asian girls who never dated or had asian bf before

[joel]

im on POF dating site and i msg a few girls. i met one asian girl who was born in asia but came to canada young and she told me all the guys she dated are white and all her bfs are white.she never dated an asian guy before or had one as bf. we met up for coffee, but nothing much. why she agreed to meet me up for coffee . who nows. maybe she was bored and wanted a free coffee. im an asian guy. we were looking at movie star magazines and she made a comment on how "you now you never see a really good looking full asian, and if it is they always have white blood in them"(meaning half white half asian). i told her thats not true. blah blah didnt want to argue.

 

i also got a 2 responses back from asian girls from POF datign site who also told me she only date white guys or usually date white guys. what do you take of this. i think its kind of like inferiority complex. one of them also lived in richmond , bc like all her life. i mean i understand if they live in Colorado or some majority white areas,but vancouver,bc and on top of it richmond,bc. hmmm

 

i notice a lot of canadized asian girls or ones who came here very young are into dating white guys only or always. have you met these types before? what do you take of them?

[Corporate]

 

i notice a lot of canadized asian girls or ones who came here very young are into dating white guys only or always. have you met these types before? what do you take of them?

 

They have low selfesteem and deep inner insecurity.

[USMCHokie]

No comment...

[spyyder]

By Asian do you mean Chinese (Japanese, Korean, etc)? If so then I'm sorry bro but what your saying is true. Asian girls just aren't interested in asian guys if they are raised here. Black, white, latino, Indian, etc men all over the world mingle with women of another race, so its not an issue of racism...its just that women don't consider the Asian physique attractive. If you stop separating Asian women with women in general, you will realize that Asian women aren't reserved for Asian guys - I think so many Asian guys don't realize this.

 

I've been all over the world, and there is a lot of interracial mingling going on, and the only type not getting any action are Asian guys. I remember trying online dating a few years ago and 1 of the sites let you tick the races you would be interested in - most profiles chose any, their race only, or any but Asian. Again, I don't think women see Asians attractive, but many of us guys see Asian girls as attractive. I have a friend who ONLY dates Asian girls.

 

I would say Asian guys are like Indian girls in the UK. I've lived in the UK and it's very very common to see white British girls with Indian guys, but I never ever saw a white British guy with an Indian girl. Indian girls are like a no go zone in the UK, just like how Asian guys are a no go zone in the US.

 

Actually, I don't see many Asian guys with girls at all. Every time I think I see one, he turns out to actually be Latino or from the Philipines or something, but never Chinese, Japanese, etc.

 

My girlfriend is unfortunately a bit racist towards Asians. She said that for most girls, being naked with an Asian guy would be a nightmare and that they are just too different. She also said that when girls think of being with a guy of another race they think Latino or Black but thats it. But anyway, I think it was incredibly rude that your date said that stuff knowing that your Asian.

 

I heard Asian guys have better luck in San Francisco, Seattle and Denmark (Europe). Ever fancy some Danish lovin'?

Edited July 3, 2010 by spyyder

[aerogurl87]

Well my boyfriend's from Canada and so if she was raised there and has dated only white guys I'm not that surprised. Most of the population up there is white after all (I think I saw 3 black people the entire two weeks I went to visit my boyfriend a month or so ago). And there's nothing wrong with her being mostly, or only attracted to white guys. I'm black and although I dated two black guys, I'm not really attracted to them. I go for white guys 99% of the time. Maybe where she was raised has something to do with it. She grew up mostly seeing white people, so that's what she became accustomed to and started to like them.

 

With that said, I do think she may have some insecurity issues about her race. I have a friend who is sort of like this. She thinks biracial or light skinned kids are so cute (she's black by the way) but thinks black kids usually come out looking okay. She also refuses to date black guys because according to her, all of them either smoke, are broke with no job, and/or are lazy. I find this funny because her boyfriend, who is white, was all of those things up until a few months ago where he finally got off his butt and got a job. But yeah, it's sad we have some people out there who hate their race.

[USMCHokie]

My girlfriend is unfortunately a bit racist towards Asians. She said that for most girls, being naked with an Asian guy would be a nightmare and that they are just too different. She also said that when girls think of being with a guy of another race they think Latino or Black but thats it. But anyway, I think it was incredibly rude that your date said that stuff knowing that your Asian.

 

 

Ummm...wow...I'm speechless...

