EyeAlone Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 My friends and I have been discussing this recently and I want some honest answers from you guys. Quick timeline of events: A few months ago I got out of a 3 yr relationship. A couple of weeks ago I joined Match.com thinking that I wanted to start dating again. This past week I found a guy on there that for a lack of better words seems to be a match for me. Initially I thought about asking him about going out on a date. However, now I'm hesitating. WHY?! Here's why: I'm going to be graduating from school next May and I have absolutely no clue where I will be location-wise after that. Basically I have to rank a list of cities of where I want to do an internship after graduation, and then it's up to the internship programs to decide whether they want me or not. In other words, I don't even have complete control over where I will be doing my internship. I will not find out where I'm doing my internship until March. Some of my friends and I discussed that maybe it's better that we stay away from dating right now because in the end, we may have to tell our partner that they either have to relocate or do a LDR. Just an FYI: the relationship that I just got out of was LDR and I never want to do that again. I guess what I'm trying to ask is would you start to date someone even if there's a possibility that they may have to move away 10 months from now? Should I take myself off the market for now?
D-Lish Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 You just got out of a 3 year relationship, so I wouldn't worry about anything at this point. Have fun, and do what you need to do. If you're actually capable of getting attached to someone so quickly after being in a 3 year relationship, that's a whole different issue.
Author EyeAlone Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 You just got out of a 3 year relationship, so I wouldn't worry about anything at this point. Have fun, and do what you need to do. If you're actually capable of getting attached to someone so quickly after being in a 3 year relationship, that's a whole different issue.I have absolutely no clue if I'm capable of getting attached to someone that quickly. I don't miss my ex boyfriend for good reasons, however I still feel a little nostalgic for the few good things we had and some of the vacations that we went on. I'm also extremely burnt out from school and some unrelated family issues. I really need a vacation from life. This guy on Match.com seems really nice and sweet but I feel so torn. Part of me wants to go out on a date with him because you never know! He could be amazing. But the other part of me feels so exhausted and the thought of trying to get to know someone makes me want to beat my head on the floor.
Diezel Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Stop overthinking this. Jesus Christ, you barely met him on Match.com and you're already worried about 10 months from now? Have you picked out name for the children yet too? Just go on one date. If you get to the point where you have to tell him that you MIGHT be leaving, then you cross that bridge when you get there. I don't see what's so complicated about that.
D-Lish Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Stop overthinking this. Jesus Christ, you barely met him on Match.com and you're already worried about 10 months from now? Have you picked out name for the children yet too? Just go on one date. If you get to the point where you have to tell him that you MIGHT be leaving, then you cross that bridge when you get there. I don't see what's so complicated about that. Okay, Harsh, but to the point. I happen to agree when you get down to it. It's a really good time to live in the "now"- my best advice is to do that.
runninghardandlong Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I will definitely say that you should really just give him a try and go on a date. Have fun, don't plan your future out the second you meet a guy. Try to enjoy life. It isn't completely about finding the one for you and only being with just him.
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