TheGemologist Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 We have been together for over 10yrs. We have been married for almost 7-8yrs. But my Wife has changed drastically. She is not the same person I fell in love with. She cherished our time spent together and enjoyed being with me and our children(just dogs and cats right now). Now, she no longer really cares. She won't even help take care of them anymore even. She spends no time with me at all, her husband. The house if falling down around us because she doesn't care. I am severely disabled and can not do much but I do more then I am supposed to, shh. don't tell the doctors. But nothing is ever good enough for her anymore. Buy her nice things and she neglects them and they get ruined and/or broken. We do nothing together aside from 1-2x/mth to go get groceries. When she has off work on the weekends she sleeps all day every day, doles that every time she is off of work period! Then gets pissed off and nasty when you try to wake her up! Yet her work calls and she will jump up grab the phone, get dressed and be there in the blink of an eye! Same deal every time I want us to go do something as a family, she's too tired, or hurts, or doesn't feel like going anywhere. Her work calls and suddenly feels great, gets dressed, and in she goes! Love life!? What love life!? There isn't one! Maybe once every 4mths or more. And then it is more of a hormone thing then "making love". We don't even have a friendship anymore. Our relationship consists of what distant relatives might have. Speak in passing for a few casual minutes and nothing more. We don't even sleep in the same bed, heck, not even in the same room! We have our own beds in our own rooms, by her choice, not mine!!! I am basically a prisoner in the room and sometimes house most of the time, since I can not drive much or anything due to the disability. She cares not. I have begged her just to get me out of the house to go do something, like take pics as I love photography. Yet, she won't even do that! Hasn't in going on 2yrs now! Drop me at the lake fishing? Nope, 2x in the past 2yrs. Meanwhile she goes on trips to Florida to see the Film park thinggy with work as a year end party they have. Goes to Casinos and such with work and other party like stuff many many times per year. Gets out and runs around and sees ppl daily. Yet keeps me penned up here at house not able to go anywhere nor do anything. I can't take it any longer. She takes me for total granted and neglects me bog time! I've tried everything from romance, to cooking gourmet meals for her, to breakfast in bed, you name it, I have tried it! Even went to Marriage Counselor. But she just had a "breakdown" in there the first time. But was fine 10mins after left there!! Then "fixed" things prior to the next appt. and went in and basically lied and played a game how everything was great and fine and on its way to being fixed. So he dismissed us for no longer needing any more appts. Well, not even 48hrs after that everything right back to the way it was but only even worse now! Try to even talk to her about things and she just either ignores me or runs to her room and goes to sleep or just leaves. Doesn't want to be bothered with it apparently. I just don't know what to do a anymore. I've exhausted my ideas, and attempts and fixing things. But I can not control her side of it and it won;t work one sided, sadly. What am I to do? Thanks in advance.
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