Men, if your at the 1 & 1/2 mark do you "know" if she is the one?

[freckles3131]

One and a half month mark..

Analyze this....

It's an email from a guy that I dated. We are still friends and we were discussing his current situation with his new gal. It's at the 1 and a half mark.

 

"yes we do hang out, but not in the same way that I did with you. It is very casual and we just have fun together. Yes she swears like a trucker, texts like a 16 year old, can be obnoxious at times, but she treats me well and has a big heart. Most people don't see it because their initial impression is not good (which I can understand why), and she has made a reputation for herself (which she completely admits to). She helps her friends and goes way out of her way to help those around her (that's what I see). Maybe the rose colored glasses will wear off, but then it's my problem to deal with.

 

When I first met her I was LESS than impressed with her (as that was my first impression), but after sitting back and watching her interact with her friends, I saw past the intitial shock (which I'm sure most people can't) and saw a cool person.

Right now I am just having fun and am not emotionally invested at this time."

 

 

(on a side bar....he brought her up to the lakehouse this weekend where his entire family is going to be...and they are staying the night)

Do you think he is telling me he is "not emotionally invested at this time and just having fun??" or is he placating me to make me feel better since we broke up?

[CailinPig]

did he break up with you? sounds like he might still hold a candle for you, it doesn't make sense otherwise, certainly sounds like he's not that into this girl at all

[freckles3131]

Yeah, he ended it with me but it was sort of mutual. We both knew it was time to part way for a bit. Both of us have stuff we need to work on, and some inner stuff to deal with.

We are both working on it, but needed to be apart to get our head's cleared.

I don't want to misread anything he is saying to me, because even though I am good and quite happy right now doing the "me" thing. (not needy/insecure/don't "need" someone in my life kinda girl, I do still love him to some extent.

I agree that we needed a break. He broke and said, "maybe again down the road, but he needs to work on some stuff. (which I believe he is...)

I just dont want to misread him and have him be "downplaying" their relationship....or "friendship" or whatnot.

So from a guys perspective if you were telling your ex gf this would you be being honest or sparing her "feeling" about the girl??