D-Lish Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Ummm, if you could wait about 10 or 15 years and somehow stay the age you are now, I would love to approach you in public! I'm botoxing like crazy waiting around for you Chokie:lmao:
xpaperxcutx Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 http://www.asiancemagazine.com/content/white-man-versus-asian-man Came across this article and thought I should post it. The article is pretty humorous.
TheLoneSock Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 http://www.asiancemagazine.com/content/white-man-versus-asian-man Came across this article and thought I should post it. The article is pretty humorous. Lol I'm sorry but that 'white' guy looks like a cross between Wallace Shawn (inconceivable!) and Gary Coleman (RIP). Then the whole thing with us rebounding on Asian girls and being into toys? What the hell kind of representation is this? Lol This hardly deserves the title of 'article'. It much more closely resembles another random girl's Sex and the City-esque blog page. Full of hypocrisies and inconsistencies. No offense to you paper; I mean, it gave me a laugh, but wow - if this is considered Asian women's reading material...
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I'm botoxing like crazy waiting around for you Chokie:lmao: Awww, shucks ...I think that's what every guy dreams of hearing from a woman.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Lol I'm sorry but that 'white' guy looks like a cross between Wallace Shawn (inconceivable!) and Gary Coleman (RIP). Then the whole thing with us rebounding on Asian girls and being into toys? What the hell kind of representation is this? Lol This hardly deserves the title of 'article'. It much more closely resembles another random girl's Sex and the City-esque blog page. Full of hypocrisies and inconsistencies. No offense to you paper; I mean, it gave me a laugh, but wow - if this is considered Asian women's reading material... None taken. Well it was an opinionated article based on the writer's experience, but hey I thought I related with her on the whole pros and cons ( the toys and fetish I'll have to reconsider for now).
Bogo123 Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I think there's a movement of sorts with asian guys. I see them dating outside their race more and more. Probably because most of their asian women are being taken by white guys so they have no choice. I just find it funny that asian women want tall and strong men when they themselves are small and petite. Its all proportional.
fishtaco Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I think there's a movement of sorts with asian guys. I see them dating outside their race more and more. Probably because most of their asian women are being taken by white guys so they have no choice. I just find it funny that asian women want tall and strong men when they themselves are small and petite. Its all proportional. It's not that "white guys are taking our Asian women", I could care less what white guys do. If they want Asian chicks, more power to them. My reason for dating non-Asians (and I believe it's pretty common amongst Asian men) is because when I first stepped into the dating arena, I got the same thing from Asian girls as the OP described. So why would I want to approach women that are not interested in me? After dating many different races, I picked my preference - I prefer Latinas, and about half the women I date/hit on/whatever, are Hispanic. To this day, I have only dated a half Chinese, and that's it. No Koreans, Japanese, whatever. I've also dated Filipinas, I like the darker skinned ones, if you consider them Asian, although they are Pacific Islanders I guess. It's really not that big of a deal. If Asian women don't like you, don't date them. It's that simple. Plenty of excellent women of other races to choose from. I'm older now, and I've seen and experienced a lot more. I've noticed the "look down on Asian men" thinking process tend to decrease as Asian women get older. So Asian women of my age (mid 30's) seem to tend to be more open to date Asian men. In fact it caught me by surprise a number of times that Asian women actually acted like as if they found me attractive/interesting. But I've already developed my preferences, I'm still in the habit of not considering Asian women. But I find myself starting to pay attention to them a bit more now, maybe one day I will actually date a full Asian woman. We'll see.
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Asian women who exclusively date white men disgust me. In an unconcious way they are putting their own race down and that's just not cool. I am a white female and would have no problem dating Asian men if they are as tall or taller than me. I am around 5'8"-5'9" so there are not many Asian men above that height. I wouldn't date a white guy that is shorter than me either.
