somedude81 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 How much time should be spent talking to a girl to maximize her chances of saying yes to a date? Would I get a different result from asking out a girl I just met or a girl I've spoken to a couple of times in class?
Author Green Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 How much time should be spent talking to a girl to maximize her chances of saying yes to a date? Would I get a different result from asking out a girl I just met or a girl I've spoken to a couple of times in class? IMO best to ask out sooner then later. If a girl you ask out in your class says "NO" it's really not a big deal. You can always chat with her and if you think the situation has changed ASK AGAIN. My point is, don't sit there trying to figure out if you need to talk to her more, or if she has a bf... JUST ASK HER OUT. Even if she says no
Author Green Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 I'm not kissing a woman on a first date unless she makes it clear that's what she wants. It seems like most women don't want to be touched on a first date in any way. I'm surprised they aren't open to a light touch on the arm or a hug at the end. I'd think that would be ok. Most women like to be touched in a flirtatious way... ESPECIALY ON FIRST DATE OR BEFORE THAT EVEN.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 It's called DON'T GO OUT ON DATES if you can't handle a guy trying to kiss you. Oh I can handle a guy but it's tacky when a guy does it for the sake of going in for the kill. It's disgusting when a guy tries to jam his tongue down your throat.
Viking Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Opened for sure! Eye contact is key my friend:cool: Ah yes. I LOVE eye contact. Nothing hotter for sure! As for the kiss on the date, I have never been able to be that forward. However, with my GF, we went dancing on a "date" (kinda just hanging out at the time) and I was drunk enough to not let my inhibitions get in the way, and BAM! I just kissed her and it was awesome. First time I'd ever done something like that.
Author Green Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Oh I can handle a guy but it's tacky when a guy does it for the sake of going in for the kill. It's disgusting when a guy tries to jam his tongue down your throat. No one said anything about tongue. Ah yes. I LOVE eye contact. Nothing hotter for sure! As for the kiss on the date, I have never been able to be that forward. However, with my GF, we went dancing on a "date" (kinda just hanging out at the time) and I was drunk enough to not let my inhibitions get in the way, and BAM! I just kissed her and it was awesome. First time I'd ever done something like that. Now that sounds pretty romantic. I bet at that point you didn't even care if she liked you and just enjoyed the moment.
gamma1 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Most women like to be touched in a flirtatious way... ESPECIALY ON FIRST DATE OR BEFORE THAT EVEN. That's not what I've seen.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 That's not what I've seen. Easy women like to be groped like that ones who are looking for any attention from a guy they can get! Its usually also younger easy women in say the 15 to 22 age range thats just from what ive seen. I use to have a friend like that back in the day she would hang on anything with a penis and then rejoice when she got any kind of flirtatious attention from him. Ide say older more mature women who actually want a lasting relationship and have some level of self respect wont dig being treated like that.
Author Green Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 That's not what I've seen. well how many women is your observation from... have you ever even done this? Easy women like to be groped like that ones who are looking for any attention from a guy they can get! Its usually also younger easy women in say the 15 to 22 age range thats just from what ive seen. I use to have a friend like that back in the day she would hang on anything with a penis and then rejoice when she got any kind of flirtatious attention from him. Ide say older more mature women who actually want a lasting relationship and have some level of self respect wont dig being treated like that. I think there is a difference between GROPING and a flirty quick touch of the knee or arm.
gamma1 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 well how many women is your observation from... have you ever even done this? I've made several women uncomfortable hugging or attempting to hug them at the end of the first date. Women seem to have a huge wall up during the dates too and clearly don't want to be touched.
Author Green Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 I've made several women uncomfortable hugging or attempting to hug them at the end of the first date. Women seem to have a huge wall up during the dates too and clearly don't want to be touched. You KISS at the end of the date... not HUG...
espec10001 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Dude this doesn't work on all women. Some women like it, some don't. You can't generalize like that.
I'm Batman Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 You KISS at the end of the date... not HUG... lol, how about slapping them on the bum?
jakinbandw Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 On my first date with my girlfriend (okay, it wasn't quite a date, but it was sort of a blind date type thing... Maybe? Anyway that's besides the point) we were dancing and I decided to kiss her. So I leaned in, told her she was beautiful and kissed her on the neck and she didn't try to stop me. However later on I tried to kiss her on the lips and she did stop me that time. Then she pulled me aside and told me that it wasn't because she didn't like me, but rather that she wanted to take things slow right now because her last breakup had been bad. If I hadn't have tried to kiss her I probably would have felt a little unsure about where we stood. So yes, this is a good method I believe, as long as you aren't too pushy. It certainly tells a girl that you like her. I think it's good advise for people who normally aren't pushy.
