crimsonmike Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Last couple weeks have been kinda of a bummer. The thing with the girl I been seein the last 6 weeks flamed out. Well, I figure jump back in the ring. I had three different women give me their number in the past 5 days from POF. I didn't even have to ask for them. They volunteered. Sounds great right? Ha! I'm talking to one and tell her I"m going to the beach for the 4th. She's like, "You should stop on your way and hang out!" I say great. I let her know when I'm comming. She texts to find out if I left yet. I text her back when I leave. She's an hour plus from my house. Well I get all the way down to her town and she texts me and blows me off! Said she had a family emergency right at that exact time. Says she's sorry and will text me later. Of course, she doesn't. After that debacle, I get somethin to eat and check my email at the condo. This very nice looking woman I've emailed a couple times sends me her PN. At this point I've been drinking with my friends down here, so when I text her I forget to id myself. I realize the mistake and text her back. She doesnt' know who I am. I text her again to id myself and she still doesn't know who I am. I just throw the phone down and finnish last night playing drinking games with my buddy and his gf. Now I'm drinking coffee with headache. Not exactly a great way to start a vacation.
Gallaxia Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Not sure why these women would have done this but I have my reservations about POF. And what's a PN?
phineas Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 PN = phone number I think. Lots of times women give out their number just so they can tell other people about all the guys calling her that she isn't interested in. It's an ego feed & when I hear women at work say stuff like this I ask them why they gave out their number if they arn't interested & they get pissed when everyone looks at them & wonders this also. cracks me up.
Gero Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I don't know what to tell you. I haven't met a woman yet that doesn't play games. The ones that say they don't like to play games are usually the worst. I was talking to this one girl on the very same site and she kept coming up with off the wall excuses as to why she couldn't call me or meet. The funny thing is that after I basically blew her off, she would text message me a few days later. Eventually, I just told her straight up in a text that I wasn't interested and that was that. It obviously wasn't going anywhere.
Thermometer Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Maybe that one girl DID have a family emergency. I know it's difficult to believe, but sometimes it happens. I had a family emergency and I had a guy go ballistic on me because of it because he didn't believe me. It didn't bode well for him or a future with him. It was pretty much over after the outburst.
Gero Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Maybe that one girl DID have a family emergency. I know it's difficult to believe, but sometimes it happens. I had a family emergency and I had a guy go ballistic on me because of it because he didn't believe me. It didn't bode well for him or a future with him. It was pretty much over after the outburst. Who's to say, but when there are numerous excuses over the course of a few weeks, you just get a little wary.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Women who show this kind of behavior are doing me a huge favor, and I am better off avoiding them from then on. I don't understand why guys get all butt hurt about it...
Thermometer Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Who's to say, but when there are numerous excuses over the course of a few weeks, you just get a little wary. True. However, I was struggling with a bout of a really serious illness and I had a death in my family and I told this guy it wasn't a good time to be dating. A couple of weeks later, I was back in the same city and online again--truthfully, I don't really even remember talking to him. He went NUTS and was like "Oh, nice lie, b***". Um, okay.
Gero Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 True. However, I was struggling with a bout of a really serious illness and I had a death in my family and I told this guy it wasn't a good time to be dating. A couple of weeks later, I was back in the same city and online again--truthfully, I don't really even remember talking to him. He went NUTS and was like "Oh, nice lie, b***". Um, okay. The boy who cried wolf. So many people these days can't be honest and make excuses to string people along or whatever and so when someone has a serious excuse, the other person has a hard time believing it. I'm sure women run into this too, but being a guy, I know that I have heard some out there excuses from women.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 True. However, I was struggling with a bout of a really serious illness and I had a death in my family and I told this guy it wasn't a good time to be dating. A couple of weeks later, I was back in the same city and online again--truthfully, I don't really even remember talking to him. He went NUTS and was like "Oh, nice lie, b***". Um, okay. And here's the thing, regardless of whether a girl is genuine and sincere or simply lying to me, I'm better off just shrugging it off and moving on. If she was genuine but was truly interested in getting to know me, then it's completely on her to come back to me when she is ready to date. If she just wanted to get rid of me, then fine, so be it, no harm no foul. I wouldn't have talked to her again anyway. If a girl wants to play games, then she can play games with herself until she's ready to pull her head from out of her ass...I have better things to do... I don't understand why guys get all f*cking butt hurt and freak out when they hear this line...and go nuts like you said on the girl, accusing her of this or that...it just screams insecurity, immaturity, and lack of character...
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 The boy who cried wolf. So many people these days can't be honest and make excuses to string people along or whatever and so when someone has a serious excuse, the other person has a hard time believing it. I'm sure women run into this too, but being a guy, I know that I have heard some out there excuses from women. And the way I deal with this is by leaving the ball in the court of the excuse maker. If she's full of sh*t, she won't do anything with the ball and I get to move on. If the excuse was legit and she's truly interested, she'll let me know that she wants to see me again. That way, I don't waste time with bullsh*tters who string guys along with excuse after excuse, and I only have to hear an excuse once before I know to move on.
Serenitynow Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 It's an ego feed & when I hear women at work say stuff like this I ask them why they gave out their number if they arn't interested & they get pissed when everyone looks at them & wonders this also LOL I will call people out like that also. They never expect anyone to question them bluntly like that because usually most people arent so direct, or dont have an interest in asking. Plenty of Fish being a FREE dating site, is a very bad site for finding mature, worthy people to date. You have no idea what the intention of the person is that you are dealing with. I think there are many people on there that really have no intention of ever meeting anyone. They just like the attention they get from emails or texting, but when it comes to meeting, they cancel, and move on to the next person. .
bac Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 (edited) IMO if smth is too good to be truth, it is not what it looks like. As for women's way of thinking, they like to make fun of certain guys because there is nothing else they can do about these guys. The guys want to get what they want easily and effortlessly. If they believe that it is a common way to go, there is no hope to deal with them. But, a girl often can not resist to make fun of them in the ways that you have described. Edited July 3, 2010 by bac
Serenitynow Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 That way, I don't waste time with bullsh*tters who string guys along with excuse after excuse, and I only have to hear an excuse once before I know to move on. Same here, thats why I refuse to get get in a text battle with a girl I havent met yet. I will call , if she doesnt answer, I leave a voicemail. If she doesnt reply, than I know whats up. Although there are WAY too many women that wont call back at first ON PURPOSE just to start the game. There are far too many females on here that have admitted to the fact that they make themselves unavailable on purpose, to garner more attention. The sad thing is, they will probably teach their daughters to act the same way, as someone has obviously taught them. And the games will continue. .
PhillyDude Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Women know that using an excuse like a "family emergency" is a convienet way out of a situation because most people won't question anyting having to do with family. It's actually a POPULAR excuse to break a date-lol
Diezel Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Maybe that one girl DID have a family emergency. I know it's difficult to believe, but sometimes it happens. I had a family emergency and I had a guy go ballistic on me because of it because he didn't believe me. It didn't bode well for him or a future with him. It was pretty much over after the outburst. She said she'd contact him after she dealt with it, but still didn't have the common courtesy to do so... Explain that one now.
Thermometer Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 But if she's looking to get rid of you, why do you care? You don't want a girl who doesn't want to be with you anyway. I don't want to date a guy who's making excuse after excuse, so why do you want a girl who's doing the same thing? Get over it, move on. Getting angry isn't really going to help your case.
Thermometer Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 She said she'd contact him after she dealt with it, but still didn't have the common courtesy to do so... Explain that one now. Maybe it wasn't the first thing on her mind. Some random guy from a dating site isn't always what we're thinking of first thing when something happens.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I will call , if she doesnt answer, I leave a voicemail. If she doesnt reply, than I know whats up. Although there are WAY too many women that wont call back at first ON PURPOSE just to start the game. There are far too many females on here that have admitted to the fact that they make themselves unavailable on purpose, to garner more attention. .... And the games will continue. . And the funny thing is, many women who do this will think that men are the ones who are playing games when all we do is call them, leave a voicemail, and wait for them to return our damn call. If we don't keep calling them, they'll insist that we're the ones who aren't interested and wonder why guys keep suddenly disappearing...
Gero Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 But if she's looking to get rid of you, why do you care? You don't want a girl who doesn't want to be with you anyway. I don't want to date a guy who's making excuse after excuse, so why do you want a girl who's doing the same thing? Get over it, move on. Getting angry isn't really going to help your case. If it was just one person doing this, it wouldn't be a big deal, but most guys have to deal with dozens of these types of women and it just gets old and tiresome. When someone strings you along and acts interested but keeps blowing you off it's annoying. It's not because you want to be with that girl, but it's because you just wasted a bunch of your time with a girl that had no interest in you to begin with and knew this from the start.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 She said she'd contact him after she dealt with it, but still didn't have the common courtesy to do so... Explain that one now. She wasn't interested enough. If you are interested in someone, you will be thinking of them...maybe not always, but he/she will be on your mind and chances are you won't "forget" to make contact...even if it takes a little while...
Diezel Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Maybe it wasn't the first thing on her mind. Some random guy from a dating site isn't always what we're thinking of first thing when something happens. Did you NOT read what I said? And what the OP posted? She said she'd text him later, and then NEVER did. It might not be the FIRST thing on your mind, but if a girl drove out to see me and I had a family emergency and had to cancel on her, I'd at least have the decency to let her know that everything was okay and that maybe we can reschedule at some other time. Of course, that's taking into consideration that I had interest in meeting that person in the first place. If I wasn't interested, I'd just do everything SHE did and then not text back at all.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 If it was just one person doing this, it wouldn't be a big deal, but most guys have to deal with dozens of these types of women and it just gets old and tiresome. When someone strings you along and acts interested but keeps blowing you off it's annoying. It's not because you want to be with that girl, but it's because you just wasted a bunch of your time with a girl that had no interest in you to begin with and knew this from the start. Not in my experience...maybe I've just been lucky...or perhaps your people picker needs a little fixing...
Thermometer Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 If you want me to be perfectly honest, sometimes I blow off guys because of their reactions when you say no. If you say no to a guy, some of them go apesh*t. They insult you, tell you you're stupid or immature for not giving them a chance, etc., etc. It's because so many men can't take rejection that I do this...I can't speak for other women.
Gero Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Not in my experience...maybe I've just been lucky...or perhaps your people picker needs a little fixing... Well, I am happy for you. I wish I had such luck.
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