det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 OK I'm a 29 year old male and my GF is 22, we met 3 months ago and talked as friends after 1 month we became exclusive and only dating each other and we're both in love with each other very much. past 2.5 months, yes before we became exclusive, we have been just totally obsessed with each other, just for the record, we're both great looking and she has many men chasing her and I have many women chasing me, but we just can't get enough of each other. Here is a example, please let me know what you think. Whoever wakes up first will call the other and we usually answer right away or it might take a second call, than we are on the phone for a hour or 2, then we go take our showers, we get done we call each other again and if we are going to go see each other we are even on the phone on the way there to meet up, then later at night we are on the phone for example from 10PM and we fall asleep on the phone every night and purposely leave the phone on to hear each other breath, and usually one or the others battery does in the middle of the night like 4-5am and same thing again every single day, Of course some days we have things to do besides be on the phone with each other but another EXAMPLE we are still on the phone a minimum of 6 hours a day and some times even 10, We are not talking the whole time but we love each others presence. Crazy or what? We are both really really happy with each other
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Keep this up and I guarantee that you will eventually either get tired of each other or hate each other...it's called having your own life, my friend...this is definitely not healthy behavior...are you even employed...?
yah Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 This seems to be the honeymoon phase where you cannot find one flaw with each other.... But wow, 6 hours on the phone!!
westrock Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 If the battery dies at 4-5 am each night after so much talking, how is the other person then able to call that person first thing in the morning everyday?
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 We charge it or its stays plugged in, shes in school and I work from home, I mean we both do have our own lives, but just enjoy each other more, It doesn't seem as if we will be getting sick of each other anytime soon.
norajane Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 It doesn't seem as if we will be getting sick of each other anytime soon. Famous last words.
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 This seems to be the honeymoon phase where you cannot find one flaw with each other.... But wow, 6 hours on the phone!! I dont want to lose her, so should I just start toning it down more and more?
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 Famous last words. What kind of advise can you give me? Please, I wouldn't want to lose her, she's so amazing.
norajane Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 What kind of advise can you give me? Please, I wouldn't want to lose her, she's so amazing. She's 22, so to her, this is like the coolest thing ever. For now. Until the newness wears off. However, you are 29 and should have a life that keeps you busy, and a bit more maturity than to breathe on the phone for hours. You are heading straight toward burn-out at the speed of sound. Of course some days we have things to do besides be on the phone with each other THIS is the advice I'd give you. Find more things to do besides be on the phone with each other. Lots more things. Cool it with the endless hours of phone time. Call each other in the morning and at night if you must, chat for a little bit, and then GET OFF THE PHONE. Save the talking for, you know, actual DATES when you are together in the same room.
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 How do you know it will burn out? It's kind of like living together but on the phone...Any chances that it might be fine? I will start to calm it done and try to distant my self slowly
aerogurl87 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I see nothing wrong with this. My boyfriend and I talk on the phone 3-6 hours a day and we text each other almost every other moment of the day. Granted, we're in a LDR also because if we weren't I'd be hanging out with him all the time opposed to just being on the phone. So why don't you do that OP? Try spending more time with her face to face than just on the phone. Invite her over to dinner, just hang out in general with her to be in her presence.
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 We spend as much time as possible together, but at night we are on the phone and as soon as she leaves my condo sh calls me on her 30 min. ride home and then calls me after 15 mins. when she gets to her room, most of the talk time is at night in our beds or doing stuff at the house at night when each others home, Shouldn't this be fine?? I mean married couples are at home together at night, whats the difference?
aerogurl87 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 det650 as I said I see nothing wrong with it. Maybe you like to be in constant contact with your SO and you're one of the lucky few people in the world who has been lucky enough to find someone who is the same way. The moment my boyfriend and I wake up we text each other until one of us has to go to work. Then when we get off work we text more, until we call each other for the night and end up on the phone for 3-6 hours before bed, only to be followed by a few goodnight texts. It works for some people and if it works for you, then keep it up. Relationships are not one size fits all.
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 Thanks, how long have you guys been doing that for?
make me believe Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Wowww I think this is not healthy. Don't you guys have anything else to do than lay around talking on the phone all day??? Do neither of you have a job or school or hobbies? What would happen if one of you didn't answer, or chose to cut back the phone time? It seems like this could be a way to control each other or give into your insecurities -- as long as you are on the phone you know exactly what the other is up to at all times. Living together and spending time together that way is totally different than spending every waking moment glued to the phone with your SO. At least when you live together, even if you are together most of the time, you're LIVING LIFE together, not just laying around talking on the phone. Also, falling asleep on the phone every night and staying on to hear each other breathe? Come on!! That sounds like something my high school boyfriend and I would have done when we were 16.
yah Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I dont want to lose her, so should I just start toning it down more and more? Yes! You acknowledged yourself it is not normal. Time apart (incl. phone) makes the heart grow fonder anyway. Have shorter phone conversations or save what you want to say for your next date. It is your honeymoon phase but you don't want to burn out prematurely.
norajane Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Don't you two have friends, family, hobbies? Don't you spend time outside the house doing something with those people? Don't you go to the gym? Out for coffee? Bike riding? It's summer - why are you in the house all day on the phone? You will get bored with each other if your entire life revolves around the phone.
Diezel Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Over/Under for a post from the OP with a title reading: "I'm sick of her, how do I get rid of her?". I say: 2 months or less.
Author det650 Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 I've dated amazing and great girls, she is the best! A keeper for sure! All the qualities, values and morals I have been looking for
sloudrou Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Short answer: No, it's not normal, and no, you won't sustain it. The novelty WILL wear off sooner or later, one (or both) of you will get sick of constantly talking to each other constantly, and you'll either end up toning it down by a mutual understanding, or you'll end up hating each other.
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