D-Lish Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Look I believe in certain things. I know them to be true But you're not exactly the poster boy for higher education.
aerogurl87 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Quebec was always closer for us when we were younger. After 8 beers, who cares if you don't speak french, you think you can:lmao: Lol, my boyfriend lives in Alberta and seeing as he's 18 and I've yet to turn 21 (I live in the USA), Alberta works for me. Mais, j'ai parle francais... well a little, lol.
make me believe Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 8 years isn't a huge gap, but at 27 you are most likely out of college and perhaps settled into a career or getting settled...and she is barely out of high school. I think the biggest issue here is that the two of you are probably at totally different places in your lives -- no matter how "mature" she may seem. Plus, the girl can't even get into a bar! (Assuming you live in the US.) What's going to happen when you want to go out and have a few drinks and she has to stay home by herself wondering what you're doing? That usually causes major resentment in relationships with these kinds of age gaps. Then when she does turn 21 and you're nearing 30, she'll hit her big party mode and you'll probably be getting out of that phase. This is what I've seen happen when one person is underage and the other is a few years over.
Green Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Girls 18 and up can get into most of the bars/clubs around her they just get a black X on their hand and can't get alcohol. Bars for the most part SUCK.
Ronni_W Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I think its offensive to give the guy the advice you give. Your thought is noted, Green. Have YOU been a 19-year old girl in relationship with a 27-year old man?
Corporate Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Nothing wrong with it, especially if she is turning 20 soon. The only person who might have a problem with this is her dad.
lolapalooza Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Seriously, what kind of conversation can a 27-year old man have with a 19-year old girl? Maybe if he has the mentality of a 21-year old, then that's a whole other problem... My husband is 9 years younger than me, but we are 40 and 31; there is a big difference in life experiences than when we were 31 and 22.
aerogurl87 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Seriously, what kind of conversation can a 27-year old man have with a 19-year old girl? I'll try to answer this from my experience. When I dated my most recent ex (he was 30 and I was 19) we talked about movies, music, history, tv shows, current events, his job, my job and schooling, our families, our hobbies, and whatever else random thing popped up for us to discuss.
lolapalooza Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I'll try to answer this from my experience. When I dated my most recent ex (he was 30 and I was 19) we talked about movies, music, history, tv shows, current events, his job, my job and schooling, our families, our hobbies, and whatever else random thing popped up for us to discuss.respectfully, he's your ex, right? I rest my case.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Its doomed. For her to be attracted to you means you are probably boyish and probably emotionally underdeveloped for your age. She's still a kid, a teenager even. You are well into manhood. As she ages she will grow out of this phase of life and become more like the women your own age that you have little attraction for. But you will stay the same. This is pretty on key. For a man who has been in adulthood for a number of years now, to find a connection with a girl that just got out of highschool, doesn't speak well of his emotional health. If you are a grown man that can relate to teenage girls, that's not healty. Sorry. She will grow out of being a teenager, she will mature. A man at 28 who relates to teenagers is probably going to be that way for the rest of his life. She will get bored, tired, annoyed when she begins to surpass his emotional health.
Green Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 This is pretty on key. For a man who has been in adulthood for a number of years now, to find a connection with a girl that just got out of highschool, doesn't speak well of his emotional health. If you are a grown man that can relate to teenage girls, that's not healty. Sorry. She will grow out of being a teenager, she will mature. A man at 28 who relates to teenagers is probably going to be that way for the rest of his life. She will get bored, tired, annoyed when she begins to surpass his emotional health. How wrong you always are on this subject.
gypsy_nicky Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 age does not equal life experience or emotional maturity.
Jilly Bean Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I think if you have to qualify a situation with, "although she's of legal age", it's probably the wrong situation to be in.
northstar1 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 While there are no 'rules', I would say tread carefully. Most (not all) girls of that age (18-22) change their interests all the time, including their dating interests. If you enjoy her company, great, but just keep your eyes open because more than likely at some point she's going to flake out on you.
aerogurl87 Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 respectfully, he's your ex, right? I rest my case. Yes he's my ex because he had trouble opening up to me emotionally, and oddly enough that's a problem with guys across almost the entire age spectrum. It had nothing to do with chemistry, just that and the fact that I had a higher sex drive than him.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 How wrong you always are on this subject. I know this is hard for you to understand but men are not invincable. You do not live forever. You hit 30 and your sperm declines. this is nature's way of telling you that you are no longer first choice. A grown adult male that can relate to a teen girl isn't really prime market for any woman! That teen girl will grow and develop in the next few years, no matter how mature for her age she is. If a 28 year old male is compatible with a teen girl, he hasn't grown much at all. And as she grows, he will stay the same, she will get bored. 28 year old men that relate to teen girls aren't prime catches for any woman. Even teen girls.
Green Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I know this is hard for you to understand but men are not invincable. You do not live forever. You hit 30 and your sperm declines. this is nature's way of telling you that you are no longer first choice. A grown adult male that can relate to a teen girl isn't really prime market for any woman! That teen girl will grow and develop in the next few years, no matter how mature for her age she is. If a 28 year old male is compatible with a teen girl, he hasn't grown much at all. And as she grows, he will stay the same, she will get bored. 28 year old men that relate to teen girls aren't prime catches for any woman. Even teen girls. I know that this is hard for you to understand but I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK. I also think any guy who wants to date a girl of any legal age SHOULDN'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK EITHER. Simple fact is you know and I know that the laws of attraction are the only thing that can stop such a relationship from forming. Judge and cry all you want BUT I know from reality that what you are saying is FALSE.
Mutant Debutante Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 I know that this is hard for you to understand but I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK. I also think any guy who wants to date a girl of any legal age SHOULDN'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK EITHER. Simple fact is you know and I know that the laws of attraction are the only thing that can stop such a relationship from forming. Judge and cry all you want BUT I know from reality that what you are saying is FALSE. If you don't care what she thinks why do you spend so much time freaking out about what she thinks in all caps like you're having a tantrum, dude? She's allowed her opinion. You're allowed yours. They're both just opinions, no matter how many caps locks you hit.
Ronni_W Posted July 6, 2010 Posted July 6, 2010 ...I know from reality that what you are saying is FALSE. Green, It sounds as if you have had a personal experience related to the thread topic, and that something went...not according to how you had originally intended, envisioned or hoped. If (BIG *IF*) that is anywhere close to accurate, I am sorry for your experience. Hugs.
tigressA Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I think if you have to qualify a situation with, "although she's of legal age", it's probably the wrong situation to be in. I'm with Jilly on this one all the way. And some other posters here have echoed my sentiments--a guy your age being able to relate to a girl of 19, someone basically fresh out of high school, isn't very healthy. I doubt that anything that would happen between you two would last very long. Go ahead and try it, but don't be surprised if she outgrows you.
USMCHokie Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I know that this is hard for you to understand but I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK. I also think any guy who wants to date a girl of any legal age SHOULDN'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK EITHER. Simple fact is you know and I know that the laws of attraction are the only thing that can stop such a relationship from forming. Judge and cry all you want BUT I know from reality that what you are saying is FALSE. I have noticed, Green, that it may just be your shortsightedness, but you often don't think beyond initial attraction and fun in dating. Deeper factors such as personality, life, and practical circumstances often don't even come up on your radar.
Green Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 If you don't care what she thinks why do you spend so much time freaking out about what she thinks in all caps like you're having a tantrum, dude? She's allowed her opinion. You're allowed yours. They're both just opinions, no matter how many caps locks you hit. I'm not freaking out. I alwasy WRITE with intermitent CAPS. The msg I meant to get across is that the world is the way it is and her complaining won't change it. She along with the many others on this site who parrot out the standard CREEP/GROSS/PEDO crap entertain/anoy me. Green, It sounds as if you have had a personal experience related to the thread topic, and that something went...not according to how you had originally intended, envisioned or hoped. If (BIG *IF*) that is anywhere close to accurate, I am sorry for your experience. Hugs. Thank you for the hug. I realize the world isn't fair but I'm powerful and refuse to bend. I have noticed, Green, that it may just be your shortsightedness, but you often don't think beyond initial attraction and fun in dating. Deeper factors such as personality, life, and practical circumstances often don't even come up on your radar. If by shortsightednes you mean that I LIVE LIFE LIKE THERE IS NO TOMORROW then you are correct. I LIVE in the MOMENT. I don't let my mind cage me. I've been living with the girl of my dreams for almost two years now. A relationship takes lots of work and doesn't lend itself to the simple advice I give to guys who can't even start one. The fact is I've seen true love and experienced it. I know far better then to give heed to people who JUDGE others on such limited knowledge. LAW of ATTRACTION rules in relationships. If two people are in love, and enjoy eachother who the heck are a MINORITY of people to come foward and personaly attack them.
Knittress Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I've been living with the girl of my dreams for almost two years now. A relationship takes lots of work and doesn't lend itself to the simple advice I give to guys who can't even start one. The fact is I've seen true love and experienced it. I know far better then to give heed to people who JUDGE others on such limited knowledge. That's great that you're happy, but 2-3 years is still very much the honeymoon period. It doesn't really prove your relationship superiority.
Shakz Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Unless you live in a place like Canada, where in some Provinces, the legal drinking age is 18. It's mostly 19, but the French are more lenient:laugh:. Or Arkansas. In some counties the legal drinking age is six. Mostly seven, but the hillfolk have to test their recipe on somebody.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I know that this is hard for you to understand but I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK. I also think any guy who wants to date a girl of any legal age SHOULDN'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK EITHER. Simple fact is you know and I know that the laws of attraction are the only thing that can stop such a relationship from forming. Judge and cry all you want BUT I know from reality that what you are saying is FALSE. You know. I don't believe that at all. I think you have some personal insecurities on aging. And I am not judging you negatively for that, but I think your persona feelings on what aging means for men AND women is what makes you want to hold onto certain beliefs. After all, what person wants to think they become less important to the world for getting older. It's much easier to live in the cacoon that you as a man are industructble. That you can live out your years into old age as if you were the young important pup of yester-years. And because society is dominated largely by men in powerful positions that have ruled over advertising for decades, they sell you the exact message, no matter how untrue, that you want to hear. That you as a man never depreciate in value or importance. That you can continue to date women who are teenagers and that this is what it means to live life to the fullest. But I don't really think you totally buy into it. Because whenever this topic comes up, you are quick to becry how it's okay for men to date teenagers under bs life philophies like "live life to the fullest!" Just because you have a 19 year old girl on your arm, doesn't mean you are living life to the fullest. You seem to becry how unimportant age is while at the same time making it very important in regards to the woman's age. It's fine. I find alot of men are more insecure about aging and getting older then women are. Women seem to accept and adapt that they get older. Some men seem to want to hold onto the belief that they don't even though they know they do. If your a grown adult man that care relate to a teen girl, even if she is mature for her age, you are not mature for your age and you are not a healthy options for any woman. Teenager or not. I'm sorry Green, but you have no supporting argument other then crying "I don't care what you think!"
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