Thierro Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 (edited) It’s been NC for 3 weeks now. I am feeling better. I still have the idea that she and I would be great together. Even after the break-up. I would like her to see the new me; the guy without the insecurity and neediness I suffered from. If she still doesn’t like the new me; fine. It would only make it easier to go on with my life and have total closure about it. I know she won’t break the NC. She respects what I want, so even if she wants me back, she wouldn’t contact me whatsoever. I want to work things out together. I was too insecure and she had a bit of fear of commitment. She didn’t want to be in a relationship and wanted to have new adventures and get to know other people. Besides that I really believed she and I would share our life together. I don’t really know how to put this strong believe aside? I don't know if I can let everything go when I believe that she made a mistake to let me go. That we can be happy. I just wouldn't take crap from her anymore. And I also don’t know how I could ever trust another girl again or believe the words she is saying to me. A week before the break-up she told me that I was everything, that she loved me SO much and that she needed me. When she broke up, she was cold and distant. So if I would have a new relationship and the girl would tell me the same exact words. The only thing I will think is; Yes, I know you THINK you feel this way, but those feelings can end in just a couple of hours. I don’t know how to give myself again, when someone can be this way. Everyone else here has been through the same. Edited July 4, 2010 by Thierro
graywolf Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Hey Thierro, I'm going through the same thing. A week before our breakup, or even less than week she said through a letter that she wanted to marry me... Like she actually asked me, almost like a proposal. Well, all I can say is not to give up hope, as that is what I'm doing. Just live your life, and know that you feel love in your heart. And like the bible says in the passage about love, love is patient... and kind... and all that other stuff. So be patient, and you'll eventually find your true love, whether it was her or someone even more suited for you. I will do the same.
jond77 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I know what you are going through. The week before my ex broke up with me she said she knows I am the only person she wants to see at the end of each day. Very difficult to process that with what happened afterwards. However I guess that they were confused. I wish you well on your path to recovery
ahashakeheartbreak Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 You think you amd your ex were a great match? Hey, that's how I felt about my ex! You feel like you may not be able to trust again? Hey, me either! You keep hoping for her to come back? AH! This is the one that WILL, I PROMISE, subside. With NC (which your doing amazing with so far!) that hope, it will dampen. Sure, a what if? will linger in your mind for a while, but it'll get pushed back. And soon, with NC and time, you will look back on all of this with indifference. And let me tell you, it's such a great feeling to feel that after so much pain. All the above things you described? Probably the three major things everyone feels and thinks concerning a break up. Time truly heals all wounds, and NC only speeds it up. Take care.
LoveTruthChaos Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 You keep hoping for her to come back? AH! This is the one that WILL, I PROMISE, subside. I want mine to contact me so I can hurt him by ignoring him! I'm a vengeful little s**t...I don't like when ppl get away with hurting me
ahashakeheartbreak Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 (edited) More than likely he will not care if you ignore him or not, unless he wants you back. I guess if he's an all around good guy (or girl) then he would feel bad. Mine wouldn't. LOL. I'm going through break-up emotions too, and I felt like that for a while, wanting him to feel some pain too, but then I learned it's pointless to wish this. So I just stopped. I'm to the point of indifference now. All I feel now that's in conjuction with my ex is that I miss him. But not so much pain and hurt anymore. I mean, it would be great if he'd feel some of what I have, even just a fraction of the pain he has put on me this last months, but, I know it's not gonna happen. haha. Edited July 5, 2010 by ahashakeheartbreak
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