Ihavenoidea Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 So I was wondering what peoples thoughts were about splitting the bill. So I ask a woman out and we went to dinner. I proceed to pay for the bill and I notice her going through her purse and she pulls out her credit card and was planning on splitting the bill. I insisted that I will pay for it and it wasnt a big deal and she replied, with no its ok I can do half. I said no its ok and she said thank you. It was kind of awkward almost seemed like she was expecting to pay maybe I dont know. What are your thoughts about the guy paying on the first date? Women, do you assume the guy will pay or do you offer to pay if you arent interested? Thoughts?
Gero Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I'm sort of an old-fashioned guy so I prefer to pay for the date. Here's what happened on my last few days with a girl I recently met. Date #1: The bill came and I grabbed it and was about to pay it. She asked to chip in and I said I would pay it. She then offered to leave a tip so I let her have that. Date #2: She pulled out a credit card just as I grabbed the bill and she said she wanted to pay half. I then asked her about paying half and told her I was fine paying all of it, but if she really wanted to pay I would let her pay half. She was cool about it and said she wouldn't mind paying but she didn't insist on paying, so I paid for the bill. She then offered to pay for ice cream afterward which she did. It's nice when they offer and mean it, but I just prefer to pay. I guess I am just old-fashioned.
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Here's how the payment portion of my first dates almost always go: 1. Server brings bill. 2. I quickly grab it, pull out my wallet, and shove my credit card in the holder. 3. If she offers to pay, I say that it's cool, I'll take care of it. Then she'll say thanks and that will be the end of it. 4. If she still insists on paying half, then I tell her that she can pay for the next date. It's my way of slyly setting up a second date while appeasing her need to pay for her share. 5. If she further insists on paying her half, then I give in and let her pay half. I honestly don't care either way...but some people can be rather stubborn... Surprisingly enough, the one girl who didn't call me back after the first date never offered to pay or even thank me for paying for dinner...
Author Ihavenoidea Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 ya at first i didnt think it was a big deal then I was thinking, well maybe she just wasnt interested but then again she may be and wanted to do something nice for me I dont know. I always pay because I think its the genlemanly thing to do but it was odd.
skydiveaddict Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 You did the right thing my friend. Always pay for your date
aerogurl87 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I ALWAYS assume a guy will pay for the first date, but I also always have money on me in case he decides to split the cheque.
skydiveaddict Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I also always have money on me in case he decides to split the cheque. which he should never do
Author Ihavenoidea Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 which he should never do Ya I ALWAYS pay even if its a ****ty date, seems like the right thing to do. PS. Denver is Awesome, Grew up in Black Hawk CO
D-Lish Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 ya at first i didnt think it was a big deal then I was thinking, well maybe she just wasnt interested but then again she may be and wanted to do something nice for me I dont know. I always pay because I think its the genlemanly thing to do but it was odd. Have you asked her out again? If she was paying for her share because she likes to be independant, nothing wrong with that. If she accepts a second date, you know it's about the aforementioned. If you ask her out again and she declines- you can safely say she wanted to pay for half because she didn't want to feel guilty about not going out with you again. You won't know unless you ask. How was the date otherwise? Feel any chemistry?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Have you asked her out again? If she was paying for her share because she likes to be independant, nothing wrong with that. If she accepts a second date, you know it's about the aforementioned. If you ask her out again and she declines- you can safely say she wanted to pay for half because she didn't want to feel guilty about not going out with you again. You won't know unless you ask. How was the date otherwise? Feel any chemistry? I agree with this ether she likes being a totally independent women or she felt a little guilty. Sorry to say op but I think it may be the later of the 2 just from the past opinions ive seen on the subject here on LS. Were most women expect the man to pick up the tab on a date.
D-Lish Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I agree with this ether she likes being a totally independent women or she felt a little guilty. Sorry to say op but I think it may be the later of the 2 just from the past opinions ive seen on the subject here on LS. Were most women expect the man to pick up the tab on a date. I don't. I always offer to split.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I agree with this ether she likes being a totally independent women or she felt a little guilty. Sorry to say op but I think it may be the later of the 2 just from the past opinions ive seen on the subject here on LS. Were most women expect the man to pick up the tab on a date. ..............................
yah Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Regardless of how the date went I would offer to pay and reach for my card. If he says he'll get it I just thank him. If he does nothing and lets me pay or says we should split it, I would just pay (not split, doing calculations just to be even stevens is petty imo) with a smile but I would be turned off. Yes, I'm one of "those" girls I guess.
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