White Dove Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I dated all types and races. I've dated Middle Eastern men who were a waste of time (when I realised it), I dated Asians -- one was great if it wasn't for his snobbish parents and I continued dating Asians until I met a white man that was the best than rest. Would I date Asians again, if say things do not work out between me and my current partner? Yes, sure. Why the hell not? I don't go out looking specifically for white men to date or get married to, however, I do know there are Asian women out there that do this and to me, that is really sad because I hate when people assume ALL Asian women from Thailand, Singapore, Philippines, Malaysia, Cambodia et al are all the same in that case. We are not!
taiko Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 . I've also dated Filipinas, I like the darker skinned ones, if you consider them Asian, although they are Pacific Islanders I guess. . Southeast Asain, the predominated type is Malay, what most see as the "darker ones". Locally the Chinese or Spanish Mestizo (the lighter ones) are the preferred type. While the darker skinned and smaller Negritos and Ate's don't normally get away from their home island or a city squatters slum area as foreign workers or immigrants are seen sort of like Pygmies are in Africa
I'm Batman Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 As an Asian male living in Toronto I see a lot of interracial dating/marriages going on. Was I jealous, yes, am I now? Not so much, bc I'm meeting a lot of Asian girls that want to be with Asian guys. My sister has mentioned that she will never date an asian guy again. Said they lacked physical features i.e. arms, chest, butt etc (which I don't lack, lucky me!) Here's my POV, white guys date Asian women, bc 100 years ago there was white supremacy and Asians were the slaves. The men did the dirty work, while the women cleaned the houses. (k, i'm kidding). But Asian girls, realize this! As an Asian our looks do not reflect our age, we still look young at 50! Gray hairs, beer guts and balding doesn't come until our late 50's, lol. Here's my beef, i'm in my mid-late 20's and what I noticed is my generation and the later generation is losing touch with their culture, and it doesn't help that Asian women are turning towards white dudes. You may look Asian, eat Asian foods, use chopsticks, but if your can't listen or speak Chinese then you're western washed and soon our culture will fade away. When it comes down to Chinese heritage were very prideful people, we teach our children what our parents taught us, and what their parents taught them, etc. We are told to respect our elders and peers, work hard and not talk back. Even though I've dated white girls in the past I've come to realize (after my only trip to HK last year) that I'll only marry an Asian girl. Lastly, I'm starting to see that many Asian girls are realizing there is a loss of culture so they're starting to turn back to Asian guys. It's pretty much a lost cause for the ones that dye their hair blonde and put in contacts, SO UGLY!
TheLoneSock Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 You may look Asian' date=' eat Asian foods, use chopsticks, but if your can't listen or speak Chinese then you're western washed and soon our culture will fade away.[/quote'] Lol dude, China is a nation of over a billion people. Your culture is NOT going away anytime soon.
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Lol dude, China is a nation of over a billion people. Your culture is NOT going away anytime soon. Hahahah, I was just about to say the same thing...
astromantic Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I think I may be the odd one out. I'm Chinese but my family immigrated to Canada when I was very young so I'm raised in a very westernized environment. I have met many asian women in Toronto (chinese, korean, japanese) that will only date caucasian men. They somehow see them as better however... I don't agree with them. I like Asian men, however I look for those just as westernized as myself. I certainly don't like the FOBs, can't really connect with them although I do have a few as friends but I grew up in a neighborhood that had many Chinese kids just like myself, a mix of both east and west, and I am very lucky to find my boyfriend who is a CBC and fairly independent and is even more westernized than me! I want my kids to look Chinese, I want them to be proud of their heritage, I want their grandparents to speak to them in their mother tongue. So I'm the odd one out. I think there are asian women like me out there ... but probably a little rare. I'm proud of who I am and I want that in my children.
