I'm Batman Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I am asian(Chinese).Only had 1 boyfriend before who is French. The man I am dating now is also white. But I don't do it on purpose. It's all coincidence. I gotta say, most of Asian guys I met in USA, they don't wanna settle down until 30. Even some of them who are already taken go after me. And, super hot asian guys tend to be with white girls. ^ You're pretty, if that's really you After extensive research I came up with the best answer. Prove me wrong, but Asian girls...well Asians in general, are very passive people. To begin with, we're very timid , we were raised to reflect our parents traditions. Work hard and don't talk back to your superiors. Not many of us speak our minds so freely as our other race counterparts. Hence, Asian girls are easy targets and will ALWAYS lose in an argument (it's the truth!), and Asian dudes, well since most to everyone is saying we have no balls. What kind of girl from any race would want a guy with no confidence!? Alright, too much trolling on my part.
USMCHokie Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I'm an asian guy, and honestly I do as well as/better than my white/black/asian friends (forgive the lack of modesty). I'm no Hokie , but I'm in good shape, dress well, and will approach women and don't let rejections get to me. Hahah, thanks. No homo. After extensive research I came up with the best answer. Prove me wrong, but Asian girls...well Asians in general, are very passive people. To begin with, we're very timid , we were raised to reflect our parents traditions. Work hard and don't talk back to your superiors. Not many of us speak our minds so freely as our other race counterparts. Hence, Asian girls are easy targets and will ALWAYS lose in an argument (it's the truth!), and Asian dudes, well since most to everyone is saying we have no balls. What kind of girl from any race would want a guy with no confidence!? So if those qualities are not attractive to women, then it's up to you to break out of the stereotypical mold and make the changes to make you a more desirable person.
Corporate Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Now that I am divorced, I just think that being with an Asian guy is just too much work because there is too much to consider-would the family approved of a divorcee? of someone who already has a child, etc.etc.? {Although there is one thing going for me, I know for a fact that Asian families approve of my career ). Not only that, Asian men themselves, would rather be with women who have no kids or been married. What's your career? Are you ruling yourself out for an Asian man because you consider yourself as damaged good?
TaurusTerp Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 What's your career? Are you ruling yourself out for an Asian man because you consider yourself as damaged good? 99% of men prefer women without kids/baggage....I dont really know why you would think asian men are more prone to rule you out.
Corporate Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 ^ You're pretty, if that's really you Be gentle, she is new.
Corporate Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 99% of men prefer women without kids/baggage....I dont really know why you would think asian men are more prone to rule you out. 99% of men prefer women without kids/baggage compare to 99% of East Asian men require women without kids/baggage. In response to your above assumption, I did not make any statement, but merely ask her some questions.
USMCHokie Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Be gentle, she is new. Hahah, scare her off in her first week on LS...with all of us creepers on here... :laugh:
TaurusTerp Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 99% of men prefer women without kids/baggage compare to 99% of East Asian men require women without kids/baggage. In response to your above assumption, I did not make any statement, but merely ask her some questions. I was responding to her, just too lazy so I quoted you instead I don't think that's true (99% East asian men requiring), at least from personal experience. I've (asian guy) dated single/divorced moms before, as have friends of mine. It didn't work out, but I don't think my experiences have soured me on it really. As long as the woman isn't expecting me to be her kid's father, then whatever.
I'm Batman Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Hahah, scare her off in her first week on LS...with all of us creepers on here... :laugh: Whatever Scapula, you'll reel in all the ladies! So if those qualities are not attractive to women, then it's up to you to break out of the stereotypical mold and make the changes to make you a more desirable person. Yah, I didn't admit to falling into this category...anymore . If my avatar pic was like yours, it would be like similar minus the tats, plus a little more love handles from my fat days.
Nuprin Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Traitors to the race!! Traitors!! j/k It can be circumstantial because they happen to be in the middle of the boondocks where all they see are White people. However if the Asian chick consciously chooses a White guy over an Asian guy with the same level of attractiveness and other qualities, then it reflects the girl's insecurity of her own skin color.
