CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I was recently put in the friend zone and I reacted by simply avoiding her and not talking to her. I have used this before on a woman and it has always work. Women just can't stand the silent treatment it drives them crazy. We would go to the same book club and recently I asked her for a ride. On the day when she was suppose to pick me up for a ride I canceled it and said that because of with work (total BS) I decided to go a book club that meets on a different day. Here is the text I got back and the beginning made me laugh! She responded "oh...OK... well if you do ever need a ride on Tuesdays (if u come back to that group) just let me know! See u Sunday. I like how there's a little bit of her being unsure of what I said at the beginning of the text. This text sounds pleasant enough, but this woman has always been manipulative and I have had enough and I am turning the tables. She wants me as the buddy or called in some circles 'Captain Save a Hoe'. Use my money, listen to her talk about boyfriends, no enough is enough. Just want to know if anyone has ever used the silent treatment on a woman because it always seems to work?
TaraMaiden Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 So lying and being manipulative yourself works for you, does it? Nice. I'd actually written a long post, but you know what? I can't be arsed. Grow up. It's not funny, and it's not clever.
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 You can't generate attraction from nothing. But you can hurt someone who perceives you as a friend, by withdrawing.
Woggle Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Men like the ones you describe are the useful idiots of the dating world.
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 It be dishonest for me to remain friends with her and be attracted to her. I understand what your saying, but that allows a woman to get all the benefits of having a man around them. I hate to be cold about this, but I have to drawn the line with women. I will be friendly, but I want a romantic relationship not a platonic relationship. I have enough friends already!
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Y'all dont get some chicks be trying to play dudes for fools, and toy with their emotions. He simply turned the tables and is Acting like an azzhole. Doesnt mean he is one, means that he's giving her a taste of her own medicine. Yeah he could take the high road and not engage her, but maybe something inside him has snapped and this is his twisted desire to hurt her back manifesting itself. He got two choices. live and let bygones be bygones. or become a jerk and jerk women around lying to their faces, toying with them. Most of them like playa's and jerks because they think they can tame him. That's the truth. No woman has loved a man simply because he was a "nice guy" they crave bad boys. simple as that.
Cracker Jack Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Don't do that. You'd be better off just not talking to her anymore. From now on, don't allow a woman to talk about her relationship/past relationships in your presence. Just try to change the subject, or outright tell them you don't want to talk about that. It'll get the point across.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 No. I've been the victim of the silent treatment and it was irksome. My former longterm g/f would cause a fight and not see how she was wrong. The silent treatment would last until she'd be struck by my tolerance of it and often her realization that she jumped to the wrong conclusion and voiced it in a way which would make me angry and loud in my defense. It was a pain in the azz situation which would happen too frequently. She was really head strong and unconcerned witht the cosequences of her rash judgementality--and another one who seemed incapable of learning her unrtunate pattern and trying to take responsibility to fix it. She was the kind who would say "I said I'm sorry, what more do you want?" The answer is always the same "I don't want you to say you're sorry, I want you to BE sorry". I loved her except for this quirk and had it not wore so much on us, I probably would have married her.
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 It sounds easy,but these women play mind games like crazy!
TaraMaiden Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 They only succeed because you let them. Your mind is locked away, between your ears. People can only access your mind if you listen - and play into it. if you want to change the way people treat you - that's your call.
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Example A: Guy doesn't actively pursue girl, just hopes that by becoming her friend, she will see him as someone worth dating. Girl sees guy as a friend and treats him as such. Guy gets pissed off and walks. In the above example, guy hasn't made his interest known and got friendzoned, since he portrayed himself as a friend. The guy has no right to be angry since he was the manipulative party. -------------------------------------------------------------- Example B: Guy actively pursues girl where she keeps stringing him along but has no intention of ever dating him. Attention whore alert. Run for your life! -------------------------------------------------------------- Example C: Guy actively pursues girl and when she friendzones him, remains her friend since he thinks he can show what a great guy he is so she'll fall in lust with him. In this example, guy wants more but consents to less so he's given less. He has no reason to be angry with the girl since she was honest about her intentions to him. I agree that the guy should walk, not as a means to hurt or attempt to generate interest that's not there but because the two aren't getting what they both want from each other. If she's a friend, be considerate and give her an explanation. ----------------------------------------------------------------
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 I don't know her long enough to be her friend and plus I would rather have her have told me it was just not working apposed to this lets be friends crap!
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Did you make your interest known by asking her out?
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Yes I did I asked her out. I made it very clear with her. We went on two dates.
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Okay, now I'm confused. Refer back to the examples I provided. Which one is your situation?
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 LOL. even if he had probably told her, it wouldnt have made a difference. Girls know within the first 5 mins. whether they want to screw you or not. It's just that special breed that keep you around in the friend zone like a little damn puppy that they want to pet when THEY need comfort. but your are not afforded the same... Carl is right in what he's doing. Do i wish he could just screw other females and not care about this particular chick. yep. which is what he should do. Anytime she asks to hang out, I made plans. see you later. simple as that. If she's playing games, you hang out on your timetable, not hers.
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 But she's dated you twice. Or are you dating and she's not putting out?
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 I am not even asking for anything yet and this woman is telling me see is busy for the entire month. What kind of crap is that and when I use to text her she wouldn't even text back. I would try and talk with her and she would be very short.
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Got it. You don't have to be a friend. She's low interest. Move on.
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 ...Like i said carl, screw other females and keep this one at a distance. next time she calls you, You wanna go hang out. nah, i makde plans. I'm gonna be busy for the next month. LOL. see what i mean. Dont let this chick perceive you having your wrapped around her finger. She isnt worth it. I've been there too many times.
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Its more then just low interest its flat out manipulation!
Cracker Jack Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Yeah, CB is on the money. At this point, it just doesn't matter. Don't allow it to make you bitter--just don't focus on her anymore. It's that simple.
threebyfate Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 No one can manipulate you unless you allow them to. In thinking about her, planning withdrawal as a way to "get back" at her or generate interest, you're playing her game of manipulation. Whether she's manipulating you or not, move on. Out of sight, out of mind.
Author CARL45 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Yeah buts its her attempts at trying to get my attention that is annoying!
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