casey001 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 How do you cope and pick yourself back up when you have meet a guy and put the absolute best parts of yourself forward and he's still just not interested. By this I mean look the absolute best you can, dress the best you can and put the best parts of your personality out there. I don't mean pile on tons of make up or over dress, just look the best you can with the occasion. I met a guy and I tried so hard to put the best of me forward. I looked the best I possibly could, ie dressed in clothes that suited me, covered up skin flaws etc I put all the best parts of my personality forward, and when I say this I didn't go over board and act all fake. I felt very relaxed with him and acted so happy , polietly and even tried to be humerous. I felt that when I was this guy I was putting the 'best' of me out there yet he still wasn't interested. I was so nice and happy towards him I almost feel hard done by How do you pick yourself up when you know that your absolute best is not enough? How do you gain confidence to ever see another guy when you know the best of you is not good enough? People say its his loss not yours but how on earth do you figure this when I am the one not good enough? Why does no one have respect for me? I was so nice and polite to this guy yet he wont even give me the time of the day to reply to a txt message. I mean I would understand If I was rude and inconsiderate but I was not like this at all How do I pick myselg up after this kind of rejection? Knowing the best of me is not good enough. p.s You probably will reply and say I was trying to hard and guys can smell that from a mile but I swear it wasn't like that at all. I was relaxed and happy
zetkin Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I've grown to learn that the more efforts you make the worse the results are and vice versa. And it regards not only relationships issues but everything. The more you are hang up on conducting a task for example, the more are the odds of making a mistake (usually really stupid one). You know it's like at school when you really try hard and put in a lot of time and effort into an assignment and someone just does it the night before the deadline and he then got the better mark then you. I don't know if it's some branch of Murphy's law or what... It might be the same here, in your situation. So don't take it personally))) That's life. And i totally don't agree with you when you say "what to do when you know your best is not enough" No one's perfect, first of all. Second, everyone has different taste, so if one guy didn't like you, that doesn't mean no one will like you. And it has absolutely nothing to do with how hard you tried.
A O Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 How do you pick yourself up when you know that your absolute best is not enough? By understanding that its not about your absolute best - its about compatibility. Dating isn't about putting your best foot forward, its about compatibility. This includes timing as will as personal factors. Some old 50 year old dude may find you attractive enough to put his best foot forward, but chances are you'll reject him, but not because his best wasn't good enough for you...more than likely it will be because he's simply not what you were looking for, he's not compatible with you. Someone out there will be though - and that's what you shoot for. .
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