prayingshecomesback Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 WOW. Cant believe it is 1 year since the day that changed my life forever - FOR THE BEST. I have met the love of my life and we have been dating for a month and half. Facebook official and all. I know we will end up getting married. I went through the worst heartbreak, brutal breakup you will ever go through. Dated a girl for 3 years, I was 30 she was 29. I proposed to her and she said no and she left me for another man. NOW...I have the most beautiful, intelligent, funny, passionate, caring, intimate, loving girl you can ever ask for. And she is madly in love with me. 1 million times better than my ex on so many levels. Funny how life is...if I wouldnt have worried about all the stupid crap and acted crazy it would have been so much easier. Thank you Lord for saving me from that psycho beatch and delivering the love of my life to me. I will have faith in you from now on!!
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Glad to hear it! I see a pattern emerging with our one year folks...who's next...?
ALombard Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I agree with YYY2010. I mean in all honesty congratulations man I hope everything works out. But take it slow. But one thing to YYY2010, sometimes you just know. A close friend of mine married a girl he had only been dating for 2 months. It's been about 4 years now and they are still very happy. Life will surprise you sometimes.
LoveTruthChaos Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 sometimes you just know. And sometimes you just know that it's not going to work too. I knew from the word go that my ex was not 'the one'. Yet, fate most definitely brought us together...for us to learn lessons from. I guess I should stop b*tching how heartbroken I am...coz the day he left, he did me a favour
Author prayingshecomesback Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Thanks guys. I will admit... It was a struggle. Many tears, many dates, and many roller coaster of emotions. The grief was unbearable at times. It got easier over time but now i am overcome with joy that I have met the love of my life. Stay strong and stay in NC. I am at 1 year NC and it helped me heal and move on to something much better. That is the biggest piece of advise that I can give. stay NC and don't ever give up hope!!
Author prayingshecomesback Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 I think I know after a month and a half because I found myself and I found what I don't want after the relationship with my ex. I am madly in love with this girl and so is she. So many things in common and I just have that feeling.
McGrupp Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 20th September 2009, 1:55 PM #3 prayingshecomesback Established Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 119 I know man. It sucks. I have my good days and my bad days. I have been on dates with really attractive girls but they just dont compare to my ex. It hurts so much. Weekends are the worst. I keep saying time will heal but I dont think I will ever get over this. Deep down in my heart I know its over and I will never see or talk to her again. I am not going to call her or contact her. Just going to keep praying and hoping that her heart softens. She is stubborn as hell though. Self esteem is low today. I bet she is having the time of her life right now and is not even thinking or caring about me. Sucks. glad to hear your back
spriggig Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Twelve years ago, I told a friend, "I'd be stupid NOT to marry this girl!" Uh, yeah well, I'm filing for divorce next month. If only I knew then what I know now. This: It takes as long as 18 to 24 months for the "honeymoon phase" to wear off. Since none of my previous relationships lasted no more than three years, I didn't really get the meaning of this. You can coast for a year or two and then when the relationship ends, you don't think too much about what you could have done better, you just blame the girl and move on. I can almost guarantee you that you messed up a lot in your previous relationship but are mostly oblivious to what you did and you are likely on the same path right now but can't see it. If you haven't read it, pick up "Light Her Fire". This is the perfect time to read it, it's full of tips on the little things that keep a relationship strong. You don't need it now, but you will soon enough and having it to refer to will be immensely helpful to you. Also, you can search Gunny's posts for his reading list and gain even more insight to what is in store and how to avoid the pitfalls. Good luck.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 Really happy for you I have also fallen in love again and never thought I would, early days for me and I want to take things day by day which upsets him a bit as I can't look ahead too far anymore, I don't know what the future will bring but for now I am happy. All the best to you WOW. Cant believe it is 1 year since the day that changed my life forever - FOR THE BEST. I have met the love of my life and we have been dating for a month and half. Facebook official and all. I know we will end up getting married. I went through the worst heartbreak, brutal breakup you will ever go through. Dated a girl for 3 years, I was 30 she was 29. I proposed to her and she said no and she left me for another man. NOW...I have the most beautiful, intelligent, funny, passionate, caring, intimate, loving girl you can ever ask for. And she is madly in love with me. 1 million times better than my ex on so many levels. Funny how life is...if I wouldnt have worried about all the stupid crap and acted crazy it would have been so much easier. Thank you Lord for saving me from that psycho beatch and delivering the love of my life to me. I will have faith in you from now on!!
GrayClouds Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 (edited) I have met the love of my life and we have been dating for a month and half. AND I know we will end up getting married. I do wish you all the best, but understand you are feeling the rush of new romance and so is she. It is not until life get routine and people start really "being themselves" will their true nature show. That holds the same for you as well as her. So enjoy, but be careful not to do not put anyone on a pedestal were real people can not live. And do not base your happiness on a relationship. Being cured is not finding the person of your dreams it learning you are that person with or without someone else. Edited July 5, 2010 by GrayClouds
spriggig Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 I hope the OP sees that he came to the right place. If he really want's this new relationship to work, of course he does, then he needs people to pull him out of the fog a little to help him prepare for what everyone here knows is ahead. The reason for the fog is to blind you both and drive you toward making a baby, that is how our species moves forward. That's all well and good if that is what you both want. But once the fog lifts in a couple of years, one or both of you could realize that this relationship isn't nearly as strong as you thought--as well you know, OP, that happens a lot. You're going to need all the help you can get at that time and laying the groundwork now is a very good idea.
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