Author Green Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 I'm NOT saying its a 100% way to get a woman to like you. THERE IS NO WAY TO DO THAT. IT IS A 100% way to FIND OUT if she does like you. Basicaly if you make a move and she goes for it then there you have it... she likes you enough to go out with you on that one date. My main point was STOP parylyzing your self with thoughts of DOES SHE OR DOESN'T SHE LIKE ME? Only ask yourself if YOU LIKE HER. Just make a move and it will all become clear.
Author Green Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 On my first date with my girlfriend (okay, it wasn't quite a date, but it was sort of a blind date type thing... Maybe? Anyway that's besides the point) we were dancing and I decided to kiss her. So I leaned in, told her she was beautiful and kissed her on the neck and she didn't try to stop me. However later on I tried to kiss her on the lips and she did stop me that time. Then she pulled me aside and told me that it wasn't because she didn't like me, but rather that she wanted to take things slow right now because her last breakup had been bad. If I hadn't have tried to kiss her I probably would have felt a little unsure about where we stood. So yes, this is a good method I believe, as long as you aren't too pushy. It certainly tells a girl that you like her. I think it's good advise for people who normally aren't pushy. Good story to ilustrate my point. I agree being respectful is the key to all things in life not just dating.
gamma1 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 You KISS at the end of the date... not HUG... If a woman reacts that coldly to a hug, they may act 100x times as coldly if I attempt a kiss.
Author Green Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 If a woman reacts that coldly to a hug, they may act 100x times as coldly if I attempt a kiss. I can see why you would guess that. In reality a woman is more likely to react coldy to a hug or a kiss on the cheek, then if you were bold and just when in for a kiss on the lips. In the end you can't get a woman to like you by holding off on all physical contact till some set time. If you go in for the kiss and the girl likes you she won't hold it against you. She may tell you "I don't kiss on the first date" but she is still far more likely to hold it against you if you didn't try at all.
carhill Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 If a woman reacts that coldly to a hug, they may act 100x times as coldly if I attempt a kiss. Another life lesson: Her: 'Oh, a hug' She went on to marry the UPS man. Guess he delivered more than packages and hugs. True story. Still, as I opined prior, whether it's prior to a 'first date' or with a woman a man 'knows' well, there really isn't any substantive way of knowing 'whether' or 'not', and the level of 'whether', without substantial time and interaction. If she's holding your hand and gazing into your eyes with tears on her face as you die, you can pretty much rest assured she liked you. My main point was STOP parylyzing your self with thoughts of DOES SHE OR DOESN'T SHE LIKE ME? Only ask yourself if YOU LIKE HER. Just make a move and it will all become clear. This is good advice. I hope any man 'on the fence' takes it. The UPS man understood this. Good on him
gamma1 Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 Another life lesson: Her: 'Oh, a hug' She went on to marry the UPS man. Guess he delivered more than packages and hugs. True story. Still, as I opined prior, whether it's prior to a 'first date' or with a woman a man 'knows' well, there really isn't any substantive way of knowing 'whether' or 'not', and the level of 'whether', without substantial time and interaction. If she's holding your hand and gazing into your eyes with tears on her face as you die, you can pretty much rest assured she liked you. The women haven't exactly held my hands while gazing into my eyes. If she's that obvious, no problem going for the kiss.
Author Green Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 you just go for the kiss if you want the kiss don't let fear of rejection come into play.
hadess07 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 wow thats very bold and brave of you to go for the kiss so early on.may work on open minded girls but most girls prefer guys to take it nice and slowly.i hear that you should observe body language and try to build conversation to make her feel comfortable and slowly move from there.. found some tips that could help see if a women is interested in you HERE
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Here it is... 1) Flirt with them. Don't back down just yet even if they seem bored/scared go on to step 2) ASK THEM OUT. This will give you a pretty good indication of whether they like you. 3) KISS THEM if you really want to be 100% sure that they like you. I've kissed women who weren't interested, at least not in a relationship. Getting a kiss is not a guarantee that they like you enough to see you regularly.
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