NeptunedN Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Is there any chance of reconciliation if it ended badly? How badly (please give examples), what did he/she say that you def knew you would never even want to be on the same side of the street as your ex? And yes, I know it depends on the reason the breakup ensued,so please include a brief synopsis It would be wonderful if breaking up were easy and clean, nice and neat. However, most get messy (at the least the ones on here) and I'm wondering what that threshold is, where it goes FUBAR.
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 It would be wonderful if breaking up were easy and clean, nice and neat. However, most get messy (at the least the ones on here) and I'm wondering what that threshold is, where it goes FUBAR. The primary reason breakups get so messy is that people are incapable of truly breaking up and completely removing their exes from their lives. You have some who try to be friends; others who turn it into a FWB situation; and others who pine and agonize of their exes in hopes that they will get a second chance. We only have ourselves to blame for turning our breakups into the messes they become...
monkeymaid Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 the only reason for me is cheating. ...she did, i may have to see her again one day, but she has lost my respect forever. i harbpr no ill will, but i have nothing to give, be it a smile, hello, or anything else for that matter.
Author NeptunedN Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 Indeed USMC, I've never been naive enough to remain friends (at least without a relationship inbetween as a buffer and only in rare rare cases), and FWB is a joke if the break-up isn't mutual, that's never happened to me either. I guess I'm pining over the loss, realistically no second chance.
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Indeed USMC, I've never been naive enough to remain friends (at least without a relationship inbetween as a buffer and only in rare rare cases), and FWB is a joke if the break-up isn't mutual, that's never happened to me either. I guess I'm pining over the loss, realistically no second chance. Good on ya for remaining strong through your breakups...and of course, the end of every relationship becomes a loss in our lives...only time can heal the wounds that are left by that loss, and holding onto hopes of a second chance only prolongs the pain caused by that loss...it took me a long time to learn that, but I'm certainly glad it's something I lived through and will never forget...
Author NeptunedN Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 BTW, USMC, I read your posts all the time, love what you have to say, have followed your story. Sounds like you are up and up. You lead by a good example.
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 BTW, USMC, I read your posts all the time, love what you have to say, have followed your story. Sounds like you are up and up. You lead by a good example. Thanks so much, I really appreciate your kind words. It means a lot to me if I can help even one person here on LS, because I know a lot of folks on LS over the past year have done so much for me.
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