Da Escobar Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 TBH i don't know what to do and I am feeling pretty bad right now. I was expecting to work till 10 PM tonight, but I got let off round 8:30. I basically have the whole night to myself and what do I do? I wanna do something fun, go to a mall, a bar (I'm 18, so maybe I'm pushing it with the bar), go to a club, go wherever. The only problem? I litterally have no friends right now. Nothing. I finished HS (where I was not the most popular of guys, and I basically cut ties with everybody (though I still see some people from school at work and around, and I'm friendly). I got College orientation on the 9th, and I'm sure I'll make at least a couple friends that day, but I'm kinda desperate now. Unless I have work or something else of the sort to do, I sit around at home most days, not showering, and watching t.v. I know it's sad, I just genuinely don't know what to do. I refuse to hang out with my old friends, they are just too immature and aren't like me at all. I'm cool with the people at my job, though I don't hang out with any of them outside of work (one girl I met today said something about getting drinks after work, I def. would have gone, but I got let out early :/. And though orientation is close, what if things don't go as well as I planned? Then I gotta wait for school to start in August. What would you guys recommend me to do?
zetkin Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I had situations like yours. and I found out that I can also have a good time alone. May be I am just a kind of person who likes to be alone (I always go shopping on my own? for example, can't relax, when I am with someone:laugh:) So another time you feel like today I'd offer you to go somewhere on your own. Even if you don't have company you might still have a good time, or meet someone (if we're talking about clubbing) Another example from my own experience - I love to go on vacation alone, and those are my best vacations ever. I always find company on the spot, if I don't like one, I can find another as easily;)
Author Da Escobar Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 I had situations like yours. and I found out that I can also have a good time alone. May be I am just a kind of person who likes to be alone (I always go shopping on my own? for example, can't relax, when I am with someone:laugh:) So another time you feel like today I'd offer you to go somewhere on your own. Even if you don't have company you might still have a good time, or meet someone (if we're talking about clubbing) Another example from my own experience - I love to go on vacation alone, and those are my best vacations ever. I always find company on the spot, if I don't like one, I can find another as easily;) I've calmed down a bit since yesterday (music is god send). I can def. see what your saying zetkin, I'm a bit of a lone wolf myself (mostly not by choice, but thats a different story). I don't mind going shopping myself, or seeing a movie alone, or just walking, but I feel that at night it's better to be with somebody. I quickly bored quickly by myself, then I'd just look weird with nobody to talk to or mess around with. I guess I the kinda person who needs company to chill.
Green Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 People will be pretty desperate to make new friends at the college orientation.
Enchanted Girl Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 You know the whole bar/club idea you were talking about? Why don't you go there by yourself and try to make friends that way. You kind of have to if you go to one of those places by yourself. You should be able to meet people. It'll be scary, yes, but sitting around and doing nothing won't make you friends. You have to get up and go out there. Although, personally, I've been in your situation lots and lots of times. I'm in it right now. I don't mind doing a lot of things on my own, but it sucks when you start getting really, really lonely all of a sudden.
Author Da Escobar Posted July 6, 2010 Author Posted July 6, 2010 People will be pretty desperate to make new friends at the college orientation. Hoping for that. Didn't hit things of well in HS, if I meet new friendly people in college I think I have a shot at making some great friends with similar interests. You know the whole bar/club idea you were talking about? Why don't you go there by yourself and try to make friends that way. You kind of have to if you go to one of those places by yourself. You should be able to meet people. It'll be scary, yes, but sitting around and doing nothing won't make you friends. You have to get up and go out there. Although, personally, I've been in your situation lots and lots of times. I'm in it right now. I don't mind doing a lot of things on my own, but it sucks when you start getting really, really lonely all of a sudden. I just don't feel comfortable doing that by myself. I don't know. I'll prolly leave the bar/club thing for later. I can only get so far as an 18 year old. And yea, it's the worst when you see a ton of people with friends in cars or having fun, and then your alone with nothing to do. Amongst the worst feelings I experience. It'll make me appreciate being around people more, though. I think I got the potential to make a lot of friends and maybe even some characteristics of a leader. Work just needs to be done.
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