AlwaysConflicted Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Has anyone heard of any stories where the dumper has come on to LS and seen that the dumpee is speaking ill of them? We chat freely and get so personal. I wonder what our exes would think or would say if they saw it? I'm guessing that 99% of the time the dumper doesn't care enough to visit LS looking for support. Or at least not at the same time as the dumpee. The threads would probably get lost before the dumper could see them. I'm curious if anyone has heard of it happening?
Tony Posted July 4, 2010 Senior Moderators Posted July 4, 2010 There is absolutely no way that can happen if members pick excellent anonymous user names and keep them confidential. The ONLY way information can be compromised is if people use the names they use for everything on the Internet or they tell everybody on the street what name they're using on LoveShack...and that's pretty ignorant. If anybody knows the name a member is using, all they have to do is Google it. It makes me sick to know the number of people who post very personal life situations in our forums using identities that either all of the relatives and friends know or that they just tell everybody. Pretty DUMB to me. Then, they write to the site saying how shook up they are that everybody is reading their stuff...and will we delete it. Yeah, delete it after all their friends have read it...hahaha!
Star Gazer Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 There is absolutely no way that can happen if members pick excellent anonymous user names and keep them confidential. There are far more obvious ways of figuring it out beyond knowing a person's user name. It's all in the details.
Numb Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 There was a thread about a week ago or so, I went to read it and it was pretty late that night and the last post was his girlfriend telling him to tell everyone the truth and pretty much ripped him a new one BUT she edited it that morning to just say "maybe you should just talk to your girlfriend about this" I'm not even sure if he picked up on it or not cause he replied to her post.....Crazy...... So it can and did happen! It happened from being careless I'm sure.
spriggig Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 My STBXW could easily discover me here if she wanted to. I don't think she has, but she probably wouldn't tell me if she did. I've told the truth here and tried to keep it balanced, I have nothing to hide.
eca Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I actually worry about this every time I post on here! Haha, I actually get paranoid when I see a post that is similar to my situation, and think it's my ex! But, like someone mentioned, I doubt our exes -- dumpers, specifically -- care to come looking for what we write about them/what we're doing in general.
TwoForgiving Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I know my ex found me here and started to read my posts. It was mostly a mutual break but nasty nonetheless a few years ago so I have no idea what he gets out of reading my older posts that I wrote using a different name. I assume he wants to know what's going on in my life and if I am happy without him but he happily walked away for someone else so it really is none of his business. If he doesn't have anything better to do with his time, let him read - I never lied about him and I don't care if he knows how I really felt. More than likely, his rebound is over and he's finding himself alone now - not my problem.
shadowplay Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 (edited) My ex knows that I post on loveshack (I told him about it when we were together), and I mentioned it once offhand after we broke up. But I know he'd never even visit the site. He's just not the kind of guy who would. And I don't think he would even care enough to know what I was thinking. He also wouldn't want to risk his thin sheel of rationalization by exposing himself to more feelings of guilt about how he treated me. Which is why he's lame. Edited July 5, 2010 by shadowplay
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