent spoke to him in 7 days, so i dont know if he was trying to ask in a indirect way if i had a boyfriend or not, does he still have feelings for me? Is he hurt that i no longer want a friendship with him? Although i still want a friendship i said i didnt out of anger, i still love him Should i contact him again or let him contact me? Why wouldnt he meet me? I tried meeting him to get some answers but he wont meet me.
paddington bear Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 He thinks he has been friendzoned and is trying to cut you out of his life because he's tired of being stung along. Either make it clear to him that you want to see him 'not as a friend' to finally get together, or leave him alone. He doesn't want to be your friend, he wants to be your boyfriend and if he can't be your boyfriend, friendship isn't going to cut it.
Author Turtlelover28 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 I have told him or i thought i did that i wanted to work things out that is why i was trying to meet him to talk face to face but he will not meet me for what reason i do not know. Do you think i should call him and tell him i would like to be back with him and work out or problems and then let the ball be in his court to contact me again?
norajane Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I honestly cannot figure out what's what from your posts. 1. Call him and be honest with whatever you feel or want, whatever that is. Do not ask to meet him so you can tell him all this, because he'll turn you down again. He's not going to meet you because he's under the impression a) you have a bf, maybe, b) that you've put him in the friend zone, and/or c) you don't know what you want from him...friends, more than friends, he has no freaking clue. 2. Be very clear with him, because if I can't understand what you're trying to say and I read your post 3 times, it's very likely he cannot understand you either. 3. STFU about all this friends crap. I think you want to date him (although I'm not clear about that from your posts), but if you want him to be your bf - tell him so. Tell him you don't have a bf and you would like him to be your bf. 4. Ask him what you want to know, very clearly.
Author Turtlelover28 Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Thank you for all your input, and norajane i tried calling him last night and i kinda had a feeling he wouldnt answer so i left a nice voice mail, i also texted the same thing that i wanted to meet him when hes ready and work on getting back together and grow with him and my feelings were and still are real and true, but i havent heard from him yet, so either hes not interested anymore and has moved on by telling me by the silent treatment, or hes thinking, so i will lay low and see what happens, thanks again for everyones advice.
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