[jamal]

Asian women would kill for a white man. Even if he were quadraplegic. I do not mean to sound racist but there is a lot of evidence showing how much Asian people idiolize whites and it is actually a status symbol in such cultures to marry a whiteman. The biggest market for skin lightening cream is Asia (This is a stage black culture was 50 years ago). Asian women are willing to go under the knife for surgery that will make their eyes round. It appears they have very low self esteem. As a black man I can relate to this when I analyze my grandparents generation which believed in white supremacy and suffered from low self efficacy. I am glad during my parents' and my generation "black pride" has become more than just rhetoric. So you have these Asian women literally throwing themselves at white guys.

 

 

I have nothing against dating across race/nationality/culture. What I find shallow is when one resorts to dissing their own race in order to justify why they are dating a different group. An Asian girl who expresses her contempt for Asian men is also indirectly showing contempt for her own dad and other male relatives. Why would I wanna be with someone who finds their own brother or father disgusting?

[Gero]

I have nothing against dating across race/nationality/culture. What I find shallow is when one resorts to dissing their own race in order to justify why they are dating a different group. An Asian girl who expresses her contempt for Asian men is also indirectly showing contempt for her own dad and other male relatives. Why would I wanna be with someone who finds their own brother or father disgusting?

 

I don't really get why people are like this. It probably has to be with how they were brought up or something. I don't know. All I do know is that I see beauty in all races. Although I may be attracted to more women of one race over another, I have never thought that someone was undesirable just because of their race. That's wrong.

[xpaperxcutx]

Ummm...wow...I'm speechless...

 

 

:lmao:

 

Well in your defense, I think you're sexy half naked CHokie.

 

 

OP, I've mostly dated outside my race but from my few dates with asian guys I can say that it's different. Most asian guys are too reserved and shy, and the playboy ones all want to be with white girls. I think for most asian guys, dating an asian girl is easy because they know they have to marry an asian girl in the end, so they don't really take dates seriously.

 

I actually knew someone who had asian gfs most of his life but he still pined after dating a white girl because he thinks all asian girls are the same.

 

I think this same kind of mentality exists for asian females as well, especially in the younger generations. It's not so much as racial worship but most asian women think they can do better outside of their own race. Afterall, the asian stereotype still persists that most asian men are still too feminine and lacking in certain areas.

[TheLoneSock]

An Asian girl who expresses her contempt for Asian men is also indirectly showing contempt for her own dad and other male relatives. Why would I wanna be with someone who finds their own brother or father disgusting?

 

I agree, that's not exactly a trait that screams 'keeper'. I find your first paragraph's information to be a little strange, as I was unaware that this kind of stuff is the norm now of days. Maybe I'm just being naive but I have a hard time believing it. Then again, I've never traveled to the east and have only had a few (Americanized) Asian friends; so I'm not in the position to say it's false.

 

I admire many facets of Asian culture, be it parts of Japanese, Korean, Chinese or Vietnamese, etc. I also believe in everyone having racial pride, I have a lot of pride in my own. So this phenomena is unfortunately one of those things I'd probably have to see to believe, if that makes any sense.

[USMCHokie]

:lmao:

 

Well in your defense, I think you're sexy half naked CHokie.

 

 

Heheh, thanks papercut.

 

I certainly have an opinion on this topic, but I'll keep my mouth shut in order to avoid being ostracized for my views.

[pandagirl]

OK, yes, I've only dated white guys, but it has nothing to do with "hating my race." Give me a break.

[Pfiend101]

my recent Ex was Asian. In her internet profile it specifically told Asian guys not to msg her as she wasn't attracted to them. She also wore contacts that changed her eye color to blue. In the end I dont know what to say about it. She probably wishes she was white.

[xpaperxcutx]

my recent Ex was Asian. In her internet profile it specifically told Asian guys not to msg her as she wasn't attracted to them. She also wore contacts that changed her eye color to blue. In the end I dont know what to say about it. She probably wishes she was white.

 

Geo Lenses are all the rage nowadays.

 

Anyways, look at it this way. A majority of asian guys are skinny and average height. Most of them can even pass for females if they put on a wig and makeup.

 

The average Asian American female grew up with the Brad Pitt/ Hollywood ideal. If not that, then they're otherwise accustomed to seeing more bigger ( perhaps muscular) guys, men who actually act like men rather than men with feminine traits.

 

If there's such a thing as asians hating their own race ( which is an entirely different topic altogether) it has to be the fact that most asian guys are " fobs" or " fresh off the boat".