I'm Batman Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I think I may be the odd one out. I'm Chinese but my family immigrated to Canada when I was very young so I'm raised in a very westernized environment. I have met many asian women in Toronto (chinese, korean, japanese) that will only date caucasian men. They somehow see them as better however... I don't agree with them. I like Asian men, however I look for those just as westernized as myself. I certainly don't like the FOBs, can't really connect with them although I do have a few as friends but I grew up in a neighborhood that had many Chinese kids just like myself, a mix of both east and west, and I am very lucky to find my boyfriend who is a CBC and fairly independent and is even more westernized than me! I want my kids to look Chinese, I want them to be proud of their heritage, I want their grandparents to speak to them in their mother tongue. So I'm the odd one out. I think there are asian women like me out there ... but probably a little rare. I'm proud of who I am and I want that in my children. This is what I meant to say, lol. I dont' think its that rare actually. My close knit group of friends, my 50/50 asian to every other race in the gym, many couples are CBC Asians. Then there are the all Asian clubs, and the few token white guys standing alone. Times are changing and fads are fading.
astromantic Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I dont' think its that rare actually. My close knit group of friends, my 50/50 asian to every other race in the gym, many couples are CBC Asians. Then there are the all Asian clubs, and the few token white guys standing alone. Times are changing and fads are fading. I think its rare depending on where you live. You and I live in Toronto, I think our geographical location speak volumes.
PeterP82 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I think I may be the odd one out. I'm Chinese but my family immigrated to Canada when I was very young so I'm raised in a very westernized environment. I have met many asian women in Toronto (chinese, korean, japanese) that will only date caucasian men. They somehow see them as better however... I don't agree with them. I like Asian men, however I look for those just as westernized as myself. I certainly don't like the FOBs, can't really connect with them although I do have a few as friends but I grew up in a neighborhood that had many Chinese kids just like myself, a mix of both east and west, and I am very lucky to find my boyfriend who is a CBC and fairly independent and is even more westernized than me! I want my kids to look Chinese, I want them to be proud of their heritage, I want their grandparents to speak to them in their mother tongue. So I'm the odd one out. I think there are asian women like me out there ... but probably a little rare. I'm proud of who I am and I want that in my children. I'm the same way, my family moved to Newfoundland when I was young and been living there since. There are not many Asian family there therefore, I don't have any Asian friends mostly Caucasian friends and only dated Caucasian as well. I recently moved to Alberta and I finding a bit difficult to communicate with FOBs but I do find Asian girls very attractive, just don't know how to approach them or what to talk about As I was reading through this thread about Asian girls never dated Asian guys, I'm starting to get intimidated to approach them now.
Corporate Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Next time, you meet an Asian girl with that kind of attitute, you should say the following: 1) White girl's are so hot. Look at Angelina Julie with those nice big eyes. 2) You really don't see Asian girls with nice bodies like Britney Spears, Pamela Anderson, or Megan Fox. 3) Half Asian girls are so hot when they are mixed with some white in them like that hot girl from Smallville....what's her name again...Kristen something. So hot with those gorgeous eyes.
USMCHokie Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 3) Half Asian girls are so hot when they are mixed with some white in them like that hot girl from Smallville....what's her name again...Kristen something. So hot with those gorgeous eyes. +1. Kristen Kreuk.
monkey00 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I'm sure these girls exist and vice-versa in US states or places where asians are a very tiny minority compared to a white majority. I grew up in NYC, and believe me it has come a long way with interracial dating. In fact the west coast has always been ahead (particularly in SF), nyc is finally catching up after all these decades... due to the gentrification of neighborhoods and the severe melting pot of cultures here. Particularly in Brooklyn, it's quite common to see asian guys with white girls, asian girls with white guys, black guys with white girls/asian girls, black girls with white guys. Maybe for some people deep down they do secretly hate their race, and for some it has to do with values/westernization. And for some, dating their own race is like dating their siblings as some of my Philippino friends have admitted to me themselves, which is why they only date outside their race. You would be surprised how widespread and common interracial relationships are actually. At my company alone (white is of mixed races), every asian person male or female (including me) has a white SO. And I have some white co-workers who have asian SO's also. Personally for me though I have no specific reasons other than the fact that I'm highly westernized and would prefer my mate to be the same and share similar values, so race is not an issue for me. My last ex was an asian who grew up in Chile and spoke Spanish as her first language. I think the the more assimilation someone is exposed to whilst in a different culture, the more likely it will be that they will date outside of their race. I find it to be natural, particularly in the US. After all...based on the census, several decades from now mixed races will be a majority and whites will be a minority.