Ingenue Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 After extensive research I came up with the best answer. Prove me wrong' date=' but Asian girls...well Asians in general, are very passive people. To begin with, we're very timid , we were raised to reflect our parents traditions. Work hard and don't talk back to your superiors. Not many of us speak our minds so freely as our other race counterparts. Hence, Asian girls are easy targets and will ALWAYS lose in an argument (it's the truth!), and Asian dudes, well since most to everyone is saying we have no balls. What kind of girl from any race would want a guy with no confidence![/quote'] Wow, that's a generalization if ever I heard one (regarding asian girls losing arguments). I'm Asian and I wouldn't consider myself to be passive at all. I want something, I go after it. Whether I'm successful is an entirely different matter. I will fight. I will argue and I am stubborn. It's my personality. That personality emerged not because of being Asian or in spite of being Asian. It is simply who I am. I've dated Asian guys whose opinions were uttered with confidence. I've dated the same with non-Asian guys. I will agree that for me, I need a guy who is confident. I like guys who can jest with me and hold their own. I like guys who have no problem telling me the truth and expecting to hear it in return. While I don't doubt that there are people out there that may only date certain races, don't lump us all in the same lot. I remember my biggest crush was this Asian guy. He was a brainiac, thin as rails, kinda dorky, loved playing D&D. I thought he was the hottest thing around. Too bad he only dated White girls. Oftentimes, it's more a matter of luck and chance. I'm drawn to the personality of a man, not his race. Besides, who wants to be the fetishized and Orientalized lotus blossom?
tami-chan Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 ^ You're pretty, if that's really you After extensive research I came up with the best answer. Prove me wrong, but Asian girls...well Asians in general, are very passive people. To begin with, we're very timid , we were raised to reflect our parents traditions. Work hard and don't talk back to your superiors. Not many of us speak our minds so freely as our other race counterparts. Hence, Asian girls are easy targets and will ALWAYS lose in an argument (it's the truth!), and Asian dudes, well since most to everyone is saying we have no balls. What kind of girl from any race would want a guy with no confidence!? Alright, too much trolling on my part. Ahm..I missed the class on "timidity"..Because there is no backing down for this Asian girl...ask, the moderator!
tami-chan Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 What's your career? Are you ruling yourself out for an Asian man because you consider yourself as damaged good? Certainly not "damaged goods" because I still get asked out by Asians-I choose not to date them just because I do not have the energy to waste on drama-although I must say nobody has yet to come up to my face and say they wouldn't welcome me because I am a divorcee with a child. As a matter of fact, when I was in Japan in Feb of this year, I was being paired with a Japanese doctor, whose family was quite excited to meet me(as was he )-but I passed. He was a first born son and has a lot of family responsibilities and would not leave Japan. Japan is beautiful but US is my home ! Anyway, I consider myself "with baggage", yes. It is not bad or good-it's just my reality.
tami-chan Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 99% of men prefer women without kids/baggage....I dont really know why you would think asian men are more prone to rule you out. Interesting. Maybe I am wrong. I am only basing my belief from what I have heard and experienced-family, friends and acquaintances. Certainly, there are exceptions.
lso802 Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 If a girl told me she's only dated people from a certain race & actually justify it with stereotypical comments, I'd be turned off.
I'm Batman Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Lol, I like causing a ruckus! Comon, from the beginning of the first thread, you ladies/gents know there's gonna be trolling douchebags like me making up generalized statements. There is NO right or wrong answer, but a lot of jealous Asian males looking for 'the' answer. In the end it's personal preference for both sexes. PS: No, i don't normally troll, I just thought this topic was utterly absurd. I'm surprised so many Asian woman came on and defended themselves, well thank you for being honest.
tami-chan Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Lol, I like causing a ruckus! Comon, from the beginning of the first thread, you ladies/gents know there's gonna be trolling douchebags like me making up generalized statements. There is NO right or wrong answer, but a lot of jealous Asian males looking for 'the' answer. In the end it's personal preference for both sexes. PS: No, i don't normally troll, I just thought this topic was utterly absurd. I'm surprised so many Asian woman came on and defended themselves, well thank you for being honest. Actually, your statement supports a common stereotype and there is not need to back down and pretend you were trolling. Just defend your statement.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 I'm generally not attracted to full ethnic Asians but there's no doubt that there are many exceptionally beautiful women and many handsome men. I asked an Asin chich out once and got a soft rejection. It wasn't because she was beautiful, it was because her personality was sparkling and I though our chemistry was great. I kinda feel that all races have their people who lend new defintion to the word cariacature, but all have attractive and lovable individuals.
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 I kinda feel that all races have their people who lend new defintion to the word cariacature, but all have attractive and lovable individuals. And I think this is the key here...it's not necessarily about race, but what general characteristics, traits, and features each race tends to exhibit. It doesn't necessarily mean that every member of a race will exhibit the same characteristics, but stereotypes will often form predominant representations of the average individual within that race. Some people may decide that they are not attracted to these representations...so be it...
Ruby Slippers Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 I am a white female and would have no problem dating Asian men if they are as tall or taller than me. I am around 5'8"-5'9" so there are not many Asian men above that height. I wouldn't date a white guy that is shorter than me either. Same here. I think Asian men can be attractive and would date them. However, I am also tall and rarely see an Asian guy my height or taller, so it might be hard to find an Asian guy with whom I am physically a good fit. Also, it's true that they tend to have a more clean-cut, metro look, and I am drawn to a more rugged, non-primped, masculine look, which is typical of Americans especially. I have been approached by most every race, but only once did a half-Asian/half-white guy express romantic interest in me -- never a non-mixed Asian. But we were good friends and he moved to another state, so that didn't go anywhere. I totally think he's sexy as can be, though (looks like Keanu). I see the point about Asian men being quieter and more passive. But they also often give the impression of being more intelligent, well-spoken, and Zen, which is a turn-on to me. I can imagine having this very connected, mind-blowing, tantric sex with Hokie--I mean, an Asian man. As for Asian women being passive, no. I have a half-Asian/half-white friend, and her mom (Asian) is extremely selfish, manipulative, and really quite bitchy. She treats my friend, her daughter, like **** and expects the world to carry her around on a velvet pillow.
fishtaco Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Prove me wrong' date=' but Asian girls...well Asians in general, are very passive people. To begin with, we're very timid , we were raised to reflect our parents traditions.[/quote'] Apparently you've never seen an angry Asian woman.
pandagirl Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 As for Asian women being passive, no. I have a half-Asian/half-white friend, and her mom (Asian) is extremely selfish, manipulative, and really quite bitchy. She treats my friend, her daughter, like **** and expects the world to carry her around on a velvet pillow. HAHA. I am Asian, and though my mom is sweet as can be, all my Asian female friends and I joke about how Asian moms can be quite mean and bitchy to their daughters. For instance, my mom always says: "You should wear more makeup!" or "Are you going to wear...THAT?" or "You should get a haircut."
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 HAHA. I am Asian, and though my mom is sweet as can be, all my Asian female friends and I joke about how Asian moms can be quite mean and bitchy to their daughters. For instance, my mom always says: "You should wear more makeup!" or "Are you going to wear...THAT?" or "You should get a haircut." Hahah, my mom is hardly the quiet type as well...especially when she gets angry...she don't back down for no one... I see the point about Asian men being quieter and more passive. But they also often give the impression of being more intelligent, well-spoken, and Zen, which is a turn-on to me. I can imagine having this very connected, mind-blowing, tantric sex with Hokie--I mean, an Asian man. :laugh: Thanks for the ego boost!
Peter Attis Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 (edited) An Asian girl who expresses her contempt for Asian men is also indirectly showing contempt for her own dad and other male relatives. Why would I wanna be with someone who finds their own brother or father disgusting? Edited July 9, 2010 by Peter Attis
loverofloveandstuff Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 ^Um yeah... there's definitely a difference between loving and respecting your family and being romantically interested in Asian men. Most of the time, I think it's a preference of general traits, not race. For example, I'm attracted to men who are tall and built over smaller frames. Guys who are outgoing and loud rather than shy and timid. So yes, generally speaking, I've come across far more non-Asians that I'm attracted to than Asians. Anyways, why are only Asian women targeted in this? What about non-Asian women? When I see a couple with the male being Asian, it is 9 out of 10 times an Asian woman that is accompanying him. Let's turn the tables. Maybe it's Asian men that are only interested in Asian women and not other races, so they're bitter at Asian women for exploring other racial possibilities. For the record I'm half Asian, half Caucasian.
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