[Gero]

my recent Ex was Asian. In her internet profile it specifically told Asian guys not to msg her as she wasn't attracted to them. She also wore contacts that changed her eye color to blue. In the end I dont know what to say about it. She probably wishes she was white.

 

I've also seen a lot of white women on dating sites that only list specific races that they are attracted to. I am always surprised when someone totally rules out a specific race for whatever reason.

[Pfiend101]

A little off topic but I think she also wanted a somewhat submissive guy that didnt question her... that definitely wasn't me.

[USMCHokie]

I've also seen a lot of white women on dating sites that only list specific races that they are attracted to. I am always surprised when someone totally rules out a specific race for whatever reason.

 

I actually prefer sites and women who do this...it makes things a lot easier for me and saves me from sending messages to girls who don't want anything to do with Asian guys...

[Gero]

I actually prefer sites and women who do this...it makes things a lot easier for me and saves me from sending messages to girls who don't want anything to do with Asian guys...

 

I just feel weird I guess because they seem racist to me to just come out and say that. I'm white myself, but if I see someone list races that they don't like, I just won't contact them. Even if I am not included on that list, I just feel like they wouldn't be the type of person that I would want to date. That's just the way I see things.

[USMCHokie]

I just feel weird I guess because they seem racist to me to just come out and say that. I'm white myself, but if I see someone list races that they don't like, I just won't contact them. Even if I am not included on that list, I just feel like they wouldn't be the type of person that I would want to date. That's just the way I see things.

 

I totally understand what you're saying, and it certainly says something about a person's character if they willingly exclude entire races from their dating pool. However, I also realize that we definitely don't live in an ideal world, and people will always have their preferences. I respect those preferences and appreciate those who are honest and willing to express their preferences. I see it as similar to how I prefer women who aren't taller than me and possess at least a college degree. It's just another preference...

[yah]

I'm Asian and I do prefer the 'average' Caucasian guy over the 'average' Asian guy. My first bf is Asian, my 2nd bf (ex-fiance) is Caucasian. My current SO is Caucasian as well.

 

I'm going to base my opinion solely on my experiences. I grew up in NYC so there were lots of Asians like Vancouver, and my friends were 50/50 Asian and Caucasian, all American. It has been my experience that while the average Asian guy (that I knew of) is very mature, responsible, family-oriented and respectful they lack a few important traits I want to see: spontaneity/adventure and physical as well as emotional strength. In college I found Asian boys to be very high maintenance. They spent hours spiking up their hair , preferred to drink in Asian frat parties and play computer games or research about their cars (you know, those souped up Hondas ) than go camp in the mountains and live out in the woods for a week. My Asian guy friends wouldn't even know how to survive outside surburbia. On top of that, I wanted someone who could do things like fix a car, replace a tire, build a deck, work with their hands and teach me things. Lastly, I find that Caucasian men have less baggage with their families; they are more independent.

 

My Asian guy friends were fun people, just didn't have the qualities I wanted. They also seemed to stick together too much which is a turn-off too. I don't know, to me it seems like Asian people generally stick together. But this was all in HS/college though.

 

Of course, my opinion my be skewed. I made all these observations by the time I was 22. Then I moved to TX (Asian population too small) and dated my ex-fiance.

 

It is odd that in a place like Vancouver she could not find one single Asian guy (how long is her dating history though? if short, maybe she just didn't come across any Asian guys she liked) she wanted to date.

[D-Lish]

I am a pasty white blonde girl with freckles:laugh:

For every 100 guys that message me on POF, less than 2% are Asian men.

 

I've never had an Asian man approach me in public.

[USMCHokie]

I am a pasty white blonde girl with freckles:laugh:

For every 100 guys that message me on POF, less than 2% are Asian men.

 

I've never had an Asian man approach me in public.

 

 

Ummm, if you could wait about 10 or 15 years and somehow stay the age you are now, I would love to approach you in public!

[Gero]

I'm a pale white guy with light brown hair and I've never had an Asian girl come after me. As a matter of fact, I don't think I have ever had an Asian girl as a friend. Most of them seemed too shy even for me.

 

I've been attracted to some of them though.

[stellaluna]

What is with the asian chick obsession?

Asian chicks can be just as beautiful and just as ugly as any other race. I just enjoy hot women.

[USMCHokie]

What is with the asian chick obsession?

 

Good question...welcome to LS...