tami-chan Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Lol dude, China is a nation of over a billion people. Your culture is NOT going away anytime soon. LOL!!!!! This is too funny. You know when you have made it as a people when everyone who "looks like you" are labeled as "Chinese". I cannot even begin to say how many times in my life I have been thought of as Chinese and therefore must know "kung-fu" or must know how to make "chop suey". I always correct them and say "No, I do not know kung-fu but I know karate, as I am Japanese and I do not know what chop suey is but I eat raw fish". Back to the topic : I have never dated an Asian guy but I got married very, very early to my first BF ( now exH ) who is Caucasian and I did not have the chance to date around. I had Asian crushes though and when I was in univ, there were Asian guys who liked me-but I was already married. Now that I am divorced, I just think that being with an Asian guy is just too much work because there is too much to consider-would the family approved of a divorcee? of someone who already has a child, etc.etc.? {Although there is one thing going for me, I know for a fact that Asian families approve of my career ). Not only that, Asian men themselves, would rather be with women who have no kids or been married.
Stung Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Actually, I don't see many Asian guys with girls at all. Every time I think I see one, he turns out to actually be Latino or from the Philipines or something, but never Chinese, Japanese, etc. My girlfriend is unfortunately a bit racist towards Asians. She said that for most girls, being naked with an Asian guy would be a nightmare and that they are just too different. She also said that when girls think of being with a guy of another race they think Latino or Black but thats it. But anyway, I think it was incredibly rude that your date said that stuff knowing that your Asian. Ugh. That's not a reflection of reality, that's the opinion of a racist. For the record, I am not Asian, but I have dated several Asians both male and female and have had two serious Asian boyfriends. I also had a male roommate who was originally from Korea (moved when he was two) and he dated Caucasian and Latina girls almost exclusively.
TaurusTerp Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I think that a vast portion of asian dudes do seem objectively unattractive. Far too many of them need to hit a gym, dress better, and grow some balls. Asian guys should put themselves in the shoes of the other sex and see if they'd find themselves attractive. I'm an asian guy, and honestly I do as well as/better than my white/black/asian friends (forgive the lack of modesty). I'm no Hokie , but I'm in good shape, dress well, and will approach women and don't let rejections get to me. I don't know if this is common among asian males, but also my asian guy friends tend to shut down after being turned down by a girl. They will really take it personally and become depressed and somewhat misogynistic. It's very sad to see. And no, I'm not a self hating asian...I've dated asian girls, have asian friends, and love my culture (although my mandarin is getting kind of crappy...).
White Dove Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 LOL!!!!! This is too funny. You know when you have made it as a people when everyone who "looks like you" are labeled as "Chinese". I cannot even begin to say how many times in my life I have been thought of as Chinese and therefore must know "kung-fu" or must know how to make "chop suey". I always correct them and say "No, I do not know kung-fu but I know karate, as I am Japanese and I do not know what chop suey is but I eat raw fish". I get the same thing all the time too, it's not even funny. It's annoying. I'm Asian and whenever I say that, people always assume I'm Chinese or Thai. People should read up more and know that South East Asia consists of Malay, Chinese, Indian and Eurasian. You can find Malays in Malaysia (people think it's dominated by Chinese ), Indonesia, some parts of Thai and Philippines. That said, some people find it amazing that I know how to use chopsticks better than the Chinese...
fwang Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I am asian(Chinese).Only had 1 boyfriend before who is French. The man I am dating now is also white. But I don't do it on purpose. It's all coincidence. I gotta say, most of Asian guys I met in USA, they don't wanna settle down until 30. Even some of them who are already taken go after me. And, super hot asian guys tend to be with white girls.
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