MR2U Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 My wife calls out in her sleep. She vocalizes whatever dream is going on. Sometimes its very mundane stuff. Frequently she has erotic dreams and calls out the names of men, many of which I know. I asked her if she had a crush on UN-Named and she said no why would you ask that? Because, I said, you called his name out in your sleep and let me tell you it must have been a great dream! At this point her eyes got as big as saucers and I knew I had my answer. I also mentioned a few other names I have heard over the years. I've never brought this up before because it was so awkward. Eventually she admitted to the crush and the previous ones but only after she knew I knew everything. I asked her if there was anything else she wanted to get off her chest. Nope. Makes me wonder what is going on inside of that head that isn't said. Is it normal for wives to have crushes and saucy dreams of other men? Should I be worried? If its an involuntary thing I can cope but I feel like she isn't leveling with me completely.
Fight4Me Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 There are going to be some people who will jump on the "she's having an A" bandwagon, but knowing that I have personally had some...er... "colorful" dreams of my own, and even with men whom I would put in the realm of Ewwwwww (to me, anyway) that had me waking with me wondering if I had some serious unresolved FOO issues, I'm inclined to say her dreams most likely have little to do with real life desires. I also talk in my sleep, so even though these dreams are occasional, taking me very off-guard, it always makes me freeze when my husband says.... "so..... who were YOU dreaming about last night <wink wink>" I don't usually remember all my dreams, so the "eyes as big as saucers" would describe me if I had mentioned anyone's name, let alone someone whom I was mildly attractive to (but even moreso if he were someone who normally repelled me). Is that normal? I don't know, since I've always had the weirdest dreams by most people's standards, but I at least found this article that may or may not help put things in perspective: http://www.lhj.com/health/sexual/what-do-your-sex-dreams-mean/ I would say that if this is the only thing you've got to go on, I would think there's nothing to worry about. If there have been several other signs of infidelity, then it may be worth looking into. I hope it also helps you to know that I've been with my fWH for over 20 years, and have always been faithful